[MANic]

The thrill wears off and it becomes no different to the mindless mechanical tedium of eating or relieving oneself - necessary and mildly pleasurable but no more.

I was not prescient enough to ever contemplate a scenario where an abundance of women would still leave a deep unfulfilled void in my inner being, perhaps due to the previous paucity of women in my life.

can the sagacious OG's of the forum prescribe a cure for this malaise?

[dallasguy]

You have become a manwhore. Settle down with a nice girl and start a family.

[MANic]

you reckon? I was thinking about getting more actively involved in my community. I doubt I'll be able to provide the stable good home based on traditional values a kid or wife deserves (I think I've descended too far down the rabbit hole of degeneracy at this point) .

[General Stalin]

Stop using women for simply sex and actually bond with them and start a real relationship where you enjoy each other beyond just the bedroom.

Edit: if you're talking about passtimes in general then I suppose find a new hobbies/interest. Create art, learn an instrument, go hunting/fishing, get more involved at the gym, community involvement, etc.

[Lexington Patrick]

Dallas is right. Start a family. Reproduction is the best thing you can do for your country against socialism

[RatInTheWoods]

(12-05-2016 01:49 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  

Stop using women for simply sex and actually bond with them and start a real relationship where you enjoy each other beyond just the bedroom.

Edit: if you're talking about passtimes in general then I suppose find a new hobbies/interest. Create art, learn an instrument, go hunting/fishing, get more involved at the gym, community involvement, etc.

The good General is right.

Women can be so much more than a set of glands to masterbate into.

Finding and playing with the right one can be awesome.

If you involve feelings/emotions in the sex, its 100 times better.

[Cattle Rustler]

I guess you can always go Dubai duece on them.

[Lime]

Consider jerking off, aren't you tired of that after all those years? No, you keep feel the urge and keep doing it.

Same with sex.

Sex is important though, but it's not end all be all.

[Rawmeo]

Forget jearking off - if you're in need of sex, replace your hand by a nice, warm pussy.

Anyway, it seems like you've come to a point where you might be looking to settle down. That's what I feel from your case.

[Suits]

Have you tried a threesome yet?

[cascadecombo]

Surely a clever human such as yourself can come up with things in order to bring excitement back to the bedroom. I'm not quite sure what it is, but I hear the young ones talk about pegging. You could try that.

[wi30]

Go a month or two without sex then come back and tell us how lame it is.

[John Michael Kane]

(12-05-2016 01:48 PM)MANic Wrote:  

you reckon? I was thinking about getting more actively involved in my community. I doubt I'll be able to provide the stable good home based on traditional values a kid or wife deserves (I think I've descended too far down the rabbit hole of degeneracy at this point) .

I'm a beliver in God, raised in a good Catholic family. Hasn't stopped me from being a sinner when it comes to any number of sins that go against my faith: Pre-marital sex, porn, masterbation, etc. I'm not proud of my past, but I've worked hard and been largely successful in no longer pursuing those empty lifestyles. I strong suggest you find a great church and find the peace of confession and reading of scripture. I know the feeling when sex is just an empty motion. We crave for something higher. I know that my mission is to find a great woman to have a family with, as the world desperately needs men willing to sacrifice and lead the next generation. If you find faith, you can realize that God will forgive you if you forgive yourself.

Don't lose hope.

[DRE]

I know OP is getting a lot of shit, but I am on board with him to some extent. I think there needs to be some sort of balance. I went on a huge spree in November and so far this month where I have been having sex with a new girl every 2.5 days while working a full time job (60 hours) and working some weekends. I even pulled a Barney Stinson perfect week at one point. While it was entertaining for me and gave me some satisfaction, there is definitely a point in which the ROI decreases or at least stagnates. My solution is actually to bypass easy sex with 6s or 7s and focus solely on 8-9s and just keep 2-3 in rotation. When you limit the number of chicks, you can actually spend more meaningful time with them. Then, if another catches your fancy you can always trade up, but instead of the constant hunt being the objective, you can take some time to relax a bit.

Of course, there have been other times in my life when I was in a slump and would have easily taken a 6, so it may be one of those "the grass is always greener on the other side" things. Moderation is key in my opinion, however.

[Lime]

Sorry I wasn't right when using the word 'consider'.

But in the same way you keep jerking off all your life, you will also have sex until old age. It is not giving ecstacy in day to day life but sex is important for the mind I think.

[DeusVult]

(12-05-2016 01:40 PM)dallasguy Wrote:  

You have become a manwhore. Settle down with a nice girl and start a family.

This. Find yourself a decent woman. Don't listen to VirginTOW propaganda.

[kirdiesel]

(12-06-2016 02:47 AM)DRE Wrote:  

My solution is actually to bypass easy sex with 6s or 7s and focus solely on 8-9s and just keep 2-3 in rotation. When you limit the number of chicks, you can actually spend more meaningful time with them. Then, if another catches your fancy you can always trade up, but instead of the constant hunt being the objective, you can take some time to relax a bit.

This has been the solution to that feeling for me as well.

When you increase the quality you enjoy the girl 10x more. I am not pulling 8 and 9s all day but 6s and 7s are fairly easy to get and when you have too much one of one thing and its easy to get it loses its novelty.

Running a FWB relationship also increases the enjoyment of sex as well since you are actually somewhat friends with these girls and enjoy doing things with them instead of just booty calls.

[kartik13]

The key should be to seek fulfillment with women instead of chasing ideals of what your sexuality/relations with women should be. Find women that are organically attracted to you, find women that are maybe into similar interests, find women that you just genuinely like to be around, and try to build some type of intimate companionship (not talking "friend-zone") that makes it more then just sex. Even if you don't "love" the woman, try find a love of the moment, love for her as a human being, or some passion that you can ignite. Sexuality is a lot more then just sticking your dick in a hole. Try exploring your intimate/passionate side and seek fulfillment instead of just chasing some frivolous superficial goal. Always remember that its quality > quantity.

[realologist]

Find new girls, take a week off from sex. The key is to making gaming a literal game. Make it fun, enjoy the chase, enjoy the time with the girl and you are much more likely to enjoy the sex.

[churros]

OP's clock is ticking.

[vinman]

(12-05-2016 01:38 PM)MANic Wrote:  

The thrill wears off and it becomes no different to the mindless mechanical tedium of eating or relieving oneself - necessary and mildly pleasurable but no more.

I was not prescient enough to ever contemplate a scenario where an abundance of women would still leave a deep unfulfilled void in my inner being, perhaps due to the previous paucity of women in my life.

can the sagacious OG's of the forum prescribe a cure for this malaise?

It's really simple. Make it a a point to only fuck women that you like. I mean chicks that you think are decent enough to hangout with. When I was in a LTR relationship I was always up for side pussy. Then when I was single I had a few misfires. The common thread was I didn't like the bitches. So, now I make it a point to bang chicks I like.

[Ogunn]

(12-05-2016 01:38 PM)MANic Wrote:  

The thrill wears off and it becomes no different to the mindless mechanical tedium of eating or relieving oneself - necessary and mildly pleasurable but no more.

I was not prescient enough to ever contemplate a scenario where an abundance of women would still leave a deep unfulfilled void in my inner being, perhaps due to the previous paucity of women in my life.

can the sagacious OG's of the forum prescribe a cure for this malaise?

Mainc I cant tell from your post if you have hit the level of where you literally have more women coming at you than you have time to see. If that is the case, instead of focusing on quantity you should start screening for quality.

Focus on the women that are bringing more to the table than just sex. IE does she cook and clean for you? Does she make you laugh? Do you genuinely enjoy being around her when your dick is not inside of her? Does she do nice things for you out of the blue without you asking? These are some of things that separate the wheat from the chaff when it comes to women.

Even if you havent gotten to the point were you have an overabundance of women. Your main focus should always be on developing your lifestyle.

Work on your career or business. Money is not everything and it will not make you happy. However more money gives you more options. So work on growing that bankroll with the objective of building passive and or location independent income.

Grow your social circle. Get involved in hobbies. Make friends with people that share similar hobbies and interests. As your circle grows you will organically meet women with similar interests. These women will probably keep you interest longer than your standard pump and dump chics.

Start traveling more internationally. Some of your hobbies might be the type you do when you travel to another country. IE photography, surfing, diving, hiking, mountain biking etc. Travel to places that interest you where you can engage in your hobbies. On these trips you are sure to meet a wide variety of women from all over the world. The wide range of looks bodies types, personalities and cultures is such that I think it would be very hard for any man to get tired of all that variety.

Never make a woman or women the center of your life. Do not depend on women to bring you happiness. Only you can do that through an awesome lifestyle. Once you accomplish that women become the icing on the cake!

[RatInTheWoods]

(12-06-2016 01:40 AM)wi30 Wrote:  

Go a month or two without sex then come back and tell us how lame it is.

Actually this is a great point!

Whenever I get sick of women and pussy, I swear off it for a while.

OMG in a few weeks you remember why you put up with their shit.

As my mate says, "if they didn't have pussies they would be stacked 12 high at the dump"

[MANic]

Thanks, kind sirs! Some solid advice. I definitely envisage a good few of these invaluable suggestions working. I will try an implement the following immediately:

1. Abstain for sex for 2 weeks in the hope it will serve as some form of a reboot.
2. Actively seek quantity over quality. This has been a considerable problem for me to be honest. It started off by me initially having no looks-based standards when I tried to build confidence (I'm talking obese hogs and easy ghetto chicks - very easy I literally had to walk up and start making out with them despite having no game, this even happened occasionally with day game so you can imagine how poor it was). I still carry many of those scars. Young 'UN's should be warned about the psychological perils of slumming it - thankfully I was never caught by my social circles.
Then I gradually upped looks requirements to the point where the chicks were legitimately hot and capable of getting any men they wanted but who I had little in common with and who lack the ability to carry on conversations outside the ambit of of popular culture and crass vanity.
3. Be more productive outside - I've neglected many aspects outside of the game, gym and personal grooming. I've been meaning to enrol for a doctorate and will hopefully do so next year.

Thanks again for the sound advice and I shall keep you all informed of progress

[Roardog]

It's about the quality mate and being fulfilled in other areas of your life.
I did a similar thing to you when I came out of a very long term relationship. I went and banged anything with a pulse with very little regard for looks and I got burnt out very quickly.
From there I focused on increasing the quality of the girls I was banging and while this lowered my hit rate it made the successes much sweeter. I also cut girls very quickly once I feel like I am using them as a glorified masturbation hole. As soon as I start wishing a girl would leave straight after sex it's time to cut her from the roster, no point continuing to bang her just because I can, it is unfulfilling.
So now I keep a main girl I do relationship like stuff with and a roster/harem of 3 or 4 other girls who come over and bang but who I also don't mind chilling with afterwards.