[TheDuncan]

Been with a girl for 5 months now, late 20's, she is great to me, will do anything I ask of her and is always there for me in more ways than one, she is a little clingy but not in a terrible way, I gotta say we are having a great relationship thus far.

A few things though, I was able to bed her easily which was a red flag for me but I am good looking guy, know game and I would personally say I have a higher SMV than her, not that shes bad or anything but I would rate myself higher.

Anyway she is very good in bed, we have great sex and she obviously knows what shes doing, she has also told me some stories of guys she slept with, now its not like she went into detail or gave names or shit like that but she isnt shy about sex at all, of course I brushed it off and was non judgemental about it but it made me feel a little uncomfortable inside for some reason.

Now from so many articles and others on this forum have said, follow your gut instincts, do I feel she has had a slutty past? Probably, do I think she would cheat on me or has, anything is possible but My gut tells me she hasnt and wont at least with how attached she is to me at this moment.

Am I overthinking all this? We are having a great relationship but I wonder sometimes, how many guys have plowed this chick in her lifetime and she I be worried about potential cheating? Once a slut always a slut?

Im not going to ruin something good we have over some insecurity but it does make me wonder and I am cautious at the very least.

[General Stalin]

So do you want a girl who is fun in bed or do you want a virgin? You can't have both.

Don't let the blood in the water here in the forum make you look down on girls who have been with a few menfewhe default answer is always go with your gut. You say things are great, you don't think she'd fuck around on you, and you don't want something trivial like that to ruin the good thing you got going: so don't.

You've probably been with your share of females. Don't let her sexual experience intimidate you. If it makes you grossed out that she may have been run through a lot then that's something you likely will not get over, but if like you say it's not such a big deal then don't let it bother you so much.

[MajorStyles]

(10-27-2016 10:34 PM)TheDuncan Wrote:  

Am I overthinking all this? We are having a great relationship but I wonder sometimes, how many guys have plowed this chick in her lifetime and she I be worried about potential cheating? Once a slut always a slut?

I dated a girl in my early twenties that I knew was a slut (she let me plow her in the anus on our first date). I never questioned it though because I was suffering from beta oneitis.

Several years into the relationship, I found out that she had a group of local guys (five or so) run a train on her repeatedly. I practically vomited in my mouth; the relationship was over for me at that moment. There I was - walking around a small town with her - and the guys who gang banged her were probably chuckling at me as they passed by.

What the eyes don't see, the heart don't feel. Just hope that your eyes never see...

[GlobalMan]

I don't find it universally true, in the U.S. at least, that a girl who is enthusiastic or "good" in bed has necessarily had an enormous amount of past dudes. These days, even girls who I know for sure haven't had many guys before still seem to know what to do, or work hard at least. Hell, Cosmo tells them to try a finger in the ass.

I can recall many examples of this, a recent one being a 26 y/o small town Christian girl who had been with two guys in her entire life, she suggested/initiated the gagging on my cock via laying on her back with head over side of bed, the second time we met.

Ease of bang with a girl who is truly attracted to you isn't really a great indicator of her past. You'll need more data, beyond how easy it was to bang her, if this is something that's bothering you.

Only you can decide if it's a problem, but it doesn't seem to be from what you wrote. If you are happy with things then just carry on, as General Stalin said.

[SlickyBoy]

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she has also told me some stories of guys she slept with,

Ok, how did this even come up? And though you say she didn't go into detail, well, what kind of story about sex could it be, without detail?

I could see that making you a bit wary, but like others said more or less, don't let it bother you if you're still having fun. Now if you want to get serious you might need a re-evaluation. Be sure to examine Thutmosis's 24 signs, and the 26 more signs, and be honest in your assessment.

[Travesty]

Your gut is your best friend. It doesn't lie to you, and it doesn't have an ego, agenda, or self-projection to cast on others.

Your gut is God and Nature whispering in your ear.

These guys giving you options above me, I don't know what the hell they are talking about.

It's over cut her off. That vomit stomach feeling and pierced ego every time you think about it is a waste of time and life.

[Wince]

I was in a similar situation, we met on tinder. She went for a 2 month OE and one month into it had cheated. Everything was great until then.

Obviously if your girl is around then it's probably less of s problem. Ultimately all you can do is be prepared for its possibility, and trust until proven otherwise. If her cheating really effects you emotionally past a day or two to process then you have bigger issues.

She may cheat, but that's her loss. Any girl can cheat, slut or not.

Tldr yes you're over thinking, enjoy the fun

[TheDuncan]

Were just talking about public places we have had sex at, its not like she brought it up out of no where, she said when she was 22 she used to bang a coworker at the resturant they worked at, I have done this myself so I dunno why her saying that made me feel a little uncormfortable.

As far as her cheating, I am 99% sure she isnt, I am not naive but I think we have a good thing going and she is more scared of losing me than her, again Im not naive and letting my guard down but when it comes to gut Im not worried too much there, not to mention the only people she is around is me and her family and always wants to be up my ass.

I can just tell she has a good amount of experience and maybe its an insecurity on my part.

[Jungle]

(10-27-2016 11:08 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  

So do you want a girl who is fun in bed or do you want a virgin? You can't have both.

Don't let the blood in the water here in the forum make you look down on girls who have been with a few...

Don't let her sexual experience intimidate you. If it makes you grossed out that she may have been run through a lot then that's something you likely will not get over.

I have a different view, General Stalin. The number of men a woman has been with is not indicative of how good they are in bed. Yes there is some truth in the aphorism that older experienced women are better in bed... but on the other hand at times it is even better when they have less experience because they could treat sex as a more special thing, and not just getting laid for a millionth time.

I don't think the OP is intimidated by it, I think he's grossed out by it, and quite rightly so.

OP, can you define "slutty past"? I don't know the statistics, but nowadays a women having more than 10 prior partners is very common and applies to majority of women. There may exceptions, but more than 10 is not suitable for LTR. The less numbers of partners the better.

Bear in mind, this only applies if your purpose is LTR/relationship/baba mama. If it's just a girl you're sleeping with and not serious, then really it doesn't matter how many.

[John_Galt]

Stalin is wrong on every level.

First of all, the best girl I've EVER been with was a virgin when I met her. I confirmed this---when we first had sex, her pussy wasn't bleeding, and I busted her hymen, then blood. Virgin.

Now, the FIRST time we had sex, was it amazing? No. But I taught her to fuck EXACTLY how I like to fuck. Taught her to suck cock EXACTLY how I like my cock sucked. After a month of sex everyday, this girl was a fucking pornstar with me. It was fantastic.

It's MUCH easier to teach someone how to do something if they don't already have preconceived notions based on what someone else taught them.

He's also wrong on the other thing. I was thinking about this exact thing earlier today. I dated a slut for 2 years---we just broke up. She was cheating. Now, she wasn't even a major whore----she had been with 5 men at 19. A lot of guys think that's not many----but I call it a slut. Anyways, what I sum it up like this:

If you weren't her first, you can be sure you won't be her last.

Period. No if's, ands or buts.

Now, if you're just fucking her, who cares? But don't let feelings get involved, don't let kids get involved, and don't let the idea of marriage EVER enter your mind.

No hymen, no diamond. The end.

[Suits]

Whether or not you are over-thinking this, the feeling isn't going to leave you. You'll never feel comfortable settling into a permanent arrangement with this woman, so plan accordingly.

Keep in mind, however, that if your standards are high there may never be a woman that you feel entirely safe getting very serious with.

[eskimobobseal]

Before my LTR I didn't care how many guys a girl may have been with.

However, if I'm going to marry a woman or be serious with one, she must be a virgin. No question about it, end of story. There is a level of obedience and submission you get from virgins (conservative types) that you won't find anywhere else, it cannot be replicated.

Here's the inconvenient truth - you wouldn't have started this thread if you were okay with your girl's sexual history.

I'll leave it at that.

[John_Galt]

^ Amen to both points above.

Also, I'd like to add: There is NOTHING wrong with having high standards for women. In fact, if even 50% of men had high standards, the US dating market would be turned on it's head in a MONTH.

[GlobalMan]

OP already replied that the girl was simply speaking of banging a co-worker at her work and that everything is great with the girl that as far as he can tell.

There's no need for the prophets of virginity to rein down dire warnings to stay away from this oh-so-terribly tainted and forever stained girl who has had sex before.

OP, continue to enjoy your time with this girl until there is reason not to, ignore the doom and gloom talk. You don't need to fly to rural Belarus or only pursue virgins in order to have a good relationship that you enjoy.

As far as feeling uncomfortable while she told you that, that is perfectly normal- no guy wants to visualize his girl getting banged by another dude.

[Rico Ramon]

Most women do have a slutty past if they are over a certain age and they are sexually active in my opinion, just like you may be considered to have a slutty past . I'm sure they acted slutty in their previous relationships which is before you came along. As long as you don't feel she is a dick hound while in the relationship with you what can you do?

Just be the best fucker she has ever had and you will be good. I always think you should be the guy to come along and blow her mind in every way.

About marrying virgins, you never know if a woman is going to feel at one point that...gosh, I've only ever been with one man, i wonder what it would be like to be with another man, at least with a woman with experience, they will know when they hit the jackpot with a guy that hits all the spots.

I'm going out with this woman now, incredible body, incredible woman but she has admitted that she comprised herself in previous relationships by being in relationships that were casual for the guy but she wanted a more serious relationship, so I could assume these guys were just fucking her when they wanted to. does it matter now, no, however it could if i found out she was fucking multiple trainers at the gyms she works out...

[Dalaran1991]

You are not marrying her, right? In which case I dont think it makes a huge deal. Personally I would only LTR up a virgin but thats me.

It's not the first girl you ever got, and definitely not the last girl you will ever get. Worst case she cheats on you, you will find out. Game and intuition help with that. Then you kick her out. Probably you will cheat on her first though.

No reason to ruin a currently working relationship based on insecurity. If your OP is correct, whatever happens (she cheats) she stands to lose more than you. You can get another girl easily while she will still be thinking about you while riding a beta cock.

[Latan]

I don't understand why this bothers you, OP.
Enjoy this girl while it lasts.
Like every relationship, be ready for it to end, at any moment.

[TheDuncan]

Thanks guys, the important thing is she is not cheating around and she is a good person, she genuinely cares for me and is submissive in all the right ways, one thing I noticed is that her dad was and still around her whole life, she believes in pleasing her man and actually being feminine which is great, letting a man be a man.

Hell compared to my last girl she is a thousand times better, the last one admitted that she was a slut in the "past" and even had abortions, kinda made me sick now that I think of it, the sex was great but she was bi-polar and batshit insane, even though we were in a casual relationship I am sure she was fucking with other guys and whats even funnier is that even though I had a higher SMV she gave me troubles putting out and was playing dumbass games before and after sex.

This girl? World of difference, I mean man or woman, we were all horny as fuck in are early 20's, like someone said we are only human.

Like someone also pointed out I am ready for anything, if I found out she cheated tomorrow I would be disappointed but ready to move on.

[H1N1]

I can't be the only one who likes sluts for what they are. Talking about sex with girls is one of the few areas where they can be really genuinely fascinating. The more depraved the better - not just for the shagging, but for the interest they are able to provide conversationally when they are hanging around. There's no contrivance with a slut - noone has to deny their nature, and it is possible to talk with a frankness which I find thoroughly refreshing.

[spanish_expat]

If you opened this thread, it is that your gut is punching your brain, liver, heart and pancreas.

I was with a very submissive girl, we had lots of sex, it wasn’t great, but lots of sex. She never denied me sex in 6 months or so. I fucked her at the second date. She grabbed me the balls in public that day as well.

She liked going kinky from quite the beginning and I said to myself: "oook, no big deal, she just wants to please me..."

She was dressing showing cleavage. And I said to myself: "ok, whatever, she just wants to look attractive to me"

Another day, she told me that she masturbated everyday watching to porn. And I said to myself: "why a woman should watch porn and masturbate?"

I started disrespecting her. I started fucking her like a whore (she did not seem to care!... may I have not been the first? ).

One day she was drunk and started talking to me about "rapes on campuses, etc..." My gut was exploding.

Finally, I dumped her STRATEGICALLY, recording it. There will always be sex available on Tinder!

You see. The gut will keep giving you signals over time. At some point, if you don’t trust it and things go wrong, it will be your sole fault. Always trust your gut.

PS: I see lot of feminist men, here. American folks, you must immediately raise your standards for relationships, seriously. Your women are overweight because you keep dating them!
"Sexual experience on women????": go - to - hell. Any experience that she wants to gain will have to be with you. You don’t have absolutely anything to gain from her previous experience. Actually, sex is not even that important in a LTR! You don’t need an LTR for sex these days! And if sex is not good in your LTR, you can always get side girls or hookers. But the LTR girl? Quiet and chaste and modest. The rest is just troubles.

PS2: no LTRS with "well travelled" girls!

[GlobalMan]

(10-28-2016 04:16 AM)spanish_expat Wrote:  

PS: I see lot of feminist men, here.

Oh, is that a fact, hombre? Tell us more.

[spanish_expat]

(10-28-2016 04:25 AM)GlobalMan Wrote:  

(10-28-2016 04:16 AM)spanish_expat Wrote:  

PS: I see lot of feminist men, here.

Oh, is that a fact, hombre? Tell us more.

What I had to say it is in my previous message.
I’ve lived in the US for a long while. Your women don’t respect you. Just turn on the TV and look at the advertisements.

[General Stalin]

So many puritans. Dudes in here trying to talk a guy out of spending time with a girl he likes because she has been with a few dudes before him.

Like I said do whatever your gut tells you.

[Jungle]

(10-28-2016 04:16 AM)spanish_expat Wrote:  

PS: I see lot of feminist men, here. American folks, you must immediately raise your standards for relationships, seriously. Your women are overweight because you keep dating them! You don’t have absolutely anything to gain from her previous experience.

^^ It's funny because it's true

[Filbert]

(10-28-2016 04:16 AM)spanish_expat Wrote:  

Another day, she told me that she masturbated everyday watching to porn. And I said to myself: "why a woman should watch porn and masturbate?"

What's so bad about a chick masturbating to porn?