Quote: (08-29-2016 06:48 PM)Excelsior Wrote:
If you're not willing to extend that same treatment to me, then I don't want to know you. We're not cool.
If you're willing to excuse, defend, and sympathize with those who are unwilling to extend that same treatment to me and who show said unwillingness by making use of language explicitly designed to extend the opposite treatment to me, then we're not cool.
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Quote:Enigma Wrote:
I agree that coal burning is a term that shouldn't be used on the forum, and that many of the posters here are too reactionary and take "race realism" too far.
Quote:Enigma Wrote:
One person used the term coal burner and he was IMMEDIATELY called out by dozens of members. Almost no one else in this thread has supported the use of that term, which I think we all agree has a pretty negative connotation.
Quote:Enigma Wrote:
I and pretty much everyone in this thread have repeatedly stated that coal burning isn't a term that should be used on the forum, nor should black forum members be shamed about dating outside their race.
Do I need to start a separate thread, titled "I, Enigma, disavow the term coal burning and don't have a problem with Excelsior dating white girls"?
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All of this talk about "struggling" with racial identity and whatever else you wrote up there is perplexing to me because, frankly, it's got nothing to do with the topic at hand. I am not talking about your struggle with your racial identity or my struggle with mine. I am talking about your willingness to judge me as an individual and abstain from insulting me by implying that any woman who goes near me is defective.
This thread is the first time coal burner has been used on this forum. Nearly everyone in this thread has agreed that it was inappropriate, repeatedly, including myself, and the person who used the term was suspended.
I'm not sure what else you want us to do.
You are the one who said you and other black posters do not feel comfortable posting on the forum. Not me.
Quote:Excelsior Wrote:
This shit is the reason so many posters confine their posting to that thread and a handful of others in the first place.
Did you not post this on page 2 of the thread?
Unless you have the ability to see into the future, the term coal burner is not what's kept you from posting here for the past year.
Again, if you would actually be forthcoming with what's bothering you enough to make you not want to post here, people wouldn't have to guess. Clearly it's a very widespread problem for you to want to avoid all but one or two threads.
If you just want to continue to lash out and avoid having a real discussion, that's fine too. Hopefully it gives you some sort of relief.