7% of Americans would have trouble finding 0 for an emergency
04-27-2016, 09:51 PM
If we want to get serious about money and boosting savings, and not discussing things we have no control over, then I think...
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It comes down to emotional control.
At any point in time, we are constantly evaluating emotional reward. Will this coffee make me happier than the 5 dollars it costs, will buying this pig of a woman a drink make me happier than it will cost? ETC.
Immediate reward plays a huge role in the analysis of this emotional reward (economists call it Utility).
It is very hard for some people to imagine what $5 feels like or is worth 10 years down the road.
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So if you want to get handle on your finances, you have to get a handle on yourself.
And for many, including myself, it is no fucking fun to do the internal work. To address the issues in our past that still in some way control our lives. Got rejected by girl and it hurt like fuck? It may still affect you. Look at all the posts that are all about emotional injury, it comes off like this girl was a bitch or my parents were terrible. But really, you got hurt. Your ego doesn't want you to deal with it.
You do stupid shit to numb the constant behind the scenes pain in your life. We all do it.
We can talk about the simple stuff, make more spend less.
But if you have no emotional control, it would be hard to do.
Stanford conducted a study called the marshmallow test. Basically, a kid got offered a marshmallow. If he could wait to eat, he would get another one. After 40 years, they studied the kids again. The one consistent driver that separated those who were successful and not were those who could delay gratification. Or in other words, they had emotional control.
http://jamesclear.com/delayed-gratification
Feel free to say I am being a dick. But I tried to give those who are sensitive enough warning. And I am sorry for those who have tough childhoods or have struggled, I am not lacking in compassion. But holding onto that pain, robs you of energy to be productive. I have been there. But what do you want? A better life? Or live in the past?
Fate whispers to the warrior, "You cannot withstand the storm." And the warrior whispers back, "I am the storm."
Women and children can be careless, but not men - Don Corleone
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