Quote: (04-19-2016 03:24 PM)HankMoody Wrote:
It's sort of a push-pull thing. I start out by being a dick, and then I gradually become more interesting and communicative.
Phone conversation with online dating girl this afternoon:
"So what did you think of my profile?"
"Frankly, it was a bit incoherent in places, and definitely way, way too long."
"Grrrrr....You know a bunch of people have told me I should help write profiles as a side gig."
"Heh, for the moment I'd definitely keep your day job."
Then she asked me if I liked to smoke weed, and then we made the date for Thursday night.
Quote: (04-19-2016 08:11 PM)Delta Wrote:
When I see that a girl is some typical female profession like a nurse or a teacher, I think "Fuck, this is going to be exhausting," because I know I'll have to play a character to relate to her. Lower intelligence occupations like hairdressers I don't even bother with, because I feel like the gap would be insurmountable.
Why you worry what hairdresser lady thinks about quantum cosmology? I definitely fall into the same trap sometimes, worrying about what role I'm going to play to "appeal to the demographic." Maybe that's a good strategy if you're just looking to hit it and quit it, but if you want a regular thing "playing the character" is going to wear you to pieces. You're right, it's exhausting. So why bother? I definitely don't pretend to love metal to get laid with tattooed rocker chicks, or to love craft beers to get laid with hipsters, or to be really into the "poly" lifestyle to get laid with "poly" girls. Many definitely don't give a shit if you seem like you're a charming yet genuine "something else."
I hooked up with a nurse a while back. One of my current FB's is a humanities professor at a major university. The nurse was hot, the professor is average but really puts in solid effort to make up for it in the "domestic area." I talked to them about science plenty soon after we first met, on the first date. Both first date lays, no problem at all.
It's definitely impossible to please all of the people all of the time. It's okay if you turn some people off - it often means you must be doing some things right...for yourself. If she doesn't like it gtfo. I thought that was what "abundance mentality" was supposed to be about.