It's always amazing what poor judgement a lot of foreign guys have when seeking out (or falling into) LTR in southeast asia.
The uncomfortable truth is that girls that are too keen on foreigners are a red flag in of itself. Guys who ignore this fact and do mental gymnastics about it are deceiving themselves too.
The issue is that girls who are too keen on dating foreigners tend to be more hypergamous and have their own set agenda at play. I've found most girls who are really into that have a collection of poor personality traits to begin with that sometimes don't surface until you've been around them for awhile.
The Philippines is a particular harsh environment so I don't blame women for wanting to get out when they can but if she's reasonably attractive, educated, and socially not too low on the totem pole her options really aren't that bad in Philippines society. If she's still desperate to hook up with any foreigner then that's when you have to start asking yourself why..
Foreigner groupie types are good for fun times but bad for LTR even though initially they may seem alright. Most foreign men fall into LTR with this type and it's not a surprise when things go pear shaped down the road.
General rule of thumb..if she constantly bad mouths her own men, has a pattern of dating certain types of foreign men, or just hangs out in places where it's mostly party time then it's an obvious red flag. If she's not part of any type of respectable social circle and/or interacts in a exploitative fashion with friends. Big red flag.
With filipinas one major thing to look at too is the girl who constantly borrows money from her friends. How much of this type of social debt are they carrying at any given time? Are they lenders or borrowers?
Super important. The best girls i've experienced are the ones who juggle their own finances well and aren't borrowers at all. They may chip in a set amount of their salary to their parents but in no way do they ever involve you in that equation.
Also for fuck's sake you don't need to buy property or build a house for them. There are plenty of countries you can take your sweet filipina off to live also where you won't have to deal with daily family requests. Keep talk of your finances completely off the table with their relatives and friends. If the filipina you're dating has a shred of integrity she'll understand why and work for your best interests.
The uncomfortable truth is that girls that are too keen on foreigners are a red flag in of itself. Guys who ignore this fact and do mental gymnastics about it are deceiving themselves too.
The issue is that girls who are too keen on dating foreigners tend to be more hypergamous and have their own set agenda at play. I've found most girls who are really into that have a collection of poor personality traits to begin with that sometimes don't surface until you've been around them for awhile.
The Philippines is a particular harsh environment so I don't blame women for wanting to get out when they can but if she's reasonably attractive, educated, and socially not too low on the totem pole her options really aren't that bad in Philippines society. If she's still desperate to hook up with any foreigner then that's when you have to start asking yourself why..
Foreigner groupie types are good for fun times but bad for LTR even though initially they may seem alright. Most foreign men fall into LTR with this type and it's not a surprise when things go pear shaped down the road.
General rule of thumb..if she constantly bad mouths her own men, has a pattern of dating certain types of foreign men, or just hangs out in places where it's mostly party time then it's an obvious red flag. If she's not part of any type of respectable social circle and/or interacts in a exploitative fashion with friends. Big red flag.
With filipinas one major thing to look at too is the girl who constantly borrows money from her friends. How much of this type of social debt are they carrying at any given time? Are they lenders or borrowers?
Super important. The best girls i've experienced are the ones who juggle their own finances well and aren't borrowers at all. They may chip in a set amount of their salary to their parents but in no way do they ever involve you in that equation.
Also for fuck's sake you don't need to buy property or build a house for them. There are plenty of countries you can take your sweet filipina off to live also where you won't have to deal with daily family requests. Keep talk of your finances completely off the table with their relatives and friends. If the filipina you're dating has a shred of integrity she'll understand why and work for your best interests.