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(10-10-2016 09:44 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:
[quote='Red_Pillage' pid='1414986' dateline='1476134968']
I'm a guy who likes having sex. So, what are my options (assuming marriage and celibacy are not on the table)
A) Just bang out the fast hookup girls every once in a while. Do ONS stuff exclusively. I think that's a bad option. It's not a very good payout for the effort and risk required to get anything resembling regular sex out of that tactic.
B) Spin plates. Have several girls/fuckbuddies on rotation that you see for a few months at a time, when one begins to get too uppity or demand too much you next her, and rotate another into her place while continually hunting for more supply. It's an okay idea, except it's physically, emotionally, monetarily, and time-expenditure EXHAUSTING - at least it was for me. I tried keeping just two girls on at the same time I was seeing once a week, and also keeping my game up, hitting up online dating sites, and going out at night because I knew they weren't likely to stick around forever, and to not start feeling needy I had to keep soliciting other options. I ended up in the boyfriend role with one of them in a major way pretty much because it was too much work, like a part-time job. I couldn't keep the "option pipeline" full, but I still wanted regular sex.
C) A monogamous LTR with somebody. Okay, so now we hit the issue you bring up of "There's no point to it unless marriage and kids is on the table", and "How do I find a 'good girl'" who hasn't had too many notches worthy of such a thing. I know for my part, that's going to involve a lot of hard work, and if I devote all my time to that it means not getting laid. So you could combine the unicorn-hunt with option B). Great, now relationships are a full-time job. Or get into some kind of monogamous LTR with a girl who has taken her share of dicks in the past, but this is an unforgivable red pill sin.
D) Some kind of open polyamory thing where we do all the boyfriend-girlfriend stuff, but just agree to bang other people. If I tell a girl I'm not going to commit to her after X number of months, but we keep hanging out, it would be foolish of me to believe she wouldn't take it as a license to do whatever she wanted. Yuck. Feels like a license to be cucked, though maybe some girls would use more restraint than others.
My ego tells me that there simply isn't any perfect solution, and that if I'm getting laid at all with the life I currently have, it means I'm compromising somewhere. To be happy in the present moment, I feel I must accept this and just do what feels right and "least worst" at a given time.[/quote]
XPQ22 many of us on this forum face the same dilemma. We want quality women in our lives, but are not willing or unable to enter into a LTR at our particular stage in life. Many of us are focusing on building businesses/careers, reaching fitness goals etc. Time is at premium in our lives and must be spent wisely.
After reading the options you outlined. I believe you left an important one out.
OPTION E) Build a solid social circle that regularly supplies you with quality women.
I know a few guys that despite having little to no game post numbers almost as good as hardcore gamers and it is all through their social circles. The crazy thing is that these guys put in less effort and time to achieve these results.
These guys and I are all part of the same groups that enjoy the same hobbies and outings. These groups constantly attract new people with similar interests. Over the last 8 I have been able to grow social circle exponentially.
The trick they taught me is how to use FB, INST and SC in ways that make me stand out. I regularly update my profile pics. I post pictures and videos of me out with friends enjoying fun activities. Here is a tip, posts that include a clear pic of my face having fun, pics with me and a group of guys and gals, pics of me with beautiful women, and travel pics seem to get the most attention. I also like comments and pics of other men and women in the group. You will be surprised how much of this gets noticed by many female followers and their friends!
IMO the best thing to do is to keep gaming and work on building your social circle. You can use girls from one to provide social proof/preselection for the other. High value girls that you meet from gaming can be introduced to your social circle. Going out with a group of guy and gal friends from your social circle makes gaming women much easier.
I recommend combining this strategy with Option B and keep it down to 2 -3 at a time. The best thing about Social Circle game is if you are honest and open from the beginning. You will be able to keep many of these women as friends even after your relationship is over. Which in my opinion is more beneficial than a ONS that stops providing any value once the night is over.
Stay frosty, not thirsty my friends.
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