Hey guys,
I’m currently a 17 year old guy in high school living in the Netherlands. All my life I’ve only played video games and not really much else. I’ve recently came across this site and found a lot of great stuff. I feel like I’m underachieving in a lot of areas of my life and feel generally lost and I want to fix that and I think this site will help me tremendously with that.
Because I played so much video games I don’t have too much friends and am not very good socially (working on that). High school is 6 years for me and the first 3 years I was a loser. Now I’m in my fourth year and now it’s hard to get in the ‘’popular’’ group and get recognized for changing because of the reputation I’ve build up as the quiet/loner kid. I’m a virgin and have never even kissed a girl. Which is really frustrating at 17 y/o. I also don’t really have any hobbies. I used to play some sports in the past but I’ve always quit them because I was never good at them. Now I’m going to the gym 4x a week on an upper/lower split. I’m plateauing a lot and am still very weak however and not really sure why because I think I’m doing everything right (sleep, nutrition, program, dedication etc). Still I look way better than I did before. I might make a thread in the fitness section about this. I think the only thing I have going for me is that I’m getting pretty good grades at school. And I’m 17 which means there’s plenty of time.
I have set up a few goals so far for the new year that I will work at everyday to try and reach them. If anyone has any more suggestions for goals or tips for any of these I’ll be glad to hear them.
1. Read books
-40 alternatives to college
-7 habits of highly effective people
-think and grow rich
-how to win friends and influence people
-bang
-day bang
2. Get a fit beach body
I’m currently at like 17% bodyfat, 200lbs 6’1. I look kind of skinny fat however I used to look like a total skeleton. I think starting a cut before summer and getting to like 8% bodyfat will make me look a lot better, both in my face and in my body.
3. Find a hobby/passion that I enjoy
I want to find something that people will recognize me for, like when they see me they’ll be like ‘’hey, that’s the guy that plays piano really well!’’ or ‘’hey, that’s the guy that played in the theater!’’ or something. I know I should pick something that I enjoy but I won't know until I've tried it so if anyone has any good suggestions I'd be glad to hear them.
4. Learn to cook
5. Get a better part-time job
I’m currently working at the supermarket however I don’t feel like I’m learning anything useful and all the people there are people I already know from school so I’m not making any new friends either.
6. Decide on the career path I want to follow
I have a lot of options because I'm doing good academically but I don't want to regret my choice.
7. Get laid
Now this one is definitely the hardest for me. I don’t know if I’m gonna be able to do this one. I’m reading Bang currently and I get the general idea that I should take action and approach a lot. But in the area where I live (small towns) there is only really one high school so all the girls I meet around my age in the mall etc. are from my high school or know someone from my high school which means I will face the social consequences if something goes wrong, like they will tell all their friends and it will spread through the school. Also I don’t hear anyone getting laid at my school, maybe theyre doing it in private but I’m sure guys would want to brag about it if they got laid. Also when I get invited to the ‘’popular’’ parties (which is not often) and we play truth or dare a lot of the guys have never kissed before or something, like me.
8. Get on no fap
I’ve read a lot of great things about this but I don’t know if it’s benefits are worth it when you’re not having sex. Maybe I should just do no porn?
Thanks for reading. If anyone has any general advice or advice for my current situation (hobbies, high school game) or anything it would be invaluable to me. Thanks a lot.
EDIT: I forgot to mention, I'm asian in a 99% white area where the only other asian guy in my school makes fun of himself and his asian-ness to get approval from the white kids. This is definitely a factor as well.
I’m currently a 17 year old guy in high school living in the Netherlands. All my life I’ve only played video games and not really much else. I’ve recently came across this site and found a lot of great stuff. I feel like I’m underachieving in a lot of areas of my life and feel generally lost and I want to fix that and I think this site will help me tremendously with that.
Because I played so much video games I don’t have too much friends and am not very good socially (working on that). High school is 6 years for me and the first 3 years I was a loser. Now I’m in my fourth year and now it’s hard to get in the ‘’popular’’ group and get recognized for changing because of the reputation I’ve build up as the quiet/loner kid. I’m a virgin and have never even kissed a girl. Which is really frustrating at 17 y/o. I also don’t really have any hobbies. I used to play some sports in the past but I’ve always quit them because I was never good at them. Now I’m going to the gym 4x a week on an upper/lower split. I’m plateauing a lot and am still very weak however and not really sure why because I think I’m doing everything right (sleep, nutrition, program, dedication etc). Still I look way better than I did before. I might make a thread in the fitness section about this. I think the only thing I have going for me is that I’m getting pretty good grades at school. And I’m 17 which means there’s plenty of time.
I have set up a few goals so far for the new year that I will work at everyday to try and reach them. If anyone has any more suggestions for goals or tips for any of these I’ll be glad to hear them.
1. Read books
-40 alternatives to college
-7 habits of highly effective people
-think and grow rich
-how to win friends and influence people
-bang
-day bang
2. Get a fit beach body
I’m currently at like 17% bodyfat, 200lbs 6’1. I look kind of skinny fat however I used to look like a total skeleton. I think starting a cut before summer and getting to like 8% bodyfat will make me look a lot better, both in my face and in my body.
3. Find a hobby/passion that I enjoy
I want to find something that people will recognize me for, like when they see me they’ll be like ‘’hey, that’s the guy that plays piano really well!’’ or ‘’hey, that’s the guy that played in the theater!’’ or something. I know I should pick something that I enjoy but I won't know until I've tried it so if anyone has any good suggestions I'd be glad to hear them.
4. Learn to cook
5. Get a better part-time job
I’m currently working at the supermarket however I don’t feel like I’m learning anything useful and all the people there are people I already know from school so I’m not making any new friends either.
6. Decide on the career path I want to follow
I have a lot of options because I'm doing good academically but I don't want to regret my choice.
7. Get laid
Now this one is definitely the hardest for me. I don’t know if I’m gonna be able to do this one. I’m reading Bang currently and I get the general idea that I should take action and approach a lot. But in the area where I live (small towns) there is only really one high school so all the girls I meet around my age in the mall etc. are from my high school or know someone from my high school which means I will face the social consequences if something goes wrong, like they will tell all their friends and it will spread through the school. Also I don’t hear anyone getting laid at my school, maybe theyre doing it in private but I’m sure guys would want to brag about it if they got laid. Also when I get invited to the ‘’popular’’ parties (which is not often) and we play truth or dare a lot of the guys have never kissed before or something, like me.
8. Get on no fap
I’ve read a lot of great things about this but I don’t know if it’s benefits are worth it when you’re not having sex. Maybe I should just do no porn?
Thanks for reading. If anyone has any general advice or advice for my current situation (hobbies, high school game) or anything it would be invaluable to me. Thanks a lot.
EDIT: I forgot to mention, I'm asian in a 99% white area where the only other asian guy in my school makes fun of himself and his asian-ness to get approval from the white kids. This is definitely a factor as well.