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On BPDs (borderline personality disorder)

On BPDs (borderline personality disorder)

Your posts on this got you a rep point from me. I like how you stated that it’s a drug, and you have to remember that you’re using it to get high. That is so how I felt with the girl I had over the summer. I even remember telling myself that I had to maintain frame because she’s like a drug that will destroy me if I give in.
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On BPDs (borderline personality disorder)

interesting
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On BPDs (borderline personality disorder)

Thankfully, BPD women are not all that common. Out of half a dozen LTRs I've been in, I only had one who, in retrospect, I am pretty sure was BPD. Then I worked as a divorce lawyer and I saw it ALOT!

They run the gamut of psychopathy and fortunately mine was not a bunny boiler or #MeToo false rape queen. The relationship was an emotional rollercoaster characterized by pathological jealousy and paranoia.

Would I do it again? Absolutely, with the only caveat being that I would not have delusions of marriage. There are only so many complaints one can have about a size zero fuck machine with an incredibly endearing sweet side to her. When things got bad, they were really bad but when they were good it was amazing. We had boat loads of fun together in and out of the sack.
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On BPDs (borderline personality disorder)

as my boundaries got stronger and I tolerated less shit BPDs now hate me. if anything they'll use me for a one night stand and then dip when they see the can't manipulate me and too icey.

whereas before I'd have have prolonged friends with benefits scenarios with them where they would infuse some unnecessary drama
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On BPDs (borderline personality disorder)

Quote: (01-19-2019 01:35 AM)Atlanta Man Wrote:  

Quote: (01-19-2019 12:39 AM)jacknap Wrote:  

Quote: (01-19-2019 12:32 AM)Atlanta Man Wrote:  

BPD PTSD is most damaging to my future sexual satisfaction- I am 43 and have been with multiple BPD girls, normal girl sex is not as satisfying and I have had issues achieving orgasm with normal sex. I am so used to absolutely filthy, degenerate, rough, aggressive , no holds barred sex with my last BPD girl that regular sex has no effect on me.

True story: The last girl I dated was a 25 year old 8/10 who was cool and normal. We had sex on the first date after going out to a nightclub together. She was really hot, sweet, and feminine-but not a dirty, nasty, perverted degenerate like BPD girl. We dated for a month and had sex all the time-normal girl never made me cum. The raw crazy passion, the insane connection, and the perverted crazy sex were not there-and I feel like I needed it.

One more thing that I noticed about the BPD girls-They all had internal vaginal orgasms (they also had external clitoral orgasms, but internal orgasms too) and multiple orgasms from intercourse. When you are pounding a woman out and she is having multiple orgasms-it just makes you feel right-The sex is just so good.

my experience was this as well with my bpd friends with benefits. She would orgasm easily from just penetration. I wish all girls were like this.
Every internal orgasm girl I ever had sex with was a slut-I don't blame them because they were experiencing orgasm with most sexual encounters. I dated a few normal girls who came internally , were slutty, but not BPD. However every BPD girl I dated came internally with multiple orgasms- also all were above average in looks,really nasty in bed, emotional terrorists, and into extreme drug and alcohol usage.

The only way to deal with these broads is to treat them like a drug-do what you do but know you are just getting high-invest nothing in these women. I cannot sit here and lie-every man should fuck one of these BPD women-it is an experience.

In her words "the sex was primal!"-but the sex was all that was good-everything else was about power, emotional terrorism, and unnecessary drama. Goddamn I miss that bitch she was a dick pleaser- I had to delete that bitch from my LinkedIn-I must preserve my dignity.

I still want to fuck that bitch, I really do......

Yup, mine also had multiple orgasms, just from vaginal sex. I've been with a little bit more than 80 women, and it was the first time I ever saw a woman come from sex EVERY single time (and multiple times). I only had 2 long term girlfriends come from sex, and that was only once in 100 times or so. So yeah, I also assume that having an orgasm during vaginal penetration is a BPD thing. While it's not a clinically proven thing, I think we can safely assume it's an indicator (which clinical researchers will ever test this type of stuff anyway?!).

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as my boundaries got stronger and I tolerated less shit BPDs now hate me. if anything they'll use me for a one night stand and then dip when they see the can't manipulate me and too icey.

whereas before I'd have have prolonged friends with benefits scenarios with them where they would infuse some unnecessary drama
Yeah, I also agree with this. My boundaries got A LOT stronger after the lifechanging BPD experiences.

To be honest, now looking back to September 2018, which is kinda 8 months ago now... I have to say I'm very thankful to the BPD ex girlfriend. I still despise her for everything she did.

But I'm insanely thankful for the life lessons the BPD relationship gave me:

She gave me insight into what kind of lies are possible. She taught me to be more careful with women, or people in general. She cured me of a lot of my naivety. She made me humble as fuck, because she broke me down and made me feel like an unwanted cockroach under your shoe (even though before I met her I thought I was one of the most confident guys ever. She crushed my confidence though and I became the least confident guy ever. Temporarily, for a few months I was with 0 confidence. Now it's stronger than ever.). I learned who my real friends are, because I spoke to a few dozen people on the phone as I was feeling like a piece of shit. And certain people really helped me back up.

I can point out women's (or people's) bullshit much faster now. I can detect a lie easier. I learned how to trust my gut better. I learned about women, life and people.

Most importantly: I learned a lot about MYSELF. I learned about my own cognitive biases. There was an amazing Charlie Munger video on the topic of cognitive biases. It's called "The Psychology of Human Misjudgement" (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pqzcCfUglws). It's about how WE trick OURSELVES in order to do stupid things.

I even feel better and more confident around women now. The jealousy I used to have is gone (simply because in my mind I think: What's the worst that could happen?! Okay, she'll fuck another guy. I move on, I find another chick). I feel like women are more attracted to me because of who I became and the rules I created for communicating with me.

At the same time my business partner fucked me hard and stole everything. And both in business and with women I now have a feeling of fearlessness towards losing everything.

In my mind I'm now thinking "What's the worst that could happen if shit hits the fan?! Okay, I'll get up, lick my wounds and start from scratch. Been there, done that. Easy". I feel like going through this shit a second time will be infinitely easier. Not that I'll make myself go through it again on purpose. I will do everything to avoid it...

But let's say somebody fucks me on a business deal again... I have the confidence to get back up... Let's say I get into a long term relationship with a girl, and by some strange coincidence shit happens... I have the confidence to get back up...

I feel like those assholes taught me lessons that nobody prepared me for in life (not school, not university and not my parents). And these lessons will stay with me for the rest of my life.

Who also thinks like that? Let me know. [Image: smile.gif]
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