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The life of a 27y, living with mom, huge failure, is it even possible to fix?

The life of a 27y, living with mom, huge failure, is it even possible to fix?

Travesty, as I responded in the PM to Rontgennurz, the Swedes I've been friends with are playing on a different plane. They were badly browbeat into feminism. It took me countless drinks and questions to get their real views spoken. I believe that what many of us (Phoenix, QC, etc.) are viewing as a helpless, defeatist attitude is really just a cultural difference. The Scandinavia mindset if one of helplessness and defeat. Leif Erikson must be rolling in his grave.

I spent two years being good friends with a few Swedes. You really have to dig out their feelings. They won't say what they really think because it's culturally unacceptable to speak your mind in that hellhole. You have to pound alcohol and load questions down their throats to get their true opinions. While Rontegennurz has a long way to go, I'm optimistic he came to the best place.

It's sad really. Free speech is dead in Scandinavia.
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The life of a 27y, living with mom, huge failure, is it even possible to fix?

I've never dealt with Sweden before. But I have dealt with people from Norway, and the guys were very outgoing and extroverted.
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Quote: (12-19-2015 03:57 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

I think Im struggling with some kind of "depression".

You can remedy chemical aspects of a depressoin quite fast.

1. High potency Multivitamin - good products are for example Now Foods Special Two or Swanson HIgh Potency Multi

2. Take 500-2000mg L-Tryptophan - you probably have some in your Amino-acid base, but not enough. Start taking 500mg extra daily in tandem with the Multi - if you don't feel much better within 2-3 days, take a bit more - 1000mg or more. Above 2000mg it is not recommended.

3. Vitamin D3 - 5000IU - also from producers Swanson or Now Foods the easiest. You can purchase Swanson in Europe from http://www.swansoneurope.com

Those 3 supplements will help you feel better and it costs just a few bucks a month - also based on your workout level I estimate that you are severely depleted of some vitamins and minerals. It's not for nothing that some NBA teams and European soccer players (German national team, Bayern for what I know) are forced by their clubs to take huge doses of supplements I mentioned above. Intensive sports sucks you dry of nutrients and that is why most pro athletes have trouble with their health - they should take 3 times what I take personally, while in reality they take 20% of my nutrient dose.






As for social life - start doing something. You could reach out in the forum and see whether someone lives or visits your city - a meeting with a RVF member might help you get out of this rut.
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The life of a 27y, living with mom, huge failure, is it even possible to fix?

What about just traveling across the USA as a bum.

I met a guy who did that for a year and loved it.

You learn how to survive, you meet tons of interesting people, and the best part is you're never on the computer.

You've never been to a party in 3 year..haven't kissed a girl in a while...

It sounds a lot like your stuck.

Whenever I've been stuck I've just gone somewhere else. You're forced to get a job, find a place to live, make friends in order to have someone to help you out if your down..etc..

What I love about the 30+ year olds that isn't as prevalent among 30 and younger, is that more older guys have that "edge". They still have the inner independent rebel streak that I have, where you just say to yourself, "Everyone else says I should do this, but fuck it, I'm going to do this because that's what "I" want to do.



Our generation was built a bad hand, but we get to live in more interesting times, so, there's that.


Plus, what you'll learn is, meeting people is fun whether girls or guys.

There are a TON of immigrants in the USA, and being a white/broke guy who's open to being friends with anybody leads to pussy eventually. A lot of girls don't even care if your broke to be honest. As long as your involved with life, they really don't. Girls don't even care if your game is terrible as long as you don't care. A modern girl simply just wants you to give zero fucks. That's literally all that they ask.


Just do something. Anything. Anything besides looking at the internet and living at home. If you don't do something, anything, you'll just end up 40 living at home with mom.


Even if you fail with whatever you do, at least you will have physically left the house.

Try to get to Alaska or something, I don't know.

As the last resort, Move to Florida, it's always exciting down there.
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Quote: (12-19-2015 10:58 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

thanks for your pm wi30 Ill answer tomorrow.

And yes travesty body dont mean much if you do nothing with it. Ive had hot swedish girls basicly begging me to sleep with them, but for some weird reason I didnt want to, Ive lost a couple of chanses cause I just didnt feel worthy of it, I dont fucking know man I obviously have very low self esteem and dont feel worthy.

This needs some more explanation.
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Quote: (12-19-2015 10:06 PM)Phoenix Wrote:  

The fuck is this pity party? Is this RVF? Perhaps someone should offer OP a nice warm blanket and say "ssshh sshhh everything will be OK!".

This dude clearly has some kind of helplessness fetish. Just look at the language he's using. He doesn't need any more mother's hugs, he needs father's ass-kicking.

Well I've already said my piece on this. So has QC. Still waiting for OP to post the concrete actions he has made recently to improve his situation...

I agree with Phoenix. OP needs a father's ass-kicking, or, a tough big brother to help him.

[Image: idea.gif] So OP, what you need is a big brother that would: come to your room (where you spend your time pitying yourself... man!), and say: "Bro, I love you but I can't stand your cry-baby attitude anymore", then he'd put 500 bucks in your shirt pocket, grab you by the collar, drag you to the airport and put you on a plane to Manila (or to the US for the living-on-the road experience described by KorbenDallas).

Now, OP, I wish you good, but I also think that you might very well be a troll [Image: dodgy.gif] whose purpose would be: to make fun of some forum members by showing them to be soft-hearted... I can see you laughing in front of your computer, seeing that good people from the forum take time to pity your "legend" and give you kind advice.

Plus, it might be so that the 2 low-number-of-posts members that gave you rep points (MatrixDude and MimicCop), are also your own creation...?

Because it doesn't make sense that MatrixDude would give you a rep point, considering this: thread-51066...pid1130433
"I don't waste my time trying to help people see the world for what it is, they're just too invested in it that my efforts would go to waste. "
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For fuck sake Im no god damn troll, what the fuck is even this to troll about? If you are so convinced well then dont fucking answer or just remove my damn thread then, fucking idiot
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Quote: (12-19-2015 11:20 PM)wi30 Wrote:  

Travesty, as I responded in the PM to Rontgennurz, the Swedes I've been friends with are playing on a different plane. They were badly browbeat into feminism. It took me countless drinks and questions to get their real views spoken. I believe that what many of us (Phoenix, QC, etc.) are viewing as a helpless, defeatist attitude is really just a cultural difference. The Scandinavia mindset if one of helplessness and defeat. Leif Erikson must be rolling in his grave.

I spent two years being good friends with a few Swedes. You really have to dig out their feelings. They won't say what they really think because it's culturally unacceptable to speak your mind in that hellhole. You have to pound alcohol and load questions down their throats to get their true opinions. While Rontegennurz has a long way to go, I'm optimistic he came to the best place.

It's sad really. Free speech is dead in Scandinavia.

Yes this is a very on point describtion about sweden and our culture.
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Quote: (12-19-2015 11:12 PM)Travesty Wrote:  

^ So how difficult would you say it will be in 2016 for a American with game to come to Scandanavia and bang hot girls, who is good looking, but not on the model looks levels of Ludvig and Viktor?

The forum was pretty high on Scandanavia until 2012 or so then the complaints started rolling in.

If you look decently good and you are very outgoing, funny and confident, you will have no problem with swedish girls. They are very open sexually and "slutty" dare I say.

I want to learn better game so once I get a place for my own anyone of you can come and sleep on the cough for some days, in exchange of sharing game-knowledge/wingmanship.
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Quote: (12-20-2015 10:46 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

If you are so convinced well then dont fucking answer or just remove my damn thread then, fucking idiot

Better.




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The life of a 27y, living with mom, huge failure, is it even possible to fix?

This guy is getting more respect with every post.

The anger is a great start just by standing up for yourself.

I hope he improves his life so much one day he gets banned for bragging and trash talking.

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Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
Quote:WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Am I reacting to her? No pussy, all problems
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Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems
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Quote: (12-20-2015 10:46 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

For fuck sake Im no god damn troll, what the fuck is even this to troll about? If you are so convinced well then dont fucking answer or just remove my damn thread then, fucking idiot

To begin with, I am not the forum moderator, so I can't remove your thread, obviously. Or were you actually insulting not me, but the forum moderator? [Image: dodgy.gif]

In both cases, it makes you a, I quote, "fucking idiot" yourself: either thinking that a simple forum member can remove a thread, or by insulting the forum moderator.

Also, you might be "depressed and feeling lost and weak", but you do have some big foul-mouth on you, dude! [Image: undecided.gif]

Ah, to Travesty and even Phoenix:

You are wrong to give this OP credit for his (virtual) show of "anger". Because, his show of anger is just that: purely virtual. It's internet virtual bravery. [Image: tard.gif]

Calling me over the internet, "a fucking idiot", do you think it shows that "OP has balls and is starting to fight back"? [Image: tard.gif]

No. It would be commendable (in some way) if OP were to try and tell me that in-real-life. But, insulting someone that lives thousand of miles away, over the internet, it's not "valuable anger", it's female, coward aggressiveness.

To end the matter: OP, congratulations, you've made it to the list of people who have insulted me over the internet. Curiously though, none of these people ever asked to meet me in real life... Funny how internet warriors become very shy when it comes to actually meeting people in real life...[Image: sleepy.gif]
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Sweep the leg!

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Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
Quote:WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Am I reacting to her? No pussy, all problems
Or
Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems
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The life of a 27y, living with mom, huge failure, is it even possible to fix?

I've been thinking about thread. And I made a podcast especially for it. This is for the OP.

http://qcurtius.com/2015/12/20/the-ethics-of-survival/

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Quote: (12-20-2015 02:44 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:  

I've been thinking about thread. And I made a podcast especially for it. This is for the OP.

http://qcurtius.com/2015/12/20/the-ethics-of-survival/

I listened to your podcast (as a result, I am now interested in this Gavan Daws historian and writer, by the way). Well, anyway: given that the OP cannot survive his mom's house in an affluent Stockholm suburb, I doubt he would have survived any "horrifying prison camp of the Pacific" (or any attack by a bear, as in the movie).

Anyway, good luck with trying to help the OP. If you bring him out of his misery, you'll deserve a medal.

By the way, about the movie The Edge (which I like), I never really agreed with the Hopkins' quote about people "dying of shame"... they die of, I don't know, tiredness maybe (lack of grit), but not of "shame".

More about your podcast: I agree on the strength that faith gives you. But, one contradiction I noted: you say that the will to resist and survive is a gift, a born-with skill, "like having a good voice": I do agree with you, but, it means that it is pointless to try helping the OP, as he clearly doesn't have this gift (and can't acquire it)...
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@Going Strong:

Glad you liked the podcast.

Let me clarify some things.

Even though the examples I'm using are taken from WWII in the Pacific, we can still use the general lessons in our day-to-day lives. Most of us are not facing starvation or slave labor, but the mental frame of reference is what's important.

Men are under attack today from all sides. The OP's feelings are not imaginary...they are very real. But that should not be an excuse to give up. If anything, he should be thinking of how infuriated Charles XII of Sweden would be if he came back today and saw this moping around.

The quote about the "dying of shame" may not be the whole story, but I do think that there is some truth to it.

It's this: some people just give up, they just lie down and die. They throw in the towel. And this is what I was trying to communicate.

"Give up-itis" in all its forms, has to be resisted like the plague. This is what strikes such a visceral cord in me about some aspects of the MGTOW crowd.

And please note that, even though I do think that will power and the survival instinct is (to a great extent) an innate skill, that doesn't mean that all of us can improve our own mental conditioning to make the most with the tools we have.

No one is a hopeless case unless that person himself decides he is a hopeless case.

Like I said in the podcast, sometimes guys need to be berated, kicked, and slapped to get their vital juices flowing again.

But once a man decides all is lost, then little can be done for him.

It will be up to the OP to decide what direction he wants to go in.

But it can never be said that people didn't care, or didn't try to help.
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Does he have a problem with that?
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^ Time will tell.

#1 thing OP I think everyone can agree on is you need to find some at least a handful of outgoing male friends. There may be some RVFers in Sweden that can meet up with you.

If your gut tells you that the Swedish culture won't satisfy you it is time to use every vacation day you have (once you starting getting $) to find another place you want to live in.

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Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
Quote:WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Am I reacting to her? No pussy, all problems
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Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems
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Quote: (12-20-2015 03:42 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:  

@Going Strong:

Glad you liked the podcast.

Let me clarify some things.

Even though the examples I'm using are taken from WWII in the Pacific, we can still use the general lessons in our day-to-day lives. Most of us are not facing starvation or slave labor, but the mental frame of reference is what's important.

Men are under attack today from all sides. The OP's feelings are not imaginary...they are very real. But that should not be an excuse to give up. If anything, he should be thinking of how infuriated Charles XII of Sweden would be if he came back today and saw this moping around.

The quote about the "dying of shame" may not be the whole story, but I do think that there is some truth to it.

It's this: some people just give up, they just lie down and die. They throw in the towel. And this is what I was trying to communicate.

"Give up-itis" in all its forms, has to be resisted like the plague. This is what strikes such a visceral cord in me about some aspects of the MGTOW crowd.

And please note that, even though I do think that will power and the survival instinct is (to a great extent) an innate skill, that doesn't mean that all of us can improve our own mental conditioning to make the most with the tools we have.

No one is a hopeless case unless that person himself decides he is a hopeless case.

Like I said in the podcast, sometimes guys need to be berated, kicked, and slapped to get their vital juices flowing again.

But once a man decides all is lost, then little can be done for him.

It will be up to the OP to decide what direction he wants to go in.

But it can never be said that people didn't care, or didn't try to help.

I agree with your post above.
Of course, the following is true: "even though I do think that will power and the survival instinct is (to a great extent) an innate skill, that doesn't mean that all of us can't improve our own mental conditioning to make the most with the tools we have". Innate skills can always be somewhat acquired. Like, many people don't have the innate-skill of dancing or singing, but, with a lot of work, everybody can achieve an OK level at dancing or singing. Same I guess with survival skills.

One thing (and this is what upsets me with the OP): "how infuriated Charles XII of Sweden would be if he came back today and saw this moping around": yes! I do think that our ancestors would be furious if they came back and saw people like OP. But, you know what? They wouldn't even help him. They'd be too disgusted by his moral weakness. The most they would do is, kick his ass, order him to join the army, or send him to the rowing-boats, to make a man out of him... Anyway, I guarantee you that a nobleman coming back from the ages and seeing OP, would just be furious, incredulous and furious, at seeing a "physically strong" and not really poor, able-bodied man living "depressed" with his mom. Our ancestors wouldn't even understand the word "depressed".

Anyway, about: "But once a man decides all is lost, then little can be done for him". I agree, and it brought me a memory of a great movie, that OP should watch: All is Lost! A must-see, to understand what a real man is about, when his survival is threatened.

[Image: robert-redford-all-is-lost.jpg]
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Quote: (12-20-2015 01:09 PM)Going strong Wrote:  

Quote: (12-20-2015 10:46 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

For fuck sake Im no god damn troll, what the fuck is even this to troll about? If you are so convinced well then dont fucking answer or just remove my damn thread then, fucking idiot

To begin with, I am not the forum moderator, so I can't remove your thread, obviously. Or were you actually insulting not me, but the forum moderator? [Image: dodgy.gif]

In both cases, it makes you a, I quote, "fucking idiot" yourself: either thinking that a simple forum member can remove a thread, or by insulting the forum moderator.

Also, you might be "depressed and feeling lost and weak", but you do have some big foul-mouth on you, dude! [Image: undecided.gif]

Ah, to Travesty and even Phoenix:

You are wrong to give this OP credit for his (virtual) show of "anger". Because, his show of anger is just that: purely virtual. It's internet virtual bravery. [Image: tard.gif]

Calling me over the internet, "a fucking idiot", do you think it shows that "OP has balls and is starting to fight back"? [Image: tard.gif]

No. It would be commendable (in some way) if OP were to try and tell me that in-real-life. But, insulting someone that lives thousand of miles away, over the internet, it's not "valuable anger", it's female, coward aggressiveness.

To end the matter: OP, congratulations, you've made it to the list of people who have insulted me over the internet. Curiously though, none of these people ever asked to meet me in real life... Funny how internet warriors become very shy when it comes to actually meeting people in real life...[Image: sleepy.gif]

Dude get the fuck off my nuts, reading half that shit painfully reminded me of my mother - and my mother is a pain in the ass. Now I love my mother, but I dont love you, and you also seem to be a pain in the ass - I also used to be an internet warrior in my teens and quite frankly I was darn good at it, but If you wanna keep arguing about nonsense I suggest you go join some jezbel forum since the estrogen dominated creatures on there seem to enjoy wasting time on completely useless bullshit, thanks and good bye.
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Quote: (12-20-2015 02:44 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:  

I've been thinking about thread. And I made a podcast especially for it. This is for the OP.

http://qcurtius.com/2015/12/20/the-ethics-of-survival/

.

Cool man Ima check it out right now, thanks.
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Quote: (12-20-2015 04:12 PM)Travesty Wrote:  

^ Time will tell.

#1 thing OP I think everyone can agree on is you need to find some at least a handful of outgoing male friends. There may be some RVFers in Sweden that can meet up with you.

If your gut tells you that the Swedish culture won't satisfy you it is time to use every vacation day you have (once you starting getting $) to find another place you want to live in.

For sure. I was so much happier when I had alot of male friends, even during the time I didnt get no pussy at all. No friendship seriously drags ur self esteem down the shitter.
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QC's podcast is high quality and deep.

QC for repping RVF though I only found one fappable pic of girls on your site. That white bikini chick with the bubble ass. There needs to be more balance, with all that other classy stuff.

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Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
Quote:WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Am I reacting to her? No pussy, all problems
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Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems
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Quote: (12-20-2015 04:16 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

Quote: (12-20-2015 01:09 PM)Going strong Wrote:  

Quote: (12-20-2015 10:46 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

For fuck sake Im no god damn troll, what the fuck is even this to troll about? If you are so convinced well then dont fucking answer or just remove my damn thread then, fucking idiot

To begin with, I am not the forum moderator, so I can't remove your thread, obviously. Or were you actually insulting not me, but the forum moderator? [Image: dodgy.gif]

In both cases, it makes you a, I quote, "fucking idiot" yourself: either thinking that a simple forum member can remove a thread, or by insulting the forum moderator.

Also, you might be "depressed and feeling lost and weak", but you do have some big foul-mouth on you, dude! [Image: undecided.gif]

Ah, to Travesty and even Phoenix:

You are wrong to give this OP credit for his (virtual) show of "anger". Because, his show of anger is just that: purely virtual. It's internet virtual bravery. [Image: tard.gif]

Calling me over the internet, "a fucking idiot", do you think it shows that "OP has balls and is starting to fight back"? [Image: tard.gif]

No. It would be commendable (in some way) if OP were to try and tell me that in-real-life. But, insulting someone that lives thousand of miles away, over the internet, it's not "valuable anger", it's female, coward aggressiveness.

To end the matter: OP, congratulations, you've made it to the list of people who have insulted me over the internet. Curiously though, none of these people ever asked to meet me in real life... Funny how internet warriors become very shy when it comes to actually meeting people in real life...[Image: sleepy.gif]

Dude get the fuck off my nuts, reading half that shit painfully reminded me of my mother - and my mother is a pain in the ass. Now I love my mother, but I dont love you, and you also seem to be a pain in the ass - I also used to be an internet warrior in my teens and quite frankly I was darn good at it, but If you wanna keep arguing about nonsense I suggest you go join some jezbel forum since the estrogen dominated creatures on there seem to enjoy wasting time on completely useless bullshit, thanks and good bye.
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Quote: (12-20-2015 04:20 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  

For sure. I was so much happier when I had alot of male friends, even during the time I didnt get no pussy at all. No friendship seriously drags ur self esteem down the shitter.

You like lifting and are athletic. Repeat what you did in your teens with Counterstrike friends. Just do it now with a local sports league, martial arts, or outdoor clubs. Easy fix.

Instead of hanging out at the internet game room you will be at the gym, field, or out on a trip with people.

You sound like you enjoy team competition and comraderie. A sports league like rugby or hockey may be your best best.

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Quote: (05-19-2016 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
If I talk to 100 19 year old girls, at least one of them is getting fucked!
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Is she reacting to me? All pussy, no problems
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