I'd like to express my thoughts on this significant topic.
'Game' is an extremely nebulous word, certainly too nebulous to address this important topic. The dictionary definition of 'game' is "a form of competitive activity or sport played according to rules". It's too broad to do more than refute the idea that getting girls is just 'magic' or 'luck', and assert that it is a competitive activity and follows certain rules.
Sex and love are two different, but overlapping, aims. Hence, the 'games' that are played to achieve those aims are
also different, and to some extent pull in different directions.
The standard strategy for getting a lot of sex is straightforward: go where girls put out. Go into the clubs and the bars, where you can find chicks willing to do one-nighters and put out on the first date. Go to countries where chicks get sexually active early and put out easy. Hit on drunk chicks. Get on tinder and dating websites which disproportionately draw certain types of girls. Then screen hard and push for sex quickly.
An insightful anecdote on this comes from LINUX, when he mentioned hanging out with some guys in Colombia, and they started showing pics of girls they'd banged and asking "have you guys done this one?" and getting choruses of "yep".
Love is not something you can
do. It is something that can be
triggered in you, and which you can
allow to happen.
For this reason, the strategy for getting love differs in several ways. Firstly, you're not finding it in the same place that you're getting an easy lay. Men do not fall in love with a drunken one-nighter. Men do not fall in love with an easy girl unless they don't have enough wisdom to recognize that she's easy. Men do not fall in love with boorish loud-mouth arrogant chicks. Those things simply do not
trigger the love instinct regardless of how hot the chick is, they preclude it.
Love is basically a level above respect. Respect is not something you can
do or
be compelled to do (regardless of what your school teachers told you). It is
an instinctual response to someone embodying the values you hold. Love is a deeper level than that. It could perhaps be expanded in definition to "deep sexual respect" (using a broad definition of sexual, i.e. "between sexes", not "carnal"). The multi-part source of what triggers this is difficult to express, but I'll make an attempt.
The woman who triggers love is naturally and expressively feminine and innocent in coherence with
his specific (not society's) ideals of intelligence*, beauty, and character. This, and the equivalent male counter-part, is what I suspect creates the 'connection' people nebulously talk about. If a man meets a woman like this, and does not 'screen her out' because she is too shy to go to bed with him, and persists, then that is the course to love. That is what awakens the man to the feeling that "this one is special", which eventually burrows into his emotions and transforms to its visceral counterpart of 'love'.***
*I'm of the opinion that the word 'intelligence' is too broad, and that there should be a different word to describe 'highly functioning brain' for each gender. Even 'feminine intelligence' is too clumsy because it implies two things happening together rather than a single phenomenon. The structure of men's and women's brains is very different [1] and expresses itself differently. In this case of women, I surmise that this is expressed by smooth fluid responsive appropriate/natural emotional transitions, freely expressed and with high dynamic range, coupled with a 'default happiness'. The way I describe observing this is feeling like "her brain is singing".
***Plus hitting it raw when the sex finally happens. Can you imagine the consummation of such a courtship involving the guy putting a sensationless rubber barrier between them?
Which leads to the spectra that affect the odds of this happening:
- Is your city full of sluts who ride 10 dicks before they turn 15, or women who wait until marriage?
- Does your society encourage cultural sexual androgyny, or polarization?
- Are you chasing the kind of woman you think will be impressive or acceptable to others, or what you truly viscerally want?
- Are you indulging in your sexual impatience by trying to bang club sluts, or are you deliberately trekking into the edges and the nooks of society to find and tenaciously pursue the untouched girls of ladylike reserve?
- Are you able to communicate with her deeply enough to see her subsurface traits, or are you hacking your way through a conversation with a smartphone translator? **
** Most difficult truth for me to stomach. Language acquisition was never my strong point.
Finally, any guy who claims that love is weak or pathetic (aka 'beta'), is either a keyboard alpha who hasn't grown up, is confused over the difference between "requited" and "pointless chasing of the unrequited", or has been so embittered by life that he genuinely sees avoiding feelings of love as a necessary for survival.
The antidote for the first two is time, experience, and introspection. The antidote for the last is expanding your horizons.
Anyway I hope this made sense and wasn't too vague. It also goes without saying that in either case your success will be improved by being as attractive as you can possibly be.
[1]
http://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/males...structures