http://www.rooshv.com/the-elephant-in-the-room
I wrote in the comments section:
Roosh's article brings up an important point this is less often talked about on the forum and the 'sphere in general: love & the game.
The majority of this community is made of people have been bitter and jaded from shortcomings with women and relationships in their earlier years and being jilted and hurt one too many times. A small minority are people who simply enjoy women at a hedonistic surface level and have never concerned themselves with much more, and an even smaller minority are natural players who are merely "enjoying the decline" as we say.
Whatever your stake is in the game. Whatever your reason for playing, your origin story, and where you are currently at, there is no denying that there is little room for "love" if you truly live by the tenets of game as we know them.
I for one fall into the former category. I come from a history of complete betatude where I have been cheated on and/or jilted a number of times in LTRs in my young adult years. That history combined with discovering the manosphere and game has lead me to equate sensitivity, attachment, caring, selflessness, and all general aspects of nice-guy-ness with being taken advantage of, hurt, rejection, cheating, lies, disloyalty, etc. For the first year or so of game I faked it until I made with being more emotionally unavailable, a little douchey, and selfish. Nowadays I've noticed that has really started to manifest itself to where my default demeanor is to be kind of an icy prick with women.
This is a catch 22 that we have all touched upon here and there on the forum but never dove too far into. These things have helped me guard my heart from women hurting me, but has also cost me potential relationships and interactions which could have been wonderful and enjoyable. Do we all want to just rail and bail on endless random broads until the day we die? Is merely pushing for sex asap and having an uncompromising demeanor towards women a good long term plan? Is catching feelings for a girl to be avoided at all costs?
I wrote in the comments section:
Quote:General Stalin Wrote:
Thanks for writing. You published this article at a very apt point in my life. I've noticed myself becoming more and more of a selfish and impatient asshole with women and it has certainly ruined many interactions and potential relationships I could have had.
Game teaches us to be hard, expectation independent, stoic, selfish, uncompromising, and even manipulative. Grinding these tenets into your head for years will eventually turn you into someone who has a hard time connecting with women on a deeper level and actually pair-bonding and having the patience and sensitivity to forge a worthwhile relationship.
It's not about being some hard-nose take no shit alpha 24/7. No one can be like that. You'd have to be a robot and/or be alone forever. Its about finding a happy medium between being a selfish asshole badboy and being an accomodating sensitive beta
Roosh's article brings up an important point this is less often talked about on the forum and the 'sphere in general: love & the game.
The majority of this community is made of people have been bitter and jaded from shortcomings with women and relationships in their earlier years and being jilted and hurt one too many times. A small minority are people who simply enjoy women at a hedonistic surface level and have never concerned themselves with much more, and an even smaller minority are natural players who are merely "enjoying the decline" as we say.
Whatever your stake is in the game. Whatever your reason for playing, your origin story, and where you are currently at, there is no denying that there is little room for "love" if you truly live by the tenets of game as we know them.
I for one fall into the former category. I come from a history of complete betatude where I have been cheated on and/or jilted a number of times in LTRs in my young adult years. That history combined with discovering the manosphere and game has lead me to equate sensitivity, attachment, caring, selflessness, and all general aspects of nice-guy-ness with being taken advantage of, hurt, rejection, cheating, lies, disloyalty, etc. For the first year or so of game I faked it until I made with being more emotionally unavailable, a little douchey, and selfish. Nowadays I've noticed that has really started to manifest itself to where my default demeanor is to be kind of an icy prick with women.
This is a catch 22 that we have all touched upon here and there on the forum but never dove too far into. These things have helped me guard my heart from women hurting me, but has also cost me potential relationships and interactions which could have been wonderful and enjoyable. Do we all want to just rail and bail on endless random broads until the day we die? Is merely pushing for sex asap and having an uncompromising demeanor towards women a good long term plan? Is catching feelings for a girl to be avoided at all costs?