Quote: (08-26-2017 10:13 AM)godzilla Wrote:
Many White American Liberal girls from big American cities won't pay too much attention to minority guys. Too many negative stereotypes about those guys have fill their minds. New York probably has the largest community of successful black men as well in the whole county, so I can imagine there's a lot competition and the white girls who like black guys have plenty to choose from.
Personally, Im mixed (mostly white, about 1/4 black) and lived in Philadelphia for a while and looking back on it, I rarely dated girls who were actually from Philadelphia or the very near suburbs. Most were from far out suburbs or rural PA or NJ.
At the same time, I think this problem can be overcome and I know 2 black men in New York who have crazy good success with women. They're usually successful, well-dressed and have friends of every race and color you can think of.
Actually come to think it, I went to Chappele's Radio City show in New York recently and there were many black men there dating extremely sexy white girls.
The best advice I can for dating white girls is to find girls who are moving to the city from rural parts of the country. They won't have those negative stereotypes, and I can guarantee they've probably rarely met a successful well-dressed man who wasn't white.
Quote: (08-25-2018 05:54 PM)browndude Wrote:
What's this nonsense about indians / asians not killing it in NYC? I notice so many indians on dates w white chicks at restaurants all the time. I'm a brown dude and i've banged 30 chicks year to date with 65%+ white. Online, social circle, clubs / bars / one day-game you name it. Yes 6'2" chads have it easier anywhere in the world but work on smv and game and you'll slay.
Literally made this account to say that. I hope no brothers read this thread and internalized this self-limiting crap. My roommate who is brown slayed, my best friend who is brown slays, and my cousin who is brown slays.
Pls don't interpret the above to mean you can be 5'5" overweight ungroomed poor clothes and thick accent and awkwardly approach. Maximizing SMV is still key.
Edit: And all kinds of chicks but mostly american northeast born and bred college educated chicks. But you can bang anyone. There is no such thing as a league believe in yourself. This stuff riles me up to no end. If you don't believe in yourself why would the chick???
Quote: (08-27-2017 12:40 PM)jselysianeagle Wrote:
Quote: (08-26-2017 10:13 AM)godzilla Wrote:
Many White American Liberal girls from big American cities won't pay too much attention to minority guys. Too many negative stereotypes about those guys have fill their minds. New York probably has the largest community of successful black men as well in the whole county, so I can imagine there's a lot competition and the white girls who like black guys have plenty to choose from.
Personally, Im mixed (mostly white, about 1/4 black) and lived in Philadelphia for a while and looking back on it, I rarely dated girls who were actually from Philadelphia or the very near suburbs. Most were from far out suburbs or rural PA or NJ.
At the same time, I think this problem can be overcome and I know 2 black men in New York who have crazy good success with women. They're usually successful, well-dressed and have friends of every race and color you can think of.
Actually come to think it, I went to Chappele's Radio City show in New York recently and there were many black men there dating extremely sexy white girls.
The best advice I can for dating white girls is to find girls who are moving to the city from rural parts of the country. They won't have those negative stereotypes, and I can guarantee they've probably rarely met a successful well-dressed man who wasn't white.
You definitely raise some interesting points and your observations echo my own. With regards to white, non-european women in NYC, I'd say among minority guys, black guys seem to do the best. My "napkin" theory as to why this might be:
1) Cooler to be seen with a black dude than other minority dudes
2) An undoubtedly masculine depiction in the media and culture in general. There's no equivalent of a Denzel Washington, Will Smith, or any number of famous male celebrities in music/sports in the Asian/Indian-American communities. Bruce Lee was decades ago and was even then seen as Chinese first, not American. Aziz Ansari and John Cho still come across as beta, as successful as they are. Hispanic whites are effectively white and generally blend just blend in, while the other Hispanic groups (Puerto Rican, Dominican) normally hang uptown and have their own scene goin on. They also have enough cute Dominican women that stick to their own, so they probably don't feel the need to venture outside anyway
3) Being seen as quintessentially American. Can anyone seriously question the impact of jazz, hip-hop, r&b etc. on the very fabric of American culture? South Asians didn't begin to arrive in large numbers here until the 90s, so as a group their history in this country is very young, and they have a shit ton of emasculating stereotypes to contend with to boot. Meanwhile other Asian-Americans are often seen as Asian first, then American.
Things are slowly changing of course, and there might well be many other influencing factors, but these are the main things I think explain what's being observed.
Quote: (10-03-2018 03:09 PM)Myarkin Wrote:
$50 a day barely covers your meals in NYC or around. Be prepared to spend100-250 a day with limited mongering/partying.
Where to stay depends on your budget for housing. NYC is expensive as hell. Use airbnb. Queens or Brooklyn is only few minutes with train/subway.
Best partying spots are village, chealse, upper east side along 2nd avenue.
Nightlife is HUGE comparing to other cities. Google what you are looking and what part of NYC.
Quote: (10-20-2018 11:49 AM)Harryhonolulu Wrote:
Unfortunately my 2 cents with NYC is that girls here are extremely guarded and that it's an epidemic.
They are on their phones 24/7. At the bar, on the subway, walking down the street, at restaurants, at galleries, at the park. It's fucking impossible to get them out of their little bubble. I'm 36 so I've got a foot in the past (pre iPhone) and a foot in the present since I'm technically a millennial. And I can honestly say that Steve Jobs fucked up our day game jam to no end.
A real-life example of NYC chicks and their iPhone addiction: In other cities (say, Los Angeles) I found that Uber Pool and Lyft Share is a GREAT way of connecting with chicks. Obviously you have no way of knowing until you get in the car - but I've had at least 5 hot girls sit in the back with me and by the end of the ride we exchanged phone numbers.
In NYC they get in, barely say hi, get on their phones and literally don't look up for 30 minutes. I've tried breaking through the barrier and you end up feeling like a goddamn rapist just by saying "what are you up to tonight".
It's fucking sad.
Yes, I know - iPhones are everywhere and it's not just an NYC thing. But the difference is that NYC is so densely populated that the iPhone has given people an "out" from dealing with each other, which was ironically what always drew me to the city in the first place. That sense of community, of being able to strike a conversation about just about anything, with just about anyone. That seems to be going down the tubes, like a lot of NYC's bohemian, free-spirited culture.
It's an online dating playground. Picking up chicks in a "normal" way just isn't done anymore. And of course with online dating in NYC the biggest pitfall is that both dudes and chicks get bored by the 3rd date (if you're lucky, after a fuck) and they hop back onto the app looking for someone else.
I have been wondering about CitySwoon... anyone try it?
Quote: (08-25-2018 06:33 PM)BaatumMania Wrote:
I heard a man was able to swipe through 220,000 women in San Francisco on Tinder. There could very well be double, triple or quadruple that number in New York.
Quote: (10-25-2018 07:01 AM)frankyja Wrote:
NYC is probably the best city in my experience to get a quick lay with a quality woman. The only thing is that its too damn expensive and you have to be in Midtown or UES area to succeed. Girls are usually bored + horny as hell because most of them dont have many friends since majority are transplants to NYC. Also, NYC is a freakshow so most of them have their guard up all the time. This is the only place Ive had success with Tinder in the past and high end bars.
