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10-12-2015, 03:23 PM
Do you find it easy to keep eye contact with starngers easily? I always tell myself Im gonna keep eye contact when a girl looks at me and I always fail, I alway end up looking somewhere else, Im guessing its just anxiety because under the influence I am a beast at keeping eye contact lol
Any tips?
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10-12-2015, 03:36 PM
Think of eye contact as a game of playing chicken. Who ever back downs first loses.
Many women like a confident man who can maintain eye contact without getting nervous. Some girls may be intimidated by it as it's too intense for them. Learn to calibrate it as you go. Just make sure if you maintain intense eye contact with a girl that you act on it and approach her. Otherwise she will see you add either weird or a threat
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10-12-2015, 03:53 PM
Practice practice practice
I used to be such a pussy I couldn't look anyone in the eyes because it made me uncomfortable, even my family and close friends. I'm still working on it but am lightyears ahead of how I used to be
Do like LA savage says and make it a game, that's how I first started to do it. Its hard at first but it still gives me such a pump when I lock eyes with a chick and she's the one who looks away first. Especially when she's good looking and confident and will last longer than most girls, gets my heart racing!
Also, doesn't even have to be when you're out gaming, if you're just walking around a place with people about just try and make and maintain eye contact with any and all.
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10-12-2015, 04:05 PM
What he said ^
I could never hold eye contact with anyone let alone attractive chicks. I still have problems with it if I'm in an enclosed space such as the tube and they are right next to me (gets a little too weird). I can maintain eye contact with anyone now. I just have problems acting upon it which also comes with practice.
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10-12-2015, 04:18 PM
Quote: (10-12-2015 03:36 PM)LA Savage Wrote:
Think of eye contact as a game of playing chicken. Who ever back downs first loses.
Many women like a confident man who can maintain eye contact without getting nervous. Some girls may be intimidated by it as it's too intense for them. Learn to calibrate it as you go. Just make sure if you maintain intense eye contact with a girl that you act on it and approach her. Otherwise she will see you add either weird or a threat
I like this video as it represent exactly everything quoted above:
You can force the EC if the woman is receptive and you have the possibility to approach right away.
Do not get labeled as weird when the girl does not engage in your sexy staring contest and you kept staring at her.
Subtlety is the Word
Tell them too much, they wouldn't understand; tell them what they know, they would yawn.
They have to move up by responding to challenges, not too easy not too hard, until they paused at what they always think is the end of the road for all time instead of a momentary break in an endless upward spiral
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10-12-2015, 05:01 PM
Yep if a girl looks at you and looks away immediately, it means you're not attractive enough for her. In those situations, don't force eye contact. Only lock eyes with chicks who lock eyes with you. When she looks away, don't keep staring at her. Approach if possible.
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10-12-2015, 06:54 PM
If you are unsure and you are not in a club environment, is signing 'hi' (or miming hi) to confirm to approach a good idea? Or maybe many girls wouldn't reciprocate the 'hi' even if they would be up for an approach?
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10-12-2015, 10:05 PM
Does anyone else forget sometimes? I have no problem if I concentrate on it.
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10-13-2015, 01:45 PM
I used to never look people in the eye but then slowly I started looking at friends directly in the eyes when talking and this helped a lot.
I never lose eye contact now everyone always looks away first especially girls.
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11-08-2016, 08:28 AM
A girl who I barely know and never talked to, upon seeing me walking in her direction, sees me, quickly take out her phone and looks at it. While doing that, she takes a quick look at me and looks back at her phone. What do you guys think of this?
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11-08-2016, 12:40 PM
Practice holding eye contact when conversing with friends, relatives and coworkers. You will notice that most people will look away, look down, etc. Carrying that skill over to women should come easily once you gain some inner confidence and find that holding eye contact isn't that big of a deal. Once you start to get that down, you'll laugh a little inside when you see people struggling to maintain eye contact with you. When I practiced this, I noticed that the only two people who could hold eye contact with me were my two closest friends, who are both very confident and successful with women.
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11-14-2016, 06:41 AM
I never had problems on eye contact. Girls playing eye contact game all the time. They are used to pussified men therefore they get intimidate when you win the game.
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11-20-2016, 09:37 PM
My experience has come through the following transition.
Beta: Check out chicks, get caught, accidental eye contact, look away, experience shame, no pussy.
to
Alpha: Eye contact ASAP, when she looks away you check her out, dominance, no shame, get pussy.
The longer she tries to hold eye contact the better the outcome if you succeed in beating her(obviously you don't want to look like Samuel Jackson in the gif above. It has to be alpha, not psycho gamma). This counts ten times as much if she's wearing a low cut top with cleavage. Make no mistake, it's a control mechanism and women are not attracted to men they can easily control. It's almost a simple filter for alpha males.
Low cut top and he still goes to the eyes first (tits after)? Obviously the guy has frame and serious self control. Opposite? Instant gratification impulse = loser 99 times out of 100.
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11-21-2016, 03:06 AM
Personally I've had trouble balancing focusing on listening to the person speak(which causes me to have little to no eye contact) vs making sure there is enough eye contact to show I'm listening. If I try to actively focus on making eye contact I tend to worry whether my eye contact is either too much or too little and as a result I lose focus on what the person is actually saying.
Anyone else have this problem?
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11-21-2016, 06:07 AM
Quote: (11-21-2016 03:06 AM)eddie_7 Wrote:
Personally I've had trouble balancing focusing on listening to the person speak(which causes me to have little to no eye contact) vs making sure there is enough eye contact to show I'm listening. If I try to actively focus on making eye contact I tend to worry whether my eye contact is either too much or too little and as a result I lose focus on what the person is actually saying.
Anyone else have this problem?
This is just a matter of practice. I used to have the same problem but once I gained more confidence it ceased to be an issue.
I guess like a lot of skills, the more stuff you can learn to do intuitively the less it appears that you're trying. Like a practised juggler compared to someone who's just got the hang of it.
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