Hit the tipping point - it's 9PM on a Thursday here in Tucson and I just went to the bars to attempt night game.
The bars were completely dead, except for one: it had exactly 19 men and two girls. One girl was surrounded by five tall, muscled men. No chance. The other girl was alone with her boyfriend.
This same thing happened to me in Phoenix this weekend, where the guy:girl ratio in both Phoenix and Scottsdale was 4:1 and 6:1, respectively.
I can't figure out how a man and a woman meet. It's not supposed to happen at work, and nightlife is a huge sausagefest!
Day game is inherently hard, though, because every frickin' girl on earth is constantly buried in her iPhone with headphones in.
I'd be willing to bet that the vast majority of American men with a girlfriend did NOT cold approach her with day game. So how does it happen?
This post is to express my frustration at getting started in game and hear what the users of this blog have to say to a newbie in a struggle so deep that the reality of this community is in question. My two questions are:
How and where does a man meet a woman?
How does the woman become attracted to him, and have sex with him?
I have been intensely studying Roosh's works and forum and other PUA material for six months. I understand well the theories and how it should work. But it doesn't. Not for me.
One of Roosh's most weighty posts states that game comes down to being COOL and being INTERESTING. I have both of them, but only one notch, earned at age 25 in Paris - a gorgeous French-Asian girl that was largely initially attracted to me because of my 'exotic' American nationality. We met daytime in a tourist office, and it took six months - six months - to get the bang. Afterwards, I told her I was a virgin. She looked confused, and said she thought I was sleeping with women all over the world, 'like James Bond'.
Myself: Age 26, currently a grad student, American, blonde hair blue eyes, average male height, excellent physique, physically 7/10. Social skills slightly above average. I work in healthcare. Here is a video of me being interviewed on the news in China:
21K4TG in China
I'm going to be bold and say that I have had more amazing experiences then 99% of people my age, and make sure to subtly but confidently broadcast them in conversation. These are mostly travel-related, from flying solo to Ecuador to work in an infectious disease clinic in the Amazon to independently researching environmental issues in tropical Indonesia.
The best? A year and a half ago I quit my job, bought a bicycle and spent 14 months riding it, starting in South Africa and finishing in China, a distance of over 21,000 kilometers. I slept in caves and mosques, was violently robbed in Lesotho in broad daylight, met an African teenager who had never heard of New York, was stalked by bears, gypsies, and The World's Largest Centipede, climbed Mt. Olympus, and was uncomfortably hit on by a pretty but toothless Burmese girl on a palm oil plantation.
I also have played fencing and ice hockey, can cook amazing Asian and Mexican dishes, worked as a snowboard instructor, and am a polyglot, speaking fluent Spanish, intermediate Indonesian, and basic Chinese and Malay.
I make sure leak out these values in conversations, with a decent vibe as the above video indicated.
This has been my life; some may find it boring, but I think I'm totally awesome. Isn't that what matters, in game and in life? I KNOW I am both cool and interesting.
But girls don't.
My game is novice at best.
But there are far, far, far duller, uglier, drier and more sexually unappealing guys out there that get ten times more notches then me, without having any game.
Why?
The bars were completely dead, except for one: it had exactly 19 men and two girls. One girl was surrounded by five tall, muscled men. No chance. The other girl was alone with her boyfriend.
This same thing happened to me in Phoenix this weekend, where the guy:girl ratio in both Phoenix and Scottsdale was 4:1 and 6:1, respectively.
I can't figure out how a man and a woman meet. It's not supposed to happen at work, and nightlife is a huge sausagefest!
Day game is inherently hard, though, because every frickin' girl on earth is constantly buried in her iPhone with headphones in.
I'd be willing to bet that the vast majority of American men with a girlfriend did NOT cold approach her with day game. So how does it happen?
This post is to express my frustration at getting started in game and hear what the users of this blog have to say to a newbie in a struggle so deep that the reality of this community is in question. My two questions are:
How and where does a man meet a woman?
How does the woman become attracted to him, and have sex with him?
I have been intensely studying Roosh's works and forum and other PUA material for six months. I understand well the theories and how it should work. But it doesn't. Not for me.
One of Roosh's most weighty posts states that game comes down to being COOL and being INTERESTING. I have both of them, but only one notch, earned at age 25 in Paris - a gorgeous French-Asian girl that was largely initially attracted to me because of my 'exotic' American nationality. We met daytime in a tourist office, and it took six months - six months - to get the bang. Afterwards, I told her I was a virgin. She looked confused, and said she thought I was sleeping with women all over the world, 'like James Bond'.
Myself: Age 26, currently a grad student, American, blonde hair blue eyes, average male height, excellent physique, physically 7/10. Social skills slightly above average. I work in healthcare. Here is a video of me being interviewed on the news in China:
21K4TG in China
I'm going to be bold and say that I have had more amazing experiences then 99% of people my age, and make sure to subtly but confidently broadcast them in conversation. These are mostly travel-related, from flying solo to Ecuador to work in an infectious disease clinic in the Amazon to independently researching environmental issues in tropical Indonesia.
The best? A year and a half ago I quit my job, bought a bicycle and spent 14 months riding it, starting in South Africa and finishing in China, a distance of over 21,000 kilometers. I slept in caves and mosques, was violently robbed in Lesotho in broad daylight, met an African teenager who had never heard of New York, was stalked by bears, gypsies, and The World's Largest Centipede, climbed Mt. Olympus, and was uncomfortably hit on by a pretty but toothless Burmese girl on a palm oil plantation.
I also have played fencing and ice hockey, can cook amazing Asian and Mexican dishes, worked as a snowboard instructor, and am a polyglot, speaking fluent Spanish, intermediate Indonesian, and basic Chinese and Malay.
I make sure leak out these values in conversations, with a decent vibe as the above video indicated.
This has been my life; some may find it boring, but I think I'm totally awesome. Isn't that what matters, in game and in life? I KNOW I am both cool and interesting.
But girls don't.
My game is novice at best.
But there are far, far, far duller, uglier, drier and more sexually unappealing guys out there that get ten times more notches then me, without having any game.
Why?