Everything above is great feedback. I would add a note on something I consider an under-discussed concern in psychological circles, as well as here regarding gaming women and OP's question on shyness.
Convergent vs Divergent Thinking
Many professions, certainly in the health care industry, are are almost completely based on convergent thinking. This is where there are a number of variables and factors presented, and you're job is to come up with the correct answer. This is also something most men have naturally. We want to 'solve the problem'.
We can all think of examples...if not just open a textbook or any type of test. They're all asking you for the correct answer.
The opposite of convergent thinking is divergent thinking. The best explanation I've seen of this is from Malcolm Gladwell's book, Outliers:
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Write down as many different uses that you can think of for the following objects: 1. a brick 2. a blanket
This is an example of what’s called a “divergence test” (as opposed to a test like the Raven’s, which asks you to sort through a list of possibilities and converge on the right answer).
It requires you to use your imagination and take your mind in as many different directions as possible.
With a divergence test, obviously there isn’t a single right answer.
What the test giver is looking for are the number and the uniqueness of your responses.
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It's not a secret that men in "nerdier" professions like the sciences where convergent thinking is required tend to be naturally worse at game, whereas more creative fields such as marketing and sales where divergent thinking is required tend to be naturally better at game.
OP, I suspect your "shyness" actually stems from a lack of confidence, perhaps not in yourself as a person or in your ability as a doctor or in other areas of life, but rather in your confidence as a divergent thinker who can create beauty out of random bull-shit.
And we all know chics dig a beautiful story created out of random bull-shit.
I work in a very high convergent career right now. I can tell during the week and on Friday after work, I'm terribly prepared for gaming and creating bull-shit.
Knowing and understanding this alone should help you not beat up on yourself for being shy. The next step is re-wire your brain before being social (creative exercises).
Hopefully that helps.
Edit: Damn, didn't answer your question. Yes, alphas can be shy.