[Dalaran1991]

Update:

Posted the ad on some more site, specifiying that I want someone who is respectful, private and quiet during the week, but that I dont mind having friends over or parties during the weekend.

Another French dude applied. He s 28 got a steady job, is an amateur photographer and looks quite old school classy.

First French dude is in Finance. Will also be working an internship, seems to be the cheery type.

So, thread has turned to: finance dude or amateur photographer dude?

I bet 100% vote on the photographer? He probably is better at getting pussies and might even helped me shoot some good photos for Tinder at discount?

[djjunior]

I lived with a French dude for 6 months out in Switzerland. He was cool and good with women. Definitely could be a good wingman if he's the outgoing type. I find when you make things clear about sharing food/ cleaning up from the beginning then life becomes much more easier, especially if your particular on your diet/food choices and keeping a clean crib.

[Geomann180]

When I moved out into my own place and find I need roommates, I'm going to list "must know a good pet shop" under list of requirements for applicants.

G

[AneroidOcean]

(03-09-2015 12:41 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

Update:

Posted the ad on some more site, specifiying that I want someone who is respectful, private and quiet during the week, but that I dont mind having friends over or parties during the weekend.

Another French dude applied. He s 28 got a steady job, is an amateur photographer and looks quite old school classy.

First French dude is in Finance. Will also be working an internship, seems to be the cheery type.

So, thread has turned to: finance dude or amateur photographer dude?

I bet 100% vote on the photographer? He probably is better at getting pussies and might even helped me shoot some good photos for Tinder at discount?

You're going to need to meet them or at least talk to them on the phone (maybe Skype). It's really imperative in a roommate that you can get along with their personality and also that you cover all the things that could potentially conflict (things that would bother either of you such as dirty dishes left out, noise, etc...)

I also highly, HIGHLY recommend that you enter into a lease agreement with your landlord that allows you to sublet. This way you can ultimately control who stays in "your" place. Also a good idea to run a credit check on people. People who have shitty credit are generally not that responsible.

[Dalaran1991]

(03-09-2015 10:01 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(03-09-2015 12:41 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

Update:

Posted the ad on some more site, specifiying that I want someone who is respectful, private and quiet during the week, but that I dont mind having friends over or parties during the weekend.

Another French dude applied. He s 28 got a steady job, is an amateur photographer and looks quite old school classy.

First French dude is in Finance. Will also be working an internship, seems to be the cheery type.

So, thread has turned to: finance dude or amateur photographer dude?

I bet 100% vote on the photographer? He probably is better at getting pussies and might even helped me shoot some good photos for Tinder at discount?

You're going to need to meet them or at least talk to them on the phone (maybe Skype). It's really imperative in a roommate that you can get along with their personality and also that you cover all the things that could potentially conflict (things that would bother either of you such as dirty dishes left out, noise, etc...)

I also highly, HIGHLY recommend that you enter into a lease agreement with your landlord that allows you to sublet. This way you can ultimately control who stays in "your" place. Also a good idea to run a credit check on people. People who have shitty credit are generally not that responsible.

Solid advice. I talked to my landlord about sublet but that means I have to be financially responsible for the entire apartment, which in France requires you to have some sort of "guarantee", similar to credit requirements in USA. Meaning if I want to rent the apartment in my name and then sublease, I need to gain minimum 4k/month in order to meet the credit requirements. In France that's equal to high upper middle class.

I've got some huge problems with a temporary roommate lately. Fucker swore up and down he will be respectful and shit, but he brings people over all the fucking time, throw trash all over the place and leave dishes unwashed for weeks!!!

Is there anything we could do to screen if the roommate will be responsible for the promises he made at the beginning? In France the leasing laws are ridiculous! Once you have signed a contract to rent a room with someone, neither you nor the landlord could kicks him out even if he burns down the house or does not pay rent for half a year. I'm not even half-joking. If you kick him out by force it's illegal. It's illegal for him to stay, but to get him out you have to go through processes that last for years and shit tons of $.

[polar]

If he's renting from you and especially if you have written house rules into the contract, shouldn't you be able to restrict access to his guests?


Standard stuff:
-Ask for landlord references or roommate references (less reliable), proof of income, credit check
-Ask for a large deposit and write in financial penalties into the sub lease contract, and document everything


The stuff you shouldn't do
-Be a hardass / terrible landlord
-Prank his ass
-Make plausibly deniable verbal threats
-Make friends with the mob
-Plant a kilo of coke in his room

Note: don't know French system, not a lawyer

[DarkTriad]

(03-08-2015 11:43 AM)Cheetah Wrote:  

You can't let her live there for just a week or so, helping out a friend of a friend who is in need. In the meantime make sure that you get to bang her. When the French/Italian guy moves in, the girl should already be out but kept in your rotation.

Even if you don't succeed to bang her, at least you've made a week worth of rent assuming that she can move in immediately.

Being a friend of a friend should be good social proof.

This is the way to go...she can stay for a week while she finds a permanent place. Sets the tone as a guest instead of an equal with obligations from you. She'll be eager to get/keep your goodwill, and that will keep the momentum in your favor.

[DarkTriad]

(03-09-2015 12:41 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

Update:

Posted the ad on some more site, specifiying that I want someone who is respectful, private and quiet during the week, but that I dont mind having friends over or parties during the weekend.

Another French dude applied. He s 28 got a steady job, is an amateur photographer and looks quite old school classy.

First French dude is in Finance. Will also be working an internship, seems to be the cheery type.

So, thread has turned to: finance dude or amateur photographer dude?

I bet 100% vote on the photographer? He probably is better at getting pussies and might even helped me shoot some good photos for Tinder at discount?

Photog 100%

[monster]

LOL don't pick a roommate based on what a forum tells you.

YOu have to talk to them, have a beer together and call references.

[Dalaran1991]

(03-13-2015 03:17 PM)monster Wrote:  

LOL don't pick a roommate based on what a forum tells you.

YOu have to talk to them, have a beer together and call references.

I'm meeting up with each candidate personally.

Still a good idea to have some feedback. Lots of the answers here are gold advice already.

[Alpha_Romeo]

Use the meet-up to determine whether the potential tenant has their shit together, as this will increase the likelihood that the person is responsible (will pay rent on-time, won't be a PITA to live with).

• Things to be on the lookout for:
• Lateness/tardiness
• Dresses like a slob/has poor hygiene
• Makes excuses/blames others for own shortcomings/fails to follow up on commitments/indecision
• Likes reality TV
  

You may have to use some indirect questioning (shit test, baby ) to suss out the answers to some of these, and there are probably other things to keep an eye out for.

[Esus]

OP, did you end up choosing a roommate ?

[the Thing]

(03-09-2015 12:41 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

Update:

Posted the ad on some more site, specifiying that I want someone who is respectful, private and quiet during the week, but that I dont mind having friends over or parties during the weekend.

Another French dude applied. He s 28 got a steady job, is an amateur photographer and looks quite old school classy.

First French dude is in Finance. Will also be working an internship, seems to be the cheery type.

So, thread has turned to: finance dude or amateur photographer dude?

I bet 100% vote on the photographer? He probably is better at getting pussies and might even helped me shoot some good photos for Tinder at discount?

I'd go with the finance dude, get close then pitch myself at his company, IF he has any decent career prospects. Otherwise go with the guy who can pay.

[Brodiaga]

(05-01-2015 04:16 PM)the Thing Wrote:  

I'd go with the finance dude, get close then pitch myself at his company

Unless he is in a position of power, there is not much point (and if he was, he wouldn't be looking for a roommate). He is just a cog in the wheel. All he can do is submit a referral resume. Most companies pay employees for referrals, so he'll probably agree to submit one even if he isn't OP's roommate as long as OP doesn't offend him by rejection (for example "i chose another candidate" instead of "old roommate moved back in, sorry")

[Spectrumwalker]

Wish I had seen this sooner. Do not ever live with a woman, unless she's the mother of your children. Especially if she's even remotely fuckable. You may give in. Whether she's a pretty girl or troglodyte, don't do it. Period. This is how I got trapped into my LTR of 6 years. First, I moved in with a girl. Then I started banging said girl. Then because we were living together and banging, it made for an instant exclusive relationship. Next thing you know, you've lost your soul.

OP, keep your place a bachelor pad. Don't let a girl invade your space. If you give a mouse a cookie, it will always come back for more.

[Dalaran1991]

Sorry didnt update you guys.

I did choose a roommate but none of the above. The finance guy turned out to be a weird creepy dude. And yeah I took the advice and refuse the girl.

Now I got the best roommate ever. A French-Italian guy, purple pill but cool as fuck. He's really into gaming chicks and if I take his word for it he has banged 35 girls at age 22. Game-wise he's just ok, but since he's pretty good looking, cool and assertive in general he has no trouble getting ass.

Everyday we woke up blasting music as morning ritual. For dinner we share beer/cocktails and talk about chicks and stuff. Good life. And we all go out all the time on dates so we have stories to share and keep each other motivated.

This, coupled with my new internship at one big ass research firm where people are purple pill as fuck, just make the transition from student to young professional a hell of a lot easier. My team manager at work just showed me a NSFW pic of a girl he banged last night and he's taking lunch off to see her. I think Im gonna learn new things this summer

[cascadecombo]

Smart move man.

[MrRoundtree]

I lived with a girl in Lille and it was super depressing, she was german and was cold as shit, had no emotions and just killed my mood and my vibe. She would never interact, she didn't know how to cook and was always eating in her room.
At this time I only brought home like 2 girls in 2014 during my time in Lille.

In 2015 switched to a chill german dude because the girl had to leave for germany, the guy was awesome, super funny, a bit beta but at least we would go out together, listen to music and exchange files, share beers and cook cometimes... it was pretty cool.

Girls can also be quite messy, she was the only leaving dishes int he sink, she broke one of my belgian beer glass, she left hair EVERYWHERE, blocked the shower many times with her hair...it was disgusting I had to unplug the showers a few times and I had to find the pipe cleaner liquid thing for her cause she is awful at french. There were hair all over the place although she never cleaned the floor.

And then she got angry at me because she found a fingernail in the sink and some of my facial hair...

Moral of the story, don't get a roommate that might make your life miserable and is not cooperative

[Lochte]

Thats dope that it worked out well, good luck!

[the Thing]

(05-13-2015 08:52 AM)MrRoundtree Wrote:  

I lived with a girl in Lille and it was super depressing, she was german and was cold as shit, had no emotions and just killed my mood and my vibe. She would never interact, she didn't know how to cook and was always eating in her room.
At this time I only brought home like 2 girls in 2014 during my time in Lille.

In 2015 switched to a chill german dude because the girl had to leave for germany, the guy was awesome, super funny, a bit beta but at least we would go out together, listen to music and exchange files, share beers and cook cometimes... it was pretty cool.

Girls can also be quite messy, she was the only leaving dishes int he sink, she broke one of my belgian beer glass, she left hair EVERYWHERE, blocked the shower many times with her hair...it was disgusting I had to unplug the showers a few times and I had to find the pipe cleaner liquid thing for her cause she is awful at french. There were hair all over the place although she never cleaned the floor.

And then she got angry at me because she found a fingernail in the sink and some of my facial hair...

Moral of the story, don't get a roommate that might make your life miserable and is not cooperative

Word. I had a girl roomie and it was the exact same shit. It's like marriage but without the sex (= it's like marriage)

[Dalaran1991]

Ok this is really fucked up.

My roommate and I have become best buddies/wing. Things are just perfect and now he just quit his internship. There's a chance he's gonna have to move soon.

Fuck this shit soon as I get a steady job Im getting a studio/1 bedroom. If you gotta have a roommate it better damn well be a good one or not at all.

[KofiKingston]

(05-21-2015 07:43 AM)the Thing Wrote:  

Word. I had a girl roomie and it was the exact same shit. It's like marriage but without the sex (= it's like marriage)

[jake1720]

Had a girl roommate. So many dudes came over.

I'd set on the limit on the amount of guys that can come over.

[Hades]

Dalaran that's actually kind of a sad story, you took most of the guy's advice here, it ended out great for a month or two, and now he goes and quits his internship.

[Dalaran1991]

(05-28-2015 01:29 PM)Hades Wrote:  

Dalaran that's actually kind of a sad story, you took most of the guy's advice here, it ended out great for a month or two, and now he goes and quits his internship.

yeah kinda sucks, he left yesterday. We were really kicking it off. Fucker went and fucked 2 girls before he left lol

I found a new roomie, this one a rather vanilla guy, but seems respectful, so theres that. Plus he leaves every weekend to go see his girlfriend so I ll have more freedom.

Soon as I get a steady job Im grabbing a 2 bedroom with good logistics.