Quote: (01-27-2015 08:11 PM)CactusCat589 Wrote:
Did you marry the single mom before or after finding this forum?
How did you set up the prenupt and the pre-marriage legalities? What were the factors and conditions that made it hard for her or the judge to overturn? I'm just surprised you got out of it intact, especially since she had a kid. Did they try to trap you into child support?
*gulp* Yes I married her after finding this forum. This forum was in its infancy, I think in those days, and didn't really use it much at all.
The thing is, although I was aware of the game and played it some, got laid some, I craved connection with another human being. I felt like I wasn't really happy doing serial dating or even dating multiple girls at the same time. I wanted more. I felt isolated and wanted a connection. That's the way we humans are wired, I guess.
But yeah, I put my hand in the fireplace and got burned. Being alone and craving a connection isn't all that bad if I can actually go out, travel, and meet people and get laid with some nice looking chicks here and there. I would very much rather have that than ruin my life over some bitch way past her physical peak.
For some guys, being on both sides of the coin was necessary for them to learn. I'm one of them.
EDIT: As for the prenup and legalities and child support, a lot depends on what state you're in. Texas is a community property state, so when you marry, everything you own and owe become community property and when you divorce, you split 50/50. My prenup outlines what is separate property before, during, and after marriage, like retirement accounts for example. Those won't be touched. Same with debts in one's own name (e.g. student loans), those also stay separate. Regarding child support, Texas law says no child support for stepchildren unless I adopted them as my own - which I didn't. Since the stepkid already is under a joint custody agreement / shared parenting plan, there will be no child support from any parties involved, least not me.