Quote: (05-04-2011 06:27 PM)oldnemesis Wrote:
So far you looked like a reasonable opponent, and not one of those immature guys who go nuts as soon as their reasons are questioned. Could you please address the questions intelligently, without insults?
@oldnem:
See, that's the thing: I don't see this as an
adversarial setting, so just the "opponent" choice-of-words already puts a sour look on my face. I'm like, "damn, I gotta write a dissertation on some meaningless-ass topic, only to have it dissected and have to respond endlessly." I'm not a big fan of semantic discussions and mincing particulars to this extent, especially when it's not in person.
Don't get me wrong, I generally like the game and wisdom you spit around here, but I'm not up for one of those dozen-post, back-and-forth discussions on this topic. I'm not really "feeling it," especially after the little insinuations like,
"you're such an unique and high value guy that hundreds of high value girls are lined up in front of your house." C'mon, you
know there was a provocative tone.
But, I appreciate the thoughtful follow-up, so for the record (and in brief): I don't have a problem with the honesty. My main problem is with
the reality. The brazen bragging about her past just makes it worse. No, I wouldn't rather that she lie. I'd want the truth and the chance to evaluate whether the girl meets my
individual standards for an LTR. To me, a threesome is already a deal-breaker. Talking about it openly, without solicitation (which I'd term as bragging, but call it what you want to) is even worse.
I used Yale as an (imperfect) analogy to merely illustrate high selectivity
in general. I wasn't trying to intimate that I'm prestigious and top-notch, I just meant I have rigid standards because I've worked hard to make myself into a high-value male and feel that I've earned that right. Yes, I see myself as worthy of a high-quality female, especially if I'm going to make the massive sacrifices required of a long-term commitment. If a girl has slutted around to that extent, her value drops considerably, in my book anyway--though this seems to be the consensus around here (judging by the comments in this thread). I don't adhere to these same standards for a fuck buddy, a short termer, or other shades of "relationships" with women. Clearly, I care little about what an SNL has done sexually, provided it doesn't mean I'm going to catch an STD.
I don't think there are many "Average Joes" on this board. Part of what brings this group together is that we're, quite frankly, rather exceptional men that work tirelessly on developing and improving ourselves in the pursuit of rewarding lives, which includes banging many quality women. If you want to see Average Joes, accept the next jury-duty solicitation you get in the mail, or go to the DMV on any given day.
Those are Average Joes.