Quote: (11-19-2014 04:03 PM)Pride male Wrote:
I was reading Roosh's post My Biggest Game Fuckup and it got me thinking about the times that I screwed up a sure thing.
A girl invited me to her place to watch a movie on her laptop. The lights were off and we sat on her bed watching American X. Instead on physically escalating I chickened out and blurted, 'Can I stay over for the night?' She immediately kicked me out.
That's just my biggest flop, but I have a two volumes of stories where I did a Fernando Torres and missed an open goal. Sometimes, you are your own cockblocker and game is also about what not to do. How have you guys missed clear opportunities that make you cringe?
Saying "can I stay over" actually worked for me 3 times and ironically I didn't actually want to have sex, I actually wanted to sleep and was too drunk to drive home. All 3 times they said yes and I just crawled into their bed, ended up having sex, then went to sleep. In hindsight I believe it worked because my mind was on sleep and needing to work the next day and so there was not a hint of desperation, I probably came across like I was asking where the toilet was.
I've had a lot of failures but the more I live the more I'm of the belief that with a strong inner frame you can almost be successful with the most "lame" lines/questions/statements. The frame is what conveys ultimately though.
I've followed the "rules" before, said the "right" things and still had failures and conversely I've broken the "rules" said what people say I shouldn't say and had successes (and vice versa of course).
The stronger my frame gets the less important my outer game needs to be it seems and the less the "outer rules" seem to matter.