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10-17-2014, 12:09 PM
I'm in my 20s, pursuing my Master's degree and hope to work as a statistician/programmer when I graduate. Many alumni from my program got jobs in Wall Street, making very good salaries. I didn't do well with American girls when younger, but got alot more attention from Asian girls during my recent short stay in Asia
I want to move out of the US permanently and build a career abroad, without having to resort to English teaching
I have no desire to start a family, have kids or get married anytime soon.
My main question is how is dating for guys in their 30s who are not interested in getting married? I definitely do have a preference for younger women. If I am well off financially, in shape, and pretty friendly dude, will I do well with women? I worry that the women that do want to date an older guy will only be in it for my money or because they see me as a stable provider/good marriage material.
Are foreign women (from 1st-world countries) more likely to be interested in guys in their 30s than American women? I highly prefer foreign women (especially the ones from the 1st-world Asian countries- Korea, Japan, Taiwan, etc) over American women
Thanks
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10-17-2014, 12:28 PM
As an example, when I browse dating websites in Asian countries, 18 year olds set their 'preferred age' range higher on average than Western women. In Australia POF it was 30 or lower. In Asia dating websites they would often go up to 35. In some extreme cases they set their minimums to 30.
I have been with girls who's ex-boyfriends had been 40s and 50s whilst they were early twenties.
So yeah they are more lenient with age. Probably because they have more traditional standards of male quality. No sensible 20 year old woman wants to be with a 20 year old clueless kid if they have the option of a 30yo winner.
My advice, do not concern yourself any more with 'will this be acceptable, is my masters a good idea, can I get nice girls in my 30s etc'. Concern yourself with learning the language of the country you want to work in. It's hard work. If you have that and do your networking and career research, I think you'll be fine.
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10-17-2014, 12:54 PM
A guy who says "I don't do well with American women" that has done less than 1,000 approaches is probably a guy who isn't willing to put in the work to learn game and get better at it. So that's my answer... do the work, take risks, learn the attitude, read Roosh's books... ect. ect.
The right attitude is: I don't give a shit... being 30 is the "prime" of your life and your life experiences will make you a better player... if you start now, of course.
If you don't like America because you don't like America, then leave (or travel like Roosh). If you don't like America because you can't get laid here, that's more your problem. I mean look around at the people who are having sex without regards to their looks, money, age, ect. If you can't get laid here, it's not going to be easier elsewhere...
Asia is not the magical answer for smart guys that lack self-confidence with women.
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10-17-2014, 01:02 PM
Well the ticket into Japanese employment is the JLPT N1 (and obviously a profession in demand there). It will be well over 1 year intensive studying to clear that if you are just a beginner (maybe a bit easier for you if you know Chinese characters). Yes, the Japanese women are very girly. Frankly though, you'll find pretty much any country in Asia to be a breath of fresh air compared to America. You can always move country later if you want. Note that Taiwan is a Mandarin country, and there are plenty of nice hotties there. I loved Taiwan, it's an awesome place.
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10-17-2014, 01:05 PM
Quote: (10-17-2014 12:54 PM)lycosidae Wrote:
If you can't get laid here, it's not going to be easier elsewhere...
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10-17-2014, 09:26 PM
You have nothing to worry about.
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10-17-2014, 11:21 PM
Kongzi, are you Chinese by descent ?
I have lived in singapore and hongkong. I am from hongkong originally.
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10-17-2014, 11:23 PM
FYI if you want to game in hongkong, mandarin will not help you. Although mandarin is beig mandated as a compulsory language in schools, cantonese remains the prevalent language.
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10-18-2014, 12:11 AM
No, I am not Chinese by descent. I mentioned Hong Kong and Singapore as the most realistic options not just because they are 1st-world where Mandarin/Cantonese is spoken, but also because it's easier to get by with just English there than in Japan or other Asian countries. Yeah, I know they speak Cantonese in HK, but it's probably easier for me at this point to pick up Cantonese than Japanese. Also, they have the strongest economies in Asia and in particular in finance, where I would like to work in, so it's probably easier for foreigners like me to get a job there. I'm also guessing they have the lowest levels of xenophobia towards Asian-Americans like me
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10-18-2014, 12:22 AM
What kind of asian are you? Ill do a detailed write up for you when I logon to the computer about the demographics surrounding hongkong and singapore.
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10-18-2014, 12:29 AM
What kind of demographics?
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10-18-2014, 02:44 PM
your sexual market place value should be increasing as you hit your 30s.