Hey guys, I’m a long time lurker and new member to the forum and I’m still having problems with LMR. I’ve searched the forum and read all of the threads and have applied the two steps forward, one step back approach, freeze outs, etc. and I still have many women leave my apartment with nothing but a make out a little heavy petting. My approach has always been to start slowly and gently ramp up the kissing, touching and physical escalation. Most of the time that’s met with them swatting my hands away and them pulling back saying something like “let’s slow things down”. After a few minutes of talking I’ll start again only to be stopped in the same place. This repeats a few more times and the woman gets up and eventually leaves appearing a little frustrated.
I guess my question is, how aggressive do I get in these situations and how caveman do I take things? I’m a recovering nice guy and will take every “no” that a woman tells me literally. I’ve dated women in the past who put up a lot of LMR and finally gave it up only to tell me later that they wanted me to “fight for the pussy” or “push through” their resistance. But in the back of my mind I’m terrified at being accused of date rape.
I guess my question is, how aggressive do I get in these situations and how caveman do I take things? I’m a recovering nice guy and will take every “no” that a woman tells me literally. I’ve dated women in the past who put up a lot of LMR and finally gave it up only to tell me later that they wanted me to “fight for the pussy” or “push through” their resistance. But in the back of my mind I’m terrified at being accused of date rape.