Quote: (08-16-2014 10:08 AM)pitt Wrote:
Quote: (08-16-2014 03:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:
Quote: (08-14-2014 10:24 PM)MarcJBrutus Wrote:
My point is that even players can have feelings for women whom they know are not LTR material. You already know this; no need to dig further into her past. And eject if you start to catch feelings.
This is so true.
That's one of the reasons it's sometimes makes sense to be picky even about who you fuck. Because once you're spending extended intimate time with a woman, it's easy to "fall into" a more serious relationship.
It's crazy how that shit creeps on you; we're only human. Even if you've been around the block yourself and are jaded enough to know better.
Not sure if I agree on this. I recently was dating a girl who I used to see as perfect (she had all qualities a man could look for) but soon as I found out she was a hoe, my emotional feelings went out of the window but I didn't dump her because the sex was so damn good and she made my life easier in some ways. I probably made a mistake in moving in with her but it was another player lesson in life. But if you know she is a hoe, you shouldn't have any emotional feelings towards her.
I'm a bit skeptical on you moving in with a woman you didn't have any emotional feelings for, but I'm sure it's possible if it was just a practical move and you saw it as a temp decision.
In any case, upon second thought, you are right. I've also had instances where I was head over heels for some chick and then found out about some slimy shit she had done, and I instantly cut off my emotions from then on, while still continuing to bang. And it wasn't hard to do so.
But I'm just saying the potential is there to catch feelings for hoes. I think it's almost more likely when you already know they're a slut when you start banging. You've already accepted her for what she is before hanging, so she grows on you as that person you've already accepted. In other words, you can begin to hamster if you're not careful.
On the other hand, when you start out thinking a woman has a bit of self-respect and then realize it's all an illusion, it's a bit more of a shock to your system, and I think in those cases it's easier to nuke your feelings. Because you just accept that she isn't who you thought she was.
I'm sure it depends on the individual guy, the woman, and relationship though. As well as the level of dirty in her dirty.
Also relevant is how much other tail you're pulling. In this aspect, players are definitely more resistant but still not 100% immune.
With some women your personalities and/or chemistry just clicks, and over extended periods of time it's not always easy to fight that.
Beyond All Seas
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To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling