Quote: (05-27-2014 03:00 PM)Pantheon Dweller Wrote:
And that's for most people, if the person trying to hinder your improvement is a girl you're dating there's one more process, she thinks (and is probably right) that since you already got her, you aren't improving for her but for other girls, she thinks that you might want to trade up.
Exactly. It's not unique to women.
I was talking to another actor about how the average person seem to passive-aggressively hate successful people, which is why I've never mentioned my music or acting gig at my place of work.
He put it beautifully, something like this:
"So: you're in your train, waiting at the station, looking out the window at the train parked next to you. You make uncomfortable eye contact with a person in the next carriage, who looks as bored and impatient as you're feeling. Then suddenly you hear a hiss of brakes and a clunk, and there's that sensation of movement, and for a few moments you can't exactly tell which train is moving. Is it theirs, or yours? Then it finally becomes clear - it's the other train, and you see that look of relief on the other passengers face as it speeds away from you, leaving you sitting there, slightly-pissed off, with the sense it should have been YOUR train."
This resentment will *always* exist, so you have to have the personality skills to negate it, or society will conspire to cut you down. A while back I was discussing how I found Jennifer Lawrence's 'clumsiness' affected performance and that her 'fat positive' and 'all women are beautiful' statements seemed at odds with her figure and photoshopped pictures. She's just using psychological tactics to win over women to keep her a bankable movie star: Actor Game.