Quote: (04-21-2014 05:48 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:
I think a valid question for our generation is:
Why are men so thirsty current day, when women are sluttier than ever?
It's easier to get laid now then ever before (in theory), but yet 'men' are falling over themselves, backstabbing each other and doing everything in their power to get pussy, when women are literally giving their pussy away.
You've posed this question before I believe. Here is my hypothesis.
Marriage, or even consistent relationships, are no longer the main goal of urban men in their 20's. Hell, a girlfriend isn't even something that guys want, unless she's "really hot". If there is anything on her that's not on point for an 8, a relationship is not pursued. It's not worth the hassle of putting up with an average American woman. Also, men are severely judged by their peers for claiming a girlfriend that is average, or worse, below average.
The rules have changed from "sex within dating" to "sex with strangers".
If men no longer pursue sex within the boundaries of a relationship, then they are constantly pursuing during maximum free time, which is Friday/Saturday night. Competition is high. Thus, standards are lowered. After all, it's just a 'piece of ass'. 'Not going to introduce her to my friends anyways'.
I don't think girls are the only ones that only want top shelf options.
I consistently hear from girls in their mid 20's that guys in their 20's suck. It's not because the guys don't have game, money, cool shit to do. I think it's because guys won't become exclusive after she puts out, unless she's a solid 8.
A lot of what is being described in this thread is a general breakdown of traditional societal structure. You can blame it on women making more money, urbanization, wealth effect, or what have you.
BOTH sides want to 'bat above their average'. Media is constantly reinforcing that this is possible, when in fact it is not. If you are a 7, and you want an 8, as a man, you have to do work. The average man is not willing, or does not know how, to do the work.
The massive amount of thirsty guys is the result of everyone holding out for something better. Or, for someone that is more attractive than what they deserve or can get.
Hell, this is what I do personally. I've seen all my friends from smaller towns wife-up average, or below average, women that I wouldn't even think about being friends with, let alone approach at a bar. They have beautiful children and successful lives. However, I now view them as having a lower value in society because their wives are now fat/ugly,nags. My friends are now giving their wives their 'best years' and if they were single, would be slaying it. Neither of them can remember the last time they received oral sex.
I have experience in small-town America. In smaller high schools, the most attractive people date each other. The average people date each other, and the rejects. People figured out their social hierarchies and stuck to it. If you couldn't hang at the top, you were shot down to the next lower level real fast. The next generation was told that you don't have to adhere to the social hierarchy. Everyone deserves to be special. Everyone is attractive. You can no longer shoot people down to the lower level (bullying).
My translation: Everyone is on the market > You hook up with strangers, or 5's, because it doesn't matter > Relationship only if you hit the lottery >
Higher amount of guys bowing down to anything with a vag because they aren't getting consistent ass like they would have if they knew and accepted their social hierarchy.
Sound about right?