Quote: (03-03-2014 11:10 AM)Suits Wrote:
Of course Chinese people have a huge problem with this. I'll tell you why.
Chinese people believe that they are better than all other types of people. They believe that due to foreign imperialism, they've had their rightful place as hegemon stolen from them, but really, deep down in side, they DESERVE to run the world and have all other countries and peoples lay tribute at their feet. This is 100% the way that they think.
Being butthurt from all that dang Western imperialism, cross-national and cross-racial dating between Chinese and others is a huge deal to them.
Most Chinese men HATE is when their women date white men. In Chinese culture, as well as most places, light skin is considered attractive and dark skin is ugly.
Chinese men feel like white men are using their lucky good looks and wealth (due to the booty acquired through Western imperialism) to steal their women, which all Chinese men know, only they deserve.
They have absolutely no problem with Chinese men dating and marrying white women. This demonstrates the superiority of Chinese culture and the value and deepness of Chinese men (they're right, which is why Chinese men almost never date white women).
When a movie (Babes in Beijing) was made in China about foreigners dating Chinese, it was Chinese men dating white women, even though this scenario is extremely rare and a movie about Chinese women dating and marrying white men would have been 99% more realistic.
However, when Chinese men date and marry black women, Chinese people see this as a national DLV. As far as they are concerned, all black people are black because they have poor hygiene. A Chinese man marrying such a women is a serious burn for them. Even worse is a black man marrying a Chinese woman, because it suggests that the lowest of the low is better than a Chinese man. An even bigger DLV for all Chinese people.
At least if Chinese women date and marry white guys, it is understandable because of the attractive white skin, so the country doesn't take a DLV hit. Chinese guys don't like foreign guys stealing their dinner, but at least it is something of a DHV for China that the rich men of the world (all white men are rich), would want a Chinese woman instead of their own kind (white women).
To be clear, these aren't my opinions at all, of course. But based on my three years of experience in China, this is how most Chinese people, educated or not, tend to think. I find it tragic.
Mainland Chinese are EXTREMELY nationalistic. I'm Chinese myself but from Taiwan and I've noticed this over and over again in my encounters with mainlanders through out the years. When I was in elementary school, a mainland kid moved into my neighborhood and ended up in my class. My teacher had me hang around him a lot since he couldn't speak English at all and I was fluent in Mandarin at the time to act as a translator (which got me 50 cents a day to buy ice cream from the cafeteria). This boy would always go on about how Taiwan needs to come reunite with China so that they could protect us from other countries, about how traitors to China should be punished and the like. Keep in mind this was coming from a boy under 10 - just shows you what sort of ideas was floating around at home as well as the society he was from.
There's lot of bitter Asian guys angry about Asian girls stealing white women but I would chalk that up more to simple human tribalism. Just look at the "black men are stealing our women" threads that pop up on various parts of the manosphere from time to time.