Quote: (09-16-2014 10:17 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
I've been trying to nail down a date with this MD chick for several days:
Her: Hi, how has your week been? Finally finished my string of nights! I hope everthing is well. Let me know if ever are free and want to try meeting again.
Pretty engaged text. She is welcoming you spending time with her.
Quote: (09-16-2014 10:17 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
Me: Hi. Congratulations on getting through your shifts! I've been fairly busy myself, helped my brother move to a new place and went to Michigan this weekend. What else have you been up to?
Congratulations on getting through her shifts? Read this entire text a few times. Imagine it being on display in a huge stadium. Would it pass the stadium test? This doesn't. Congratulating a girl for getting through her shifts is major pedestalization. Worse, you fall right into her frame and frankly your answers come off as boring.
Helping your brother move? Boring. Michigan this weekend? Boring. If you're going to volunteer things like that either omit information to let her imagination run or spin it in a much better light. I wouldn't recommend answering her directly, but if you were going to, something like this would be vastly better:
"Great! Partied out in Michigan and saved my brother too. Do you prefer white or red wine [or ask her if she's a cocktail or beer girl]"
Then, segue into a bring the movies date (unlikely with a doctor type) or lounge type date, venue change, bring it back to your place.
Quote: (09-16-2014 10:17 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
Her: Great! The weather has gotten chillier. Weekend was good. Hope your brothers move went well
You're still getting responses, but you can sense the vagina drying up.
Quote: (09-16-2014 10:17 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
Me: Good, good. Cooler temps indeed. So what does your schedule look like this week?
Good, good? What are you an elderly lady? Then you ask her her schedule. She pretty much explained that she's free and you need to hop on it and suggest a date SOON. You agree with her on the temperature going down. Seriously, you think discussing the weather is a good idea? I can sense her vagina going seriously icicle cold.
Quote: (09-16-2014 10:17 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
Her: Not bad so far, but I start the intensive care unit on Friday. With the virus that's going around, the hospitals are already at capacity!
She's bored and also being boring. Bring her out of her world and into yours. She craves excitement that isn't covered in blood or feces, she wants an escape from that world.
Quote: (09-16-2014 10:17 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
???? She's not giving me anything to work with. Should I just take a stab and ask her to come to X and do Y with me next Wednesday, or something?
Yes, as others have said, you didn't offer anything for her to accept. You're supposed to be the pursuer, where is your pursuit? Are you talking to your aunt/mother or are you talking to a woman you want to bend over the table and make her forget all her stress with a good hard deep fuck that brings her to orgasm and she can't stop thinking about while wearing her white doctor's clothes and is bored waiting for the next injured person to come in?
Quote: (09-16-2014 10:46 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
Quote: (09-16-2014 10:33 PM)MrXY Wrote:
Say "Let's hang out soon. What's your schedule like coming up?"
Those were almost my exact words in my 2nd text up there. She just responded with another "I'm gonna be busy again..." text. I don't know what else to do other than take a shot in the dark and suggest a time or invite her to a specific event/activity. I guess I could press her a bit more and ask her "what times are you working ICU? Let's hang out soon."
A shot in the dark. You sound so scared. What about this woman is so scary? If you're scared of losing her before you ever even had her, why in the world is this?
Quote: (09-16-2014 11:11 PM)Crownife Wrote:
^^^ you could. but do it next week. this girl sounds really flakey
Bad advice. She is very busy, you need to get into her schedule and PIQUE her interest enough to actually meet with you. Otherwise, the more time that passes, the more this one goes ice cold.
The girl is nowhere near as flaky as he is boring and non-pursuing.
OP, please light a fire in her loins, no more of the elderly talk. Consider texting her that you're real busy but that you'll call her in an hour, then CALL her and get her laughing/interested.