[Jesus Christ]

It's too much. Any domination should stem from your core. She should feel like that is a part of you, not some lame attempt at imitating 50 Shades.

[olive]

(12-01-2015 11:33 PM)Jesus Christ Wrote:  

It's too much. Any domination should stem from your core. She should feel like that is a part of you, not some lame attempt at imitating 50 Shades.

You're banned yeah so can't post on this account but surely can read anonymously (or via your new account?) so here's a late response: I get it - it's too much for you and you need to realize there are others who are different - it sure is not 'too much' for my little ones. clearly you don't have much experience in the area so just don't make judgement calls.

I hope you're enjoying your speed introduction to BDSM via admins' spanking dungeon BTW




admin pictured - it's not JC - I think he's a wee bit older.

[Deuce Anna Half]

(12-01-2015 11:33 PM)Jesus Christ Wrote:  

It's too much. Any domination should stem from your core. She should feel like that is a part of you, not some lame attempt at imitating 50 Shades.

It's come up multiple times in this thread that being dominant is more than just using whips and rope and toys, its also about frame and mindset.

Gotta love motherfuckers who don't read threads before posting but come in trying to AMOG and shit.

[Oz.]

(12-09-2015 04:40 PM)olive Wrote:  

(12-01-2015 11:33 PM)Jesus Christ Wrote:  

It's too much. Any domination should stem from your core. She should feel like that is a part of you, not some lame attempt at imitating 50 Shades.

You're banned yeah so can't post on this account but surely can read anonymously (or via your new account?) so here's a late response: I get it - it's too much for you and you need to realize there are others who are different - it sure is not 'too much' for my little ones. clearly you don't have much experience in the area so just don't make judgement calls.

I hope you're enjoying your speed introduction to BDSM via admins' spanking dungeon BTW




admin pictured - it's not JC - I think he's a wee bit older.

I bumped just because I find the above interaction too funny

[Cr33pin]

How about a rant for Uncle Cr33pin

So I am scrolling some hoes on my fav BSDM website and I come across a hot 19 year old girl who post some pics of one of her and her "Doms" play sessions..... This so called "Dom" is a fat slob with coke bottle glasses and a cig hanging out his mouth... I can deal with that but his attire for this "BDSM session" is my breaking point. This mother fucker is wearing a Mountain Dew sweat shirt and some Walmart pajama pants with palm trees all over them. Now I know that being a dominate to a girl is much more then just your physical appearance. But how the fuck can a girl take a guy serious looking like that.. like this slob in his pajamas in the one to control her mind, body and soul?? Fucking lames. I believe if you want to be taken serious as a serious Dom you should look the fucking part to a extent.

Also these so called "Doms" will leave messages under girls photos with comments like "Oh baby if you would give me the honor of letting me suck your toes I'd be in heaven".... in what fucking world is this something a dominate male would say.. I don't even care about the toes part.. but "If you would give me the honor???" Get the fuck out of here with that shit.

[Cr33pin]

On your way out the door tell her you might be back in ten minutes or you might be back in two hours.

[debeguiled]

(04-19-2016 04:53 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

How about a rant for Uncle Cr33pin

This so called "Dom" is a fat slob with coke bottle glasses and a cig hanging out his mouth... I can deal with that but his attire for this "BDSM session" is my breaking point. This mother fucker is wearing a Mountain Dew sweat shirt and some Walmart pajama pants with palm trees all over them.

Would this have been okay if it was a Mountain Dew dress shirt?

[XPQ22]

(04-19-2016 04:53 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

How about a rant for Uncle Cr33pin

So I am scrolling some hoes on my fav BSDM website and I come across a hot 19 year old girl who post some pics of one of her and her "Doms" play sessions..... This so called "Dom" is a fat slob with coke bottle glasses and a cig hanging out his mouth... I can deal with that but his attire for this "BDSM session" is my breaking point. This mother fucker is wearing a Mountain Dew sweat shirt and some Walmart pajama pants with palm trees all over them. Now I know that being a dominate to a girl is much more then just your physical appearance. But how the fuck can a girl take a guy serious looking like that.. like this slob in his pajamas in the one to control her mind, body and soul?? Fucking lames. I believe if you want to be taken serious as a serious Dom you should look the fucking part to a extent.

Guy sounds way less gay than that gif looks...

[brownman]

Thought I'd give some input for some ideas, skills and toys one may use.

It is wise to get a form online and go about this the right way; if she's feeling the 50 shades stuff it'll turn her on. You'll both be able to list what you like, dislike and limits. It enables a conversation and setting boundaries. It's feels pretty shitty if you violate a boundary you didn't know of and makes you look bad as well.

As a dom; she'll be under your care. Some are more aggressive types whereas others as more paternal. An aggressive dom gets along better with the madonna-whore victim complex types. Whereas the parental type gets along better with the childish/playful types.

When training her for sub-space; utilize rituals of words, pain/tenderness, smells, taste and get her to climax. It's better with a blindfold as it registers deeper.

There is a theory based on Myers Briggs, Socionics and sexual theory that provides great insight into this. I believe its called socionics quadrant sexuality; will need to double check.

Your sub should ideally have a uniform to get her in state; lingerie, makeup and heels. Collars are useful.

Suction cups and nipple clamps are great if she needs more nipple sensitivity. You can use a vaginal/clitoral suction pump for the same effect.

In order of ease bondage tape/handcuffs, then velcro cuffs and finally ropes. If you want the easy way get the under the bed or spider web kits.

You can also get over the door kits though they aren't as sturdy. Hogtie sets are useful.

For electro play; the Hitachi wand isn't bad. You can also use stress positions such as kneeling, standing and on knees.

Latex play is pretty fun; wear a latex glove and lube up. Massage her and finger her; it feels "alien"

For sensory deprivation; blindfolds, ear plugs and a ball gag do the trick. Tie them up and do as you please.

If you like playing with food, chocolate or edible lubes/massage oils are a good bet. Another good one is to put drops of cinanmmon and mint schnapps all over.

There are edible massage/wax candles from shunga that are pretty good. Throw in some ice and it's great for contrast. You can also put an ice cube inside her and it's a novel sensation.

An extreme version of that; freeze a large knife. Blindfold and tie her up, play around with different sensations while getting her close. Trace her skin with the knife, it feels as if it's cutting the skin. Pull of the blindfold and watch her soak the bed. It's very powerful.

If you are putting the sub in stress positions or making her stand in the cold; good ideas for a bath include essential oils and epsom salts. Another option is body glide gel where you have a nuru massage.

I know people around my parts shit and piss on Instagram hoes. I personally find it digusting and have never engaged in such depravity but I've met girls who've wanted that. In that case - to quote Deuce Bigalow: Belgian Steamers, Turkish Snowcones and Alaskan Dildos.

There have been cases of girls who want more than one guy; I've been in the position and considered calling up the crew to run a train them. Decided eventually against it.

Sexual hypnosis - If you can, see her porn history or have her tell you what she likes. There are training videos online for this stuff. Use a combination of intoxication, binaural beats and visual stimuli with bondage to induce the state. It'm pretty sure that's how certain conspiracy related programs did it.

You can eventually take your sub to swingers clubs. It's easier to parley her for some other fine broad or you can even get her to pull other broads for a threesome. Craigslist and Fetlife are good as well.

Toys - I suggest a finger vibrator or couples vibrator. Both hit the spots and do the job. You can invest in a plug to train her and use beads when shes near climax to intensify her orgasm. If you want, use the couples vibrator with the plug or get a dual penetrator while shes tied up. Lelo is a great brand. Vibrating cock rings are a hit or miss; personally recommend finger vibrator.

For punishment in order of intensity: Ticklers/Wheels > Spanking/Nine Tails > Crops/Paddles. Use with cooling/tingling sensations for safety/variety.

There is some sex furniture out there that greatly helps you perform better and her be more comfortable. I highly recommend the Liberator Wedge/Ramp combo though if you have the cash then get the Esse. Also recommend a sex swing for sheer fun/novelty. You can use your over door cuffs for a cross.

Lubes - Recommend hybrid water/silicone. Water dries out too quick and silicone gets icky. Pink is pretty good; Fuck Water is okay and ID is pretty much the standard. Liquid silk is the shit; as for anal creams/lubricants - Intimate Organics is pretty good as it has a desensitizer and edible if you like that.

Enhancement Creams - I recommend either Shunga or Intimate Organics. Both are pricey but if you get the G-Spot and Clit Gels, they really cut down time and maximize the efficiency of orgasm. Another option is Shunga's Dragon cream - It's like KY fire and ice but significantly better - desensitizes you and sensitizes her. (Contains the same ingredients as G-Spot and Clit Gels)

After indulging in this lifestyle, it became very apparent that if one utilized sexual torture, hypnosis and drugs; you could break a person and rebuild them as you wish. It was a pretty fucked up realization and I'm sure intelligence agencies are far ahead of the pack when it comes to this. I have since walked away from it but in moderation, it can enhance a relationship. It is up to you to find that balance. Good luck and play safe.

[DonnyGately]

Good post, 2nd the importance of lube here. Many girls have told me they can go 3-5x longer/more orgasms with lube. Although guys shouldn't use desensitizing creams, but that's just my 2c.

Correction: I know you meant Violet wand for electric play, not Hitachi, for those who don't know the difference.

[kavakid]

If you don't want to invest money yet, there are good things lying around that you can use. Belts are awesome, both to restrain (as cuffs) and to whip. Hair brushes can be used as paddles and to brush her hair if she behaves. I bought a very wide hair brush just for this purpose.

[churros]

This thread is giving me an epiphany. Some girls just seem to take everything I can throw at them, without even batting an eyelid. They clearly need a little something extra to make them squirm.

[DonnyGately]

If you want squirming, definitely a violet wand. Or a rough flogger.

[churros]

(11-15-2015 10:26 PM)Latinopan Wrote:  

After reading more about Wonder Woman and her BDSM, I have a new goal, get a girl to dress up like herand go full Dom on her.

Any tips on performing this charming technique? Think I will finally take the plunge and buy some rope. One of my plates is taking everything I can throw at her, so it's time to up the ante.

[Marmite]

If you are doing rope work, don't do any kind of suspension work without proper instruction. Easy to cause serious damage / death. Also, check circulation regularly.

[Hypno]

Indoctrination Steps
1. Yes ladder – get the target to say yes to a non-threatening event – e.g. meet for coffee.
2. Love bomb – gifts, praise, attention, etc. to associate pleasure with the you.
3. Dangle the prize – pleasure, travel, excitement, marriage, what is her dream? Push/pull – dangle it but don’t give it.
4. Get explicit agreement from target that they really want it. They have to be on the hook first.
5. Shut down dissent by threatening to withhold the prize.
6. Establish guilt. Make them feel guilty for not appreciating the cult, the leader, its ideas, etc. I’ve never given anyone this.
7. Carrot and the stick – behavior is shaped by rewarding good behavior and punishing bad behavior. “I have rules. If you follow them, then I’ll reward you. If you break them, then I’ll punish you.”
8. Control her identity, information, and environment. Give her a new name. Give her food and drink. Punish her. Isolate. Shape her identify. Control her access to others, old friends, places, etc. Her schedule is dictated by your demands.

[ksbms]

(07-08-2017 06:40 AM)Hypno Wrote:  

Indoctrination Steps
1. Yes ladder – get the target to say yes to a non-threatening event – e.g. meet for coffee.
2. Love bomb – gifts, praise, attention, etc. to associate pleasure with the you.
3. Dangle the prize – pleasure, travel, excitement, marriage, what is her dream? Push/pull – dangle it but don’t give it.
4. Get explicit agreement from target that they really want it. They have to be on the hook first.
5. Shut down dissent by threatening to withhold the prize.
6. Establish guilt. Make them feel guilty for not appreciating the cult, the leader, its ideas, etc. I’ve never given anyone this.
7. Carrot and the stick – behavior is shaped by rewarding good behavior and punishing bad behavior. “I have rules. If you follow them, then I’ll reward you. If you break them, then I’ll punish you.”
8. Control her identity, information, and environment. Give her a new name. Give her food and drink. Punish her. Isolate. Shape her identify. Control her access to others, old friends, places, etc. Her schedule is dictated by your demands.

I don't like it one bit.

Way too manipulative and coercive, and restricting freedom, especially in the case of a psychologically vulnerable girl. Not a game as normally (healthily) understood, not for this forum, to say the least - especially number 8.

[Marmite]

(07-08-2017 10:50 AM)ksbms Wrote:  

I don't like it one bit.

Way too manipulative and coercive, and restricting freedom, especially in the case of a psychologically vulnerable girl. Not a game as normally (healthily) understood, not for this forum, to say the least - especially number 8.

Whilst yes, this is pimp / cult leader game, it depends entirely on what dynamic you are undertaking within your kink relationship whether or not this approach is acceptable.

[Hypno]

(07-08-2017 10:50 AM)ksbms Wrote:  

(07-08-2017 06:40 AM)Hypno Wrote:  

Indoctrination Steps
1. Yes ladder – get the target to say yes to a non-threatening event – e.g. meet for coffee.
2. Love bomb – gifts, praise, attention, etc. to associate pleasure with the you.
3. Dangle the prize – pleasure, travel, excitement, marriage, what is her dream? Push/pull – dangle it but don’t give it.
4. Get explicit agreement from target that they really want it. They have to be on the hook first.
5. Shut down dissent by threatening to withhold the prize.
6. Establish guilt. Make them feel guilty for not appreciating the cult, the leader, its ideas, etc. I’ve never given anyone this.
7. Carrot and the stick – behavior is shaped by rewarding good behavior and punishing bad behavior. “I have rules. If you follow them, then I’ll reward you. If you break them, then I’ll punish you.”
8. Control her identity, information, and environment. Give her a new name. Give her food and drink. Punish her. Isolate. Shape her identify. Control her access to others, old friends, places, etc. Her schedule is dictated by your demands.

I don't like it one bit.

Way too manipulative and coercive, and restricting freedom, especially in the case of a psychologically vulnerable girl. Not a game as normally (healthily) understood, not for this forum, to say the least - especially number 8.

I agree with you - use what makes sense of course. I just posted the 8 steps from the video posted above about the film Fifty Shades of Grey.

[Sourcecode]

If you have to start doing this just for poosy... You've lost the spirit of the game.

[Gas]

I'm in no way "The Dom" yet but just incorporating a few new things into my sex arsenal has been unreal.

A few years ago I started choking my ex while fucking her missionary. Just a "what the hell" moment after reading some RVF. She became a different person. Then I started tying her up and really fucking her like a gorilla and after we broke up she turned into that crazy stalker ex yall were talking about earlier.

Now I do two things to "test the waters" with every new girl.

Choke them semi-tight during missionary. MikeCF had a great post about how to choke a girl during sex, Google that.

If they're responsive to being choked, I turn them over onto their belly and tie their hands behind their back. I just use a scarf, one of my ties or pull a pillowcase off one of my pillows. Just put their wrists together and tie them together like a pair of dynamite. I always try to dramatically tighten the knot suddenly too, and they always let out a little whimper. Now you've got them lying face down tied up just waiting to be pummeled. I give their ass a few dramatic slaps, put my dick in, pull their hair back hard, and fuck them as hard as I possibly can until I literally collapse on top of them from exhaustion.

Do this to a BDSM girl and it will probably just be foreplay, but try it on some vanilla chicks and they won't even let you go to sleep until they've drained every single kilojoule from your body. As my frame control has gotten better I've started incorporating more intense stuff, but these two litmus tests are something I always do first and it's always been positive. It was common for me to have "one and dones" but now every girl comes back for more. Few easy things for guys to try who aren't ready to go all in yet.

[BacanT]

surprised not mentioned before "tie wraps". I always keep some under my bed

[germanico]

(04-19-2016 04:53 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

But how the fuck can a girl take a guy serious looking like that.. like this slob in his pajamas in the one to control her mind, body and soul?? Fucking lames. I believe if you want to be taken serious as a serious Dom you should look the fucking part to a extent.

Maybe she has a serious normie fetish.

(04-19-2016 05:00 AM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

On your way out the door tell her you might be back in ten minutes or you might be back in two hours.

Pull a Sal Paradise and tell her that you will be back exactly at 9:14. Starting at 8:14 she wont think of anything else but you.

[germanico]

(10-09-2017 06:47 PM)BacanT Wrote:  

surprised not mentioned before "tie wraps". I always keep some under my bed

Too easy to fuck up tie-wraps. One twist too hard, one minute too long, and bye bye hands.

[BacanT]

(10-09-2017 09:47 PM)germanico Wrote:  

(10-09-2017 06:47 PM)BacanT Wrote:  

surprised not mentioned before "tie wraps". I always keep some under my bed

Too easy to fuck up tie-wraps. One twist too hard, one minute too long, and bye bye hands.

I've never head issues, but i guess it's a good point. By the time you do have them, it's too late. I'll stick to pillow covers and my football socks for improv. instead.