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08-02-2013, 04:25 AM
Quote: (08-01-2013 03:53 PM)Sebastian Wrote:
Maybe we should talk about how to game American Men lol (def not for bang)
'hey bro, you got a lighter?' and then start rambling, sounds about right?
At the end of the conversation, tell him, 'hey man, you seem like a cool buy, hit me up if you want to grab a drink sometime, take my number'
Repeat till you have couple guys who actually contact you?
It's such a weird feeling if a guy doesn't contact you. 'He's just not that into you'
LOL
Holy shit, this is basically the entire premise of 'I love you man'
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08-02-2013, 09:21 AM
Wait...so now i have to game guys too? Fuck that.
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08-12-2013, 05:35 PM
Ask question, or advice about shit. Just be able to relate, and you'll make friends in no time.
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08-12-2013, 05:45 PM
good post id imagine it'd be quite hard to make guy friends for example if you're new in town with no social circle but I think its a worthwhile investment to get a good group of mates who you can just chill with have a laugh etc
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08-12-2013, 06:00 PM
In my experience it takes about 1-2 years to find a group of guys if you're starting from scratch in a new town.
Here's what I do when I move to a new city:
1) Find a regular bar. Pick one that has cool bartenders who you would want to have a drink with. Go often, make sure to routinely go on one particular night. Follow the advice on how to lock a place down (talk to the staff, tip well, etc.).
2) Find a hobby. Probably the quickest way to make superficial friends. You'll have male company but often times the relationships don't go any deeper than discussing mutual interests (i.e. not where you're going to find the dudes you'd call if you needed to get bailed out of jail).
3) Find a gym. Again, get a regular routine, go the same days and times every week. Talk to the staff, etc.
You'll eventually get to know people. If you target a particular neighborhood to spend most of your time in you'll start to see the people you know from the gym/bar/etc. out in public and if you're cool they might include you in whatever they're up to that day. It's through those kinds of interactions that you'll meet their friends and eventually you'll meet some people you click with.
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08-12-2013, 07:37 PM
I have a theory that gay culture has made it harder for adult men in Western countries to make new friends. When homosexuality was completely repressed and taboo, guys didn't have to worry about seeming homo.
It was so off the realm of the socially acceptable that you didn't have to be on guard against it. The gradual entry of homosexuality into the mainstream, to the point where the media projects an image of gays making up a huge proportion of people, makes guys wary about being misinterpreted as gay.
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08-12-2013, 08:05 PM
Sometimes I get frustrated when it comes to meeting a guy.
Saw this guy at a bar, standing by himself. He looked creepy but I didn't judge him since I was there by myself too. he started talking to me first and seemed like a decent guy.
I didn't ask for his contact info but he gave me his business card.
Next weekend, I txted him saying I will be at the same bar and he could join me.
Didn't hear from him. When I ran into him again, he was saying 'oh that night I got drunk blah blah'
Maybe I should've waited more than a week not to appear as 'needy?' lol
Does this happen to you occasionally after you exchange info with guys at a bar?
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08-12-2013, 10:44 PM
Quote: (07-31-2013 01:28 AM)Sebastian Wrote:
I find American guys similar to American women.
You can't show them obvious interest. you should just say 'hey if you wanna grab a beer sometime, hit me up' and give him Your number.
You have to contact them just like when contacting chicks, otherwise they will freak out and run away. you need to give them a 'space'. you can't hit them up all the time unless you guys grew up together.
they do not like 'desperate guys' who are looking for friends. Just like girls, they like guys who already have many options.
Been told i'm too "intense" by Americans who coincidentally are always lame squares. As the old saying goes "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind".
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08-12-2013, 11:32 PM
If I keep a bi/gay dude in my circle they will always find an "accidental" way to touch me. I threatened 1 dude and took another aside and calmly talked to him and neither of them stopped.
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08-14-2013, 06:40 AM
I wouldn't worry about getting kino from a gay/bi dude.
In fact, they're probably better at it than you. I learned how to effectively kino from a bi friend of mine.
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08-16-2013, 12:24 AM
This is an interesting thread because I've had a hard time making guy friends. There are a couple cool older men at my work (my boss and a coworker old enough to my father)... But the only friends I've been able to maintain are in my weekly table top RPG sessions. I'm too busy at work, my family, or my master's degree to have much other time to meet new people.
That said, I'm getting into shooting and hunting, so able hopeful to widen my circle of contacts if nothing else.
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08-21-2013, 07:54 PM
LOL - Most of the guys I have ever become social with were when I was out gaming suited up solo in upscale venues and who also had skillz. When a women asks if I am alone my standard line is "Turkeys flock, Wolves pack and Eagles hunt alone!"
Then I look her in the eye and say "I assume you are an eagle too" - many times it is what I use to bounce her to the next private martini bar venue so she cuts from the Turkey birds she had been with. Several have written their numbers on the back of my hand as they were the designated driver or some such nonsense.
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08-21-2013, 08:32 PM
I meet guys all over. I'm pretty social overall now. Often times it's simply, "hey man, let's get a drink and continue our conversation later". If you're just chill and cool a guy will be for it. Some guys will not, some will be a little over eager (you can tell they don't have many friends - that's not necessarily a sign against them, just that they need to get out a bit).
Usually it's just being social and getting into a very interesting conversation. I have a couple buddies I play video games with, the rest, I go out and hang with at coffee shops/etc, grab a drink, etc, more commonplace things. Drawing a comparison to an instant date, chillin with a guy that you've got a good vibe with, just be like, "hey, I'm going to grab a drink and some food, you want to join?" I find that's the best way to build a relationship with a guy. You feel a bit more of a bond, and then it's less weird to be like, "hey, what's your number."
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08-23-2013, 09:13 PM
I don't even care if people think I'm a homo when I'm with a guy friend. Fuck em. You think I'm a homo? Go suck some cock, bitch.
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08-23-2013, 09:17 PM
Fuck having guy friends. They are after the pussy, thus making them the enemy. I punch most guys I see.