Best way to meet loads of 7-8s in their late 20s who are looking for marriage
06-13-2013, 04:48 PMQuote: (06-13-2013 12:57 PM)MikeCF Wrote:
Quote: (06-13-2013 12:43 PM)flavoraddict Wrote:
I tried to do this for this LTR I was in, who I thought MIGHT be a future wife. She ended up ending it (the first time I've been dumped and it sucked), because she said she was tired of feeling like she had to prove herself to me, and tired of feeling bad about herself. I don't totally buy that. I think I started to show weakness and she realized I wasn't worth proving it to.
It's a tough balance.
Yep. My body at Quest for 50 Blog went through the same thing. (All of this is on his Twitter/blog, so I'm not revealing confidences.)
He was basically in a "relationship type" thing with a girl for a few months.
Started to think he'd kick it with her full time. She said she "wanted to talk" and he figured they'd be official.
She instead broke things off.
See, he made a fatal mistake. He had expressed vulnerability to her. He talked about career and life related malaise.
Vulnerability to a woman is like blood in water to a shark. Talk to guys about problems, never to women.
Always error on the side of not showing any vulnerability and keeping her on her toes.
Think of it this way. How often do women break up with wife beaters? Not often, right?
yeah I read that and a lot of it hit home for me. I was having some trouble dealing with the fact that I had not gotten a big job (that she wound up getting and that would cause us to go long distance for a while). I was bummed and worried about losing her since I read about status all the time. So I figured hey, we've been dating for over a year, things are great, I've built up all kinds of cred, and she's a friend, I'll tell her how I'm feeling. I regretted it immediately. Cut to two months later, she ends it, cut to another month later and she's fucking my friend who also got the job. status man, status.