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05-16-2013, 06:12 AM
Update: she called me to say that she has thought this over, apologizes for giving me an ultimatum and is fine with waiting until when/if we marry like I suggested
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05-16-2013, 10:55 AM
Handsome, I think I would have to agree with you about not wanting to have to control her all the time. Just a question here, but do you think this recent behavior will always be in the back of your mind when you are dealing with her?
Because if it will, it will always be that voice of doubt. It doesn't seem you like drama, I don't either, some guys like getting all crazy. Not saying this will happen, but let's say you get married and you stop blogging, I imagine at some point there might be something else that she needs to test you on. I get that is part of most relationships, but it is not necessarily enjoyable.
I would be looking for something else that she will bug you about since she has agreed to wait on you ending your blog. If she starts bugging you about something else, it could be she is just revealing who she really is and the "good girl" period is over.
Aside from finances, it seems like a lot of couples have trouble after they get married because who they really are comes out.
Best of luck.
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05-16-2013, 11:20 AM
I would string her along as long as possible before getting married. You mentioned that you don't live together. Is that something you want to do before you get married, or are you planning on waiting until after you're married before cohabitating? You don't REALLY know someone, and how you click, until you're sharing the same space. You've gotten a little taste of what she brings with this, so how much more are you willing to roll the dice on? You have to figure the next issue/issues will be the moving in together discussion, then the setting the date for the wedding discussion. If she doesn't feel there's significant progress on these fronts, expect ultimatums again.
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05-16-2013, 06:10 PM
Great thread. I've had a couple ultimatums so far, but not at this level. Thanks for furthering my education.
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05-16-2013, 08:08 PM
Honestly, brushing off shit-tests in the context of an LTR has got to be one of the easiest and most basic aspects of game. You could have bad approach anxiety and be only able to pull of a few same night lays per year and still be able to comfortably cruise past the shit-tests your long term girl pulls. But all this assumes that she cares more than you do... if it's the other way around, then you should go screw a bunch of other chicks pronto to put things in perspective.
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05-17-2013, 04:07 AM
Honestly lad, I'd drop her now. Your LTR with her has spiraled downwards as she's exposing more of her flawed character. This is just the first look at it, it's going to get worse.
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05-17-2013, 05:02 AM
Thinking about Marriage? You've been on the forum for 2 years, you should know better.