Quote: (05-15-2013 06:27 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:
Quote: (05-15-2013 06:21 PM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:
I don't really care about beta orbiters, every woman has tons of them. If some desperate guy wants to waste his time being her crying buddy, let him. I just wanted to give it one more chance to resolve things peacefully in hopes that she could be reasoned with, but it appears that the only thing left is to eject.
You're misunderstanding. The beta orbiter isn't the problem necessarily, it's HER huge disrespect of you by choosing to take the beta orbiter's opinion/side over you, her man. She should be checked or probably in this case cut loose immediately.
It was her ex-boyfriend she was talking to, right? Since when is an ex considered a 'beta orbiter'? Once a guys banged a girl, he's not exactly friend-zoned any more, is he?
Quote: (05-15-2013 07:07 PM)Roosh Wrote:
It sounds like she has the upper hand in the relationship. The fact that she's bringing it up more than once means you're allowing her to control the frame by trying to reason with her.
"If you don't like my blog, then go date another guy."
End of problem.
Quote:Quote:
Her response was first something like "you can break up with me if you want then", then when I remained silent something like "let's give it some time, I'm not giving you a deadline (although she still can't wait until the wedding)".
Come on man, she's BEGGING YOU to step up and defeat her shit test, and you pull out a beta response. It's not the blog that is troubling her at this point, but your RESPONSE to her telling you to shut down the blog.
Well said. Not to get over-analytical here, but look at the title of this thread.
"[LTR] Chauvinist problems"
Who says that you're a chauvinist? Who said you've got a problem?
Sounds like her arguments are making their way into your frame.
But I do want to add a little nuance to the whole discussion of ultimatums. I'd guess that a large % of marriages came to be only because the woman put her foot down and said 'ring or I'm gone'.
Does that necessarily mean it's a bad relationship? It could just mean that the guy was taking his sweet time to make a decision. That's not what happened in my marriage, but I did get the 'we're moving in together or it's over' ultimatum after about a year and a half of dating.
It's not pleasant, but in a situation like that, you can understand where she's coming from. Most of us guys get happy with the status quo in a good relationship, and don't see a need for change until we're pushed.
So basically, some ultimatums are indeed a woman's hail mary done from a point of relative weakness, but ultimately out of love. But some are done for control, and should immediately be rejected.