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China is still the Great Unknown
02-17-2013, 02:59 PM
My conclusion after being here for awhile..
China really isn't a place for 'players'... and now having met a really life 'player', I would say, players plz stay the fvck out of China, you are giving western men a bad name. The large majority of Chinese girls are pretty innocent and nice girls. Most are virgins and most are very trusting. A bunch of them know how to cook and clean and are hoping to get knocked up, wifed up and pump out a few kids. Shame is still a big part of the culture here and women experience it everyday, its not uncommon for neighbours to shout 'whore' at a woman that is cheating or even having sex outside of marriage. In the country-side its almost 3rd world and marriages still happen by purchasing a bride, the current Lowest price I have heard of is just shy of 10,000 DOLLARS. Now if you are a laowai, you don't have to subscribe to any of that cultural bs but for the average Chinese guy, he is making an investment. A Chinese guy won't pay sh1t for a woman who isn't a virgin. A woman's worth is usually based upon her virginity and people will throw down big bucks for that here but the women here play for keeps.
China is largely a destination for picking up a wife and popping out kids. It is still anti-feminism and therefore 'game' doesn't exist here. Players are basically just scumbags, especially the ones I've met. One guy I know of had twins with a girl, then fvcked off to a different city and didn't bother to get citizenship for the children from his own country... he also refuses to pay child support (there is no govt support here) so these children will likely grow up in near poverty conditions. He is addicted to prostitutes and fvcking... he has 3 children from different women here and several million rmb in the bank. The girl he was with was from the country side and has a house with no electricity (not uncommon). He changed his phone number, apartment and wouldn't even pay for an abortion. He successfully ruined 6 people's lives because the grandparents now have to pitch in and get jobs to take care of the family. A country-side person here earns about 0.25 cents an hour, a middle class salary is $500 bucks a month. An apartment in the city is about twice the price of your standard middle class dwelling in Canada. $300,000 DOLLARS is typical for a 2 bedroom piece of sh1t on the outskirts of town. His kids will never be able to afford anything. Sick.
I know of another guy who would, like a predator, would invite women back to his apartment under the guise of 'friendship' and go into real life creeper mode. (1st date) He'd lay on his bed and demand they fvck him or leave... well this wouldn't be an issue in the West, usually women would just leave. This guy though, he would get the girl to spend all her money, lie his face off about everything, invite women from far off places, pay their way down but NOT back, then start grabbing their boobs and pvssy and if they didn't put out, he would throw them out in the middle of the night with no money. If they did put out, he would continue along that line until they found out he was a liar and then throw them out. There is no help for these young girls, usually just kids 18 to 21, there is no social service and the police don't care. I'm sorry but I've lost almost all respect for any guy who calls himself a player here. Most Chinese girls are still very nice, the last time this happened, a girl showed up on my doorstep crying and complained that the guy nabbed the cash from her purse and lost her jacket with phone and wallet. I live near the guy. I helped her call her family to wire some money to go home. The week after, I went to see him and he was telling me she was a complete bitch that freaked out when he tried to grab her from behind and get on top of her, he tossed her sh1t out the window when she was in the bathroom. He was on the phone while talking to me setting up another date. He is about 350 lbs, none of it muscle, as you can imagine the girls aren't exactly thrilled to fvck but they do want to meet a foreigner for the prospect of marrying. I have the good mind to bury this fvcker six feet under but I guess its not my business really... I can only imagine how mad this would make a brother or father... he doesn't see anything wrong with his behaviour. I told him that what he's doing isn't right even for players at home, I mean hell...even thieves have a code right.... just disgusting.
Another example of western scumbag players... mmm.. one guy I know dates multiple young virgin women, promises them all marriage and switches girls as soon as he's had his way, I know thats advocated on the forum but I think its really sick personally... I'm sorry but here most women believe its one man one woman forever. These guys are bringing western baggage to this country and making us look bad. These women are actively hoping to marry a western guy and make a mixed blood baby, they are considered extremely attractive.
If you are coming here 'to play' then you will most definetely be attracting the gold diggers and women that you wouldn't want if you were at home in North America. It sounds strange but if you want to live a life free of feminism you also have to get rid of all of its constructs too, 'the game' being one of those. This country has a real chance of pushing back against feminism, I don't want to see that destroyed by a few scumbags. Chinese women are 'easy' because they haven't been exposed to slut behaviours yet, they don't support slut walks and have a general disdain for western women's behaviour. Its sad to see people taking advantage of this. There is no social/government support of any kind for women and single motherhood is something to be ashamed of. If you have a baby out of wedlock, you should go into hiding because you will be the brunt of everyones jokes. Being a homo is not celebrated here and tolerance is usually met with a loose brick or metal pole. A man goes out and brings home the bacon and a woman makes up the nest and takes care of the children... being a man here is great, all the women wear skirts, pantyhose and dress very feminine. The men basically do whatever they want in their off hours with the guys and the women get together over coffee or whatever. It is the life I have always wanted...
There was a push for a more feministic approach about 10 years ago in some of the first tier cities, it didn't work out and left a bunch of girls with no men willing to marry them. Those are the girls everyone talks about that are willing to go along with dating and sex out of wedlock.
What Osiris forgot to mention is that the only women who go to clubs are usually prostitutes. Nightclubs here aren't for dancing, they are for men to hook up with women for sex and those women will charge. Had a friend goto a nightclub, meet a girl and she went back to his place pretty quick. After he finished, she demanded a couple hundred RMB plus cab fare... he was like WTF?!?! and before you know it she was on her cell with some of her friends and they came to his apartment screaming and shouting in the middle of the night, he paid her to leave. The women you meet at nightclubs are not what they appear to be. The other type of woman at the nightclub is a bargirl or ex-prostitute... almost all of the women in nightclubs have links to the underworld, they aren't the kind of women you'd want to bring home to mother. Best to stay out of nightclubs unless you bring your own women AND friends. I have more than once been accosted by angry Chinese guys when with my wife. Once a guy tried to pull my wife out of the nightclub while I was at the bar getting a drink, she just managed to break away and I guess the little douche fled the area. He was screaming that she should not be dating a white devil. The night clubs here are not the samethings we think of at home, most Chinese people CANT/WONT dance, and public displays are usually reserved for entertainers and marketing gigs. You can probably find safer clubs around Nanjing or the university districts but alot of nefarious individuals tend to congregate at them. Imagine nightclubs of the 1950's and 60's and the types of guys that would hang out there, what do you think would happen in the deep south if they had seen a black guy walk in with a bunch of white women hanging off him. The same happens here in China, racism is alive to the tune of 10 million males who won't be getting any, don't kid yourself, its not a place to be fvckin with the locals. My brother in law smashed in a neighbours head the other day with a brick during a village brawl in the countryside. The neighbour was calling my wife a whore for being with me. There isn't a law out there. I guess I should loan him that 1000 rmb....
I'm married here and quite happy with just the one. She deserves better then that. These guys doing this all the time makes me look great in my wife's eyes and my employer. Usually when I tell people that I'm married, they back down right away and change their tone. They do a complete 180 and I'm looked at as more part of the family as opposed to a 'foreign devil'. I was at the hospital a few weeks ago and the doctor was examining me. My wife popped in and started talking to the Doc. Within a few minutes he was giving me the thumbs up and wrote all of my perscriptions off. I think the entire visit ran me a dollar fifty plus 5 sets of pills. He said he was really happy to see a mixed marriage and wasn't sure at first, if I was one of those 'other guys'. He gave me his number and told me to call if I ever need to see a doctor again or need medicine.
For the other poster who was smoking a joint, you have to be insane to do drugs in China, we are talking the Death penalty in some areas. Its a different world here.
If you want to play, go to Korea, they are basically westernized asians.