1 insights from 11 years abroad
11-13-2012, 06:19 PM
Quote: (08-01-2012 02:17 AM)temujin Wrote:
I've been living abroad as a single guy all over the world for well over a decade now.
Here are some lessons and hard truths that I've discovered over time.
1. At this point in my life, there's nothing that turns me off more than a girl flapping her mouth with an American, English, or Australian accent. Yes, there was a time when an American co-ed, a posh English bird, or an Australian beach babe would get me hard and make me go after it. No more. And it's not just me either. I know plenty of men, who had a lot of success back home, realize they're much more likely to find a sexier, more feminine woman abroad elsewhere.
3. Most women, esp. from developing countries, have their eyes on the prize. The prize is usually relationship security with a guy who can provide a nice pad, sufficient dough, and a lifestyle they wouldn't have access to otherwise. Sure, they need to be able to laugh and talk with the guy as well, but don't be fooled. You're not all that special despite what you may think about your looks, your body, or your game.
6. Expat circles and Couch Surfing have the least attractive women around. It never ceases to amaze me how social circles that are composed of mostly expats, or even worse, the "Couch Surfing" crew, are composed of overweight, asymmetrical-faced women regardless of what country you're in. The only exception to this are the girlfriends of expat guys, which is usually the reason why they guys are in the country in the first place. Having said that, you need the companionship of other guys in your situation while abroad, for your own sanity. So don't burn any bridges and maintain these ties.
7. There's always somewhere else. There's always another country, another town, where you hear rumors and whispers that it's the land of ever-lasting poontang. Where the women are young, hot, and all over you like swarming piranhas in the Amazon. These stories are usually false. But sometimes, just sometimes, you will find a place that fits your looks, your personality, and your stage in life. When you do, cherish that time, because it's fleeting and may not come around again. To quote a cliche, live in the moment instead of always trying to look for the next best thing.
10. Keep balance in your life. Chasing young pussy may be what makes us feel alive as men. But I can guarantee you it will fuck you up over time if that's your only hobby. Your health, your intellect, and a greater purpose in life are all important to keep you on a sustainable path instead of regressing into destructive adolescence. Take it from me. When I lost my health due to late nights, alcohol, and lack of daily cardio, the last thing I wanted to do was shag women. Doing the same boring shit for work every day on the other hand nearly drove me to numbing depression. It's the constant creative striving for unexplored horizons that makes men who we are.
1) As an American guy of Asian descent, there's nothing sexier to me than an Australian female accent. But I'm not longer as enamored by it like I was in the past seeing how I'm more multilingual and more well-traveled now compared to my first interactions with them. Was at a CS meeting chatting up a beautiful gal from New Zealand in Brazil, but I would then opt for the local non English speaking Brazilian chicks as soon as they came into the bar. Great choice and gamble that worked out.
3) This is the case with women all over the world..naturally..can't hold that against them. I'd still take the foreign women including Australian ones that love to at least travel & experience different cultures over an American one who gets married for A) The thrill of an expensive wedding or B) False sense of comfort at an early age only to get divorced later on. Most American girls from their mid-late 20s are now looking for a mortgage/kids they can barely afford while using all their vacation time on lame out of town weddings. As Roosh mentioned in his youtube clip about the suburbs, people should be more concerned about excitement instead of comfort in their late 20s as even young couples in Australia have a more serious travel bug & will to actually follow through on their plans opposed to American women looking to spend half a week on the beach.
At least a Polish, Brazilian, or Australian chick I'm stuck with is going to want more exciting shit in life opposed to prototypical American girl I mentioned above.
6) I'm not going to post anything in the Couchsurfing threads of this forum to protect my own ass..lol. In that same couchsurfing meeting I mentioned earlier, I saw two ex-pats meet each other in one and then leave presumably for a one-night stand. Good for them, haha. I just think there should be good etiquette involved with doing so.
In my case, I don't crash on random people's couches but will go to these meetings to meet guys/gals. If I meet a cool gal, I'll get their info and connect with them on say facebook or telephone# while hitting them up later. I'm not going to be overly aggressive
(bc I don't have the balls to do so) but will oblige if a girl..you know..wants to, which has happened once. The key is to
not connect with that person via CS account bc you don't want them writing anything about you in case you strike out or she's pissed about not getting repeat sex so just get their "other" contact info.
Also make friends with the guys (esp local ones) bc they will be good wingmen for other non-CS hot chicks in an establishment where an event is being held and can guide you to bars/clubs where the hottest/loosest women are. Also worked for me before.
7) If Argentina continues to crash and burn financially, that could be that "next place," haha. But I agree...live in the moment.
10) It's important to have hobbies in life. If you can't keep yourself entertained, how are you supposed to keep your friends or a significant other entertained? I once had a friend with no hobbies who just wanted to "meet people." While he made friends, he couldn't retain them bc he just wanted company and was unable to evolve as a result of the influences in his life.
Always be chipping away at your short-term/long-term goals outside of your profession bc your ambitions, interests, and hobbies shape your personality..makes you more provocative...which contributes to your game...and in turn attracts females.