One of the most important pieces of wisdom from this community that I find myself always reminding myself of is the fact that women are like children -- especially when they get emotional.
Just repeating this fact to yourself when dealing with an irrationally emotional woman can be incredibly calming and very useful to help you go through life with as little frustration as possible.
I wanted to share some examples of all the situations that would be made a lot less frustrating through the simple reminder that women are like children. I've been in all these situations and every time reminding myself that women are like children made me feel like a cool-headed zen master in comparison.
When reading these scenarios, think to yourself the last time you were in a situation like this and imagine how you would have felt differently by reminding yourself that the woman you are dealing with is like a child.
When girls are unable to predict their future emotions or quickly change their minds
It's often frustrating to invest yourself emotionally in a girl and then feel whiplashed when she inexplicably changes course. Remember that she can't really predict her emotions very far in advance. Instead of letting yourself get hurt or bothered by her change of direction, just remind yourself that she probably can't even be sure of what she wants, needs, or feels when she is talking about her feelings for you one way or the other and she might reverse completely back in a few days anyway. Just be patient and go with the flow. And remember to keep your guard up emotionally until you know her very well.
When girls can't communicate their thoughts and feelings in a rational, well-thought out way
Instead of getting frustrated at their inability to talk through a disagreement or explain their feelings in a rational way, just try to listen, agree as much as you can, and communicate with them on their hyper-emotional level. Be patient and understanding while she tries to convert her jumble of emotions into words. Better to attempt rational discussion the next day when she has calmed down.
When girls are overly emotional and upset with you
I used to try to try to defend myself with logic and reason, but that just made things worse. Now I'll just agree and listen until she calms down. For most minor matters, just apologizing even if you shouldn't have to is a lot less strenuous and frustrating than trying to change her mind with logic and reasonable arguments. For major matters that could have long-term consequences, wait until she is not upset to deal with it.
In professional situations when a woman snaps at you or treats you rudely
All the situations that I can remember where someone in a professional situation unnecessarily lost their cool were with women (or gay men, curiously). Just remember to not take it personally and never react with anger or rudeness in kind. In the moment she probably had very little control over her emotions and maybe she will feel embarrassed about it after the fact. Her colleagues are probably embarrassed for her as well.
Summary
Do not underestimate the calming power of this mantra. Just in the past few weeks, reminding myself that women are children has helped me deal with every single one of these scenarios with a lot less frustration than I otherwise would have.
Whether it's listening to a colleague lash out at me to vent her anger over another problem of hers, calmly nodding and agreeing while on the phone with a female friend who's angry over some trivial issue, or nonchalantly dismissing a romantic interest's emotional 180s as temporary and unimportant, this mantra has significantly improved my quality of life. I hope you guys can rely on it in the moments you'll need it as well.
Just repeating this fact to yourself when dealing with an irrationally emotional woman can be incredibly calming and very useful to help you go through life with as little frustration as possible.
I wanted to share some examples of all the situations that would be made a lot less frustrating through the simple reminder that women are like children. I've been in all these situations and every time reminding myself that women are like children made me feel like a cool-headed zen master in comparison.
When reading these scenarios, think to yourself the last time you were in a situation like this and imagine how you would have felt differently by reminding yourself that the woman you are dealing with is like a child.
When girls are unable to predict their future emotions or quickly change their minds
It's often frustrating to invest yourself emotionally in a girl and then feel whiplashed when she inexplicably changes course. Remember that she can't really predict her emotions very far in advance. Instead of letting yourself get hurt or bothered by her change of direction, just remind yourself that she probably can't even be sure of what she wants, needs, or feels when she is talking about her feelings for you one way or the other and she might reverse completely back in a few days anyway. Just be patient and go with the flow. And remember to keep your guard up emotionally until you know her very well.
When girls can't communicate their thoughts and feelings in a rational, well-thought out way
Instead of getting frustrated at their inability to talk through a disagreement or explain their feelings in a rational way, just try to listen, agree as much as you can, and communicate with them on their hyper-emotional level. Be patient and understanding while she tries to convert her jumble of emotions into words. Better to attempt rational discussion the next day when she has calmed down.
When girls are overly emotional and upset with you
I used to try to try to defend myself with logic and reason, but that just made things worse. Now I'll just agree and listen until she calms down. For most minor matters, just apologizing even if you shouldn't have to is a lot less strenuous and frustrating than trying to change her mind with logic and reasonable arguments. For major matters that could have long-term consequences, wait until she is not upset to deal with it.
In professional situations when a woman snaps at you or treats you rudely
All the situations that I can remember where someone in a professional situation unnecessarily lost their cool were with women (or gay men, curiously). Just remember to not take it personally and never react with anger or rudeness in kind. In the moment she probably had very little control over her emotions and maybe she will feel embarrassed about it after the fact. Her colleagues are probably embarrassed for her as well.
Summary
Do not underestimate the calming power of this mantra. Just in the past few weeks, reminding myself that women are children has helped me deal with every single one of these scenarios with a lot less frustration than I otherwise would have.
Whether it's listening to a colleague lash out at me to vent her anger over another problem of hers, calmly nodding and agreeing while on the phone with a female friend who's angry over some trivial issue, or nonchalantly dismissing a romantic interest's emotional 180s as temporary and unimportant, this mantra has significantly improved my quality of life. I hope you guys can rely on it in the moments you'll need it as well.