Quote: (07-16-2014 09:32 PM)Sugar Wrote:
Quote: (07-16-2014 09:12 PM)Vaun Wrote:
alright, so I have three different interpretations, from two different guys, and now you are suggesting I read the comments. Point taken.
I'm not trying to get you or anyone to read the book, so I don't know what to tell you.
I can only tell you what my takeaways were and how reading it helped *me personally*:
- Women are attracted mainly to two things - status, or indicators or status, and the desire to be desired.
Status creates long term, or general attraction. Showing desire with confidence creates a more immediate physical attraction.
- Your status is determined by your behavior, not what you say: Attractive behavior is perceived as a culmination of how you treat yourself, how you treat others, and how others treat you.
- The 1-10 "number system" is basically, in and of itself, a pedestal.
Personally: - Trying to be the alpha tough guy all the time was getting me some bangs, but was generally holding me back, because more often than not it was a front
- I had foolish incorrect beliefs about women that I needed to examine and challenge. For example, hot women don't like guys this age, or with this length hair, or that job, or this kind of clothing.
-The core of vulnerability is assuming attraction without being needy or outcome dependent. I was obsessed with the idea that my "perfection" meant every girl I wanted should be automatically attracted to me.
- I was trying waaay too hard to be invulnerable and come across as perfect. People are attracted to each others rough edges. Giving up on ego preservation and self-preoccupation did me more good than doing 1K approaches as a guy who thought he had to be perfect.
I would have to think about it, but I'm sure there's more I took away.
Thanks man. Some of this stuff to me is glaringly obvious, i.e. the status stuff. The number system is real, its a cold hard reality of the universe, and see any dismissal of ranking as a new agey "everybody's a winner" mentality, how a man reacts to a hot chic is all that matters. I am not sure I understand the vulnerability stuff. My take away from that is to just be more laid back and not get all butt hurt if a chick doesn't vibe with you.