Best book I have ever read on inner game. I agree with 90% of what this guys says.
http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Wom...ords=model
http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Wom...ords=model
Quote: (04-18-2014 08:22 PM)WEDO Wrote:
Best book I have ever read on inner game. I agree with 90% of what this guys says.
http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Wom...ords=model
Quote: (04-18-2014 09:22 PM)RexImperator Wrote:
I recall that Krauser mentioned it in his London Real interview (if not then it was in another interview).
Quote: (04-20-2014 12:25 PM)pitt Wrote:
Honesty is just something that doesn't work with women.
I am sure some of you guys received some value from this book but honesty and women don't go together.
I also think a big part of the game is being able to act. If you are an international player, you need to be able to fit in with different types of personalities and understand culture differences. By having a standard approach you will be limited, sure some women will like you and you will get laid but your game won't be so amplified.
Women like liars. It's not like I walk to every women and start lying to them straight away. But I try to have a more amplified personality where I can blend in with all types of personalities.
Guys that write these type of books actually ''destroy'' the lives of natural betas. Natural betas will believe that they will find the right girl just by being them when in reality she wants the asshole guy.
Anyway, just my two cents.
Quote: (04-20-2014 12:35 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:
Quote: (04-20-2014 12:25 PM)pitt Wrote:
Honesty is just something that doesn't work with women.
I am sure some of you guys received some value from this book but honesty and women don't go together.
I also think a big part of the game is being able to act. If you are an international player, you need to be able to fit in with different types of personalities and understand culture differences. By having a standard approach you will be limited, sure some women will like you and you will get laid but your game won't be so amplified.
Women like liars. It's not like I walk to every women and start lying to them straight away. But I try to have a more amplified personality where I can blend in with all types of personalities.
Guys that write these type of books actually ''destroy'' the lives of natural betas. Natural betas will believe that they will find the right girl just by being them when in reality she wants the asshole guy.
Anyway, just my two cents.
I understand your point. I certainly won't pretend to be an authority on game literature or game.
That said, honesty has always worked quite well with me. And I feel I can be just as polarizing with my honesty (amplified personallity).
For example, women ask if I'm a player and I just tell them yes or sometimes. With a smirk that says what are you gonna do about it. They ask if I've fucked a lot of girls or if I'm seeing other women and I say yes. Sometimes I'll lie but I do it with a shit-eating grin on my face that makes the truth clear as day and gets me a swat on the arm or whatever.
You can still be an "asshole" but be honest about it and it will most likely still work in your favor.
I'll admit I'm far more dishonest in Asia, at least when it gets the girlfriend state, but it really seems expected here. They don't appreciate honesty the way people do back home and would rather have the truth swept under the rug.
I don't mean this in a confrontational manner, Pitt - just curious - but have your read the book? Or just going by the title? I think it's about a lot more than just lying vs not lying.
Maybe this guy's approach to game isn't perfect, but I find a lot of these principles have done me well enough in my life. Even if I have wandered away from his type of approach over the years. I'd have to reread the book to give it any stronger of an endorsement than that though. My own memory of the exact concepts is a bit fuzzy too.
I agree with WEDO that the key lessons in this book are inner game lessons. I also like the author's principled rules for walking away from bitches. I've always been willing to walk away from beautiful woman who piss me off, but the way he puts it down has made it even more of a rule of mine.
And the concept of polarizing as fast as possible to make the woman either accept or reject you. I think at one point he says something like "everything that is attractive is also polarizing." The way he breaks it down makes really good sense.
Quote: (04-22-2014 12:06 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
His solution to negative and toxic girls, which can easily be read as chicks that shit test you, is to just not even deal with them.
Quote: (04-23-2014 04:09 AM)funkyzeit Wrote:
If anyone asks me what certainly doesn't work with girls, it's complete honesty. You have to dance around the truth, not necessarily lie. Personally I hate lying, especially if the girl is nice and kind ad deserves a bit of excitement and playful uncertainty.
Q:"Are you a player?"
A:"I'm a fan of unique and new."
Q:"Are you just trying to sleep with me?"
A:"I haven't decided yet."
Quote: (04-24-2014 02:57 AM)WEDO Wrote:
Quote: (04-23-2014 04:09 AM)funkyzeit Wrote:
If anyone asks me what certainly doesn't work with girls, it's complete honesty. You have to dance around the truth, not necessarily lie. Personally I hate lying, especially if the girl is nice and kind ad deserves a bit of excitement and playful uncertainty.
Q:"Are you a player?"
A:"I'm a fan of unique and new."
Q:"Are you just trying to sleep with me?"
A:"I haven't decided yet."
Q: Are you serious?
You should already know what to do with a chick asking questions like that even without reading the book.
If she has a smile on her face when she is asking the questions and just being playful.... the answers should be "yes" and "yes".
If she is dead serous when asking....walk away...and don't look back....the woman either hates the sight of you or has been humped and dumped so many times that she is now only interested in lesbian relationships at this point.
But honestly would still apply.....I would just tell her that I'm sorry that the fact that I "was" attracted to you freaked you out so bad....that you started worrying that I might actually want to have sex with you....but I can assure you that is no longer the case.
On second thought.... actions speak louder than words....I think I would just walk off and start talking to someone else.
Quote: (04-20-2014 01:14 PM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:
There are two kinds of honesty: emotional honesty and factual honesty. Emotional honesty is very helpful in dealing with women; factual honesty is a handicap.
The problem with most beta males is that they are fanatically factually honest which buys them nothing but contempt from women who could not possibly give less of a shit about factual truth; but they are afraid to let their emotions show, which buys them more contempt.
The perfect player is an effortless liar in all that comes to fact but who is emotionally honest or "present". That does not mean someone who is "emotional" in the conventional sense -- very often the basic emotional state of a man is a vast indifference. Betas hide their indifference; alphas and naturals are shameless and let it show. Betas also hide their enthusiasms when they do strike them; alphas and naturals always display them.
When a woman tells a guy "just be yourself" she means it -- women are horrified and fascinated by men who are relaxed enough to be emotionally honest in every context. Very few men are. Women are shameless liars, but men are usually uptight and emotionally dishonest because they are ashamed both of their basic cool indifference and their occasional hot enthusiasms.
Quote: (04-22-2014 10:13 PM)Saladin Wrote:
Mark Manson seems to be quite a sellout to the mainstream. He seems to give a ton of watered down dating advice.
Quote:Basil Ransom Wrote:
Tyler Durden in the Blueprint has an excellent analysis of this actually. I forget the exact words he uses, but it revolves around being internally and externally focused. A man who is internally focused believes that any good or bad outcome is due to his efforts. A man with an external locus of control attributes his outcomes to things beyond his control.
Mainstream wisdom is that romance is entirely out of your control. "Be yourself." "Chemistry." "Fate." The 'seduction industry' tends towards the opposite, that it's completely under your control, and the fault lies entirely with you. The problem with being 100% external is that you think there's nothing you can do to improve. If you're 100% internal, you get weird, awkward, you overthink everything, and then you blame yourself when you aren't the cause.
The optimal mindset is a bit of both. Identify where you can improve, but understand that your failures may sometimes be beyond your control. For instance, if a date doesn't go well for me, I will try to identify things I could have done better that might have made me more likely to succeed. But overall, I probably just feel like the bitch sucked. If she was cool, we'd be going on another date.
There are so many things in this game that are out of your control, that you can't blame it all on yourself.
Quote: (04-27-2014 11:16 AM)Basil Ransom Wrote:
Manson is babbling to you, telling you that everything is within your control, and that with his help, you can fix it. It isn't. Believing everything is within your control can be harmful to your mental health.