So I have been thinking about making this thread for awhile and in the last 3 days it has been brought up by 3 different people 3 days in a row so I decided now is the time. Apparently I have a mean demeanor or scary look about me. I have had this almost as far back as I can remember but now that I have been hitting the gym and put on some size its been pointed out to me numerous times by girls and guys. Specially here in the Peru in the last few months. Just today having lunch with a forum member and one of his friends I just met the topic of fights came up. The guy I just met said I looked like the type that had been in a lot of fights and that I look like I should be on Sons of Anarchy. Two days ago another forum members date that I had just met said after I left she asked him where I was from and that I looked scary. Numerous girls I have banged tell me a few dates later when they first met me they thought I was a bad guy and looked mean/scary/ect...
I used to enjoy it when people thought I looked mean. To me it was a big compliment.. the thought of looking like a badass sounds cool to me. Plus while traveling I don't really look like a easy target for criminals. However now I am starting to wonder if it is costing me bangs? Like girls are writing me off based on my initial approach because I look like a scary guy? Sometimes I will make approaches here in public in the middle of the day and the girls will just look terrified. Even thought I smile and have a playful vibe when I approach. I used to just think its just cause they aren't used to be approached but now I'm wondering if its cause of my look. I'm not huge like bodybuilder big. I'm about 6"2 with shoes on and have always had broad shoulders on what used to be a smaller frame. Now however I do have a muscular build. Shaved head, short beard, couple tattoos, strong posture.
Does anyone else have any experience with this? I feel like if I try to be anymore fun and easy going when I approach I'm going to come across as a clown. I certainly don't plan on stopping hitting the gym or growing my hair out. One of the forum members I met down here that called me imposing said I should wear lighter colored shirts.
It seems like a strange concept even for me... but it is something being brought up at least 3 or 4 times a week now.
How can I spin this in my favor?
Hard to show in pics because I think a lot of it comes from my demeanor.. Like I have resting bitch face but for guys.. If I dont consciously unscowl my eyebrows I look like I want to eat your children. Even my mom used to say I can make the meanest faces.
That V-taper though...
I used to enjoy it when people thought I looked mean. To me it was a big compliment.. the thought of looking like a badass sounds cool to me. Plus while traveling I don't really look like a easy target for criminals. However now I am starting to wonder if it is costing me bangs? Like girls are writing me off based on my initial approach because I look like a scary guy? Sometimes I will make approaches here in public in the middle of the day and the girls will just look terrified. Even thought I smile and have a playful vibe when I approach. I used to just think its just cause they aren't used to be approached but now I'm wondering if its cause of my look. I'm not huge like bodybuilder big. I'm about 6"2 with shoes on and have always had broad shoulders on what used to be a smaller frame. Now however I do have a muscular build. Shaved head, short beard, couple tattoos, strong posture.
Does anyone else have any experience with this? I feel like if I try to be anymore fun and easy going when I approach I'm going to come across as a clown. I certainly don't plan on stopping hitting the gym or growing my hair out. One of the forum members I met down here that called me imposing said I should wear lighter colored shirts.
It seems like a strange concept even for me... but it is something being brought up at least 3 or 4 times a week now.
How can I spin this in my favor?
Hard to show in pics because I think a lot of it comes from my demeanor.. Like I have resting bitch face but for guys.. If I dont consciously unscowl my eyebrows I look like I want to eat your children. Even my mom used to say I can make the meanest faces.
That V-taper though...
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