dating profile changes that blew up my inbox
01-24-2014, 12:26 AM
I've been messing with online dating here in Thailand for the last 7 months or so. Results have been good. And they just got about 2 times better.
I made 2 changes that seemed to have boosted my profile significantly:
Change #1 - "Mysterious" Profile Pic
Here's the old profile pic I was using:
Here's the new one:
My theory:
I realize the first pic isn't very good at all. And that the second photo is a much better quality photo than the first. However! ...I've had really good quality photos up before that haven't received nearly the same amount of attention as this new one.
My money is on the mystery element.
I'm looking down. You can't see my eyes. "Who is this guy?", "I wanna see his eyes!" Some girl even wrote to me "you have such beautiful eyes!" lol. Leaving that little element out drives them nuts.
Here's a picture that was taken in the same series where I look at the camera. I used this on profile for a few days. It didn't produce any positive result at all:
I haven't quantified the difference but I have at least 5-10 attractive girls messaging me daily now. Before I had maybe 1 or 2. The difference has been very noticeable.
Assuming this trend continues, I'll need to expend much less time to message girls now. In fact, I'll probably just filter the ones that message me and not even bother reaching out to new ones on my own. Why bother with cold leads when you have qualified prospects waiting for you to follow up...?
Change #2 - Fewer Pics
I had all 6 photo slots filled. But I realized after I made change #1 above that less is probably more. So I removed 4 pics and now I only have these 2:
I feel like these photos work well in concert together because they both don't let the girl see my face "fully". And even though I'm not jacked, it does show I'm an in-shape guy, which Thai girls really seem to appreciate.
I made both of these changes within a few days of each other so it's hard to say which one had more impact. I think #1 probably had the biggest impact. However, removing extra photos has probably given girls much less material to disqualify me with based on perceived shortcomings.
I remember watching a Paul Janka DVD (highly recommend BTW) where he said that women look to actively disqualify you based on any number of ridiculous criteria. This is probably doubly true in online dating where they can pick and choose carefully.
(I noticed upticks on both ThaiFriendly and DateInAsia).
Any online dating evil geniuses want to weigh in...?
I made 2 changes that seemed to have boosted my profile significantly:
Change #1 - "Mysterious" Profile Pic
Here's the old profile pic I was using:
Here's the new one:
My theory:
I realize the first pic isn't very good at all. And that the second photo is a much better quality photo than the first. However! ...I've had really good quality photos up before that haven't received nearly the same amount of attention as this new one.
My money is on the mystery element.
I'm looking down. You can't see my eyes. "Who is this guy?", "I wanna see his eyes!" Some girl even wrote to me "you have such beautiful eyes!" lol. Leaving that little element out drives them nuts.
Here's a picture that was taken in the same series where I look at the camera. I used this on profile for a few days. It didn't produce any positive result at all:
I haven't quantified the difference but I have at least 5-10 attractive girls messaging me daily now. Before I had maybe 1 or 2. The difference has been very noticeable.
Assuming this trend continues, I'll need to expend much less time to message girls now. In fact, I'll probably just filter the ones that message me and not even bother reaching out to new ones on my own. Why bother with cold leads when you have qualified prospects waiting for you to follow up...?
Change #2 - Fewer Pics
I had all 6 photo slots filled. But I realized after I made change #1 above that less is probably more. So I removed 4 pics and now I only have these 2:
I feel like these photos work well in concert together because they both don't let the girl see my face "fully". And even though I'm not jacked, it does show I'm an in-shape guy, which Thai girls really seem to appreciate.
I made both of these changes within a few days of each other so it's hard to say which one had more impact. I think #1 probably had the biggest impact. However, removing extra photos has probably given girls much less material to disqualify me with based on perceived shortcomings.
I remember watching a Paul Janka DVD (highly recommend BTW) where he said that women look to actively disqualify you based on any number of ridiculous criteria. This is probably doubly true in online dating where they can pick and choose carefully.
(I noticed upticks on both ThaiFriendly and DateInAsia).
Any online dating evil geniuses want to weigh in...?