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Bumble! tinder but the girls message first
12-10-2018, 11:29 AM
I totally get what you're saying. I'm 90% of the time very quick on the trigger in getting them out (asking for a number after 3-4 messages), but occasionally if I think the girl has high SMV - this particular one was a hard 7, seemed educated, and 15 years younger - I stall and run some comfort for a while before seeming too eager.
But yeah, this is a time sink.
What the fuck are girls doing voluntarily on a dating app and voluntarily messaging guys first if they have zero interest in leaving the house to meet anybody? Is it always all about validation and seeing what their SMV can potentially hook?
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12-12-2018, 01:55 AM
Bumble is now offering lifetime Boost premium membership for a one off payment of £80.
I wonder if this is actually a closing down sale because Hinge seems to have overtaken it.
If Bumble did close down, the irony would be that it was due to female nature that it tried to empower into taking the active, less narcissistic role in the dating game.
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12-15-2018, 11:00 PM
Okay, I'm wading back in to bumble land after a mini-LTR from bumble ended about a month back.
I've got a great job so SMV has increased. I need to remember to focus on the quality I deserve.
Surprised to see they now ask you to enter your height (lol!) plus a number of other personal attributes such as education level, drinking, smoking and zodiac sign.
Might as well put waist circumference, weight and annual income on there in the next update hahaha.
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12-15-2018, 11:12 PM
Can someone explain to me how at any given time I have 20+ matches and yet somehow run out of people to swipe on? When I modify the search parameters the amount changes, so I can't for the life of my figure out how this could be. Are they lying about the number?
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12-16-2018, 12:13 PM
Slow as molasses in NYC. All of the old 'reboot' methods are dead for me.
Is the new best process to create a fresh fb and account?
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12-16-2018, 01:29 PM
My bumble is a graveyard of conversations.
Chicks unable to maintain a halfway interesting conversation and it either fizzles out or they make you jump through hoops before giving the number.
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12-16-2018, 06:27 PM
Bumble now lets you filter swiping preferences based on height, exercise frequency, sign, political leaning, etc.
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12-22-2018, 09:28 PM
Bumble is slightly better than Tinder in terms of quality, it seems.
In the medium sized city I am in -- its all White American women with crazy eyes but better quality pics and profile compared to Tinder.
How is Bumble in NYC and Miami? I might properly try it out there. Going to uninstall both Tinder and Bumble until I am in a better location.
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12-24-2018, 02:04 PM
Got a few notches off Bumble but overall it's sooo whatever. Tinder wannabees.
Most girls all they do is send you one message and done. As if they only want to see if you're gonna respond or not.
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12-24-2018, 07:04 PM
I just finished a round of bangs off bumble and deleted my account again. I'll probably fire it up again in a few months. The restart strategy tends to work fairly well in my experience. To be honest though, I've really just gotten bored of online game.
"Does PUA say that I just need to get to f-close base first here and some weird chemicals will be released in her brain to make her a better person?"
-Wonitis
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12-24-2018, 10:42 PM
NYC peep here.
I do decently well on Bumble (15-20 matches a day - - - half are 6's and below, the other half are 7's and 7.5's).
The changed that I made to my profile to get more matches was exaggerating my height (I'm 5'10'' but put 6 feet), putting pictures of me where I looked tall and jacked and where my skin looked lighter than it really is (I'm Indian-American and am light-brown skin tone), and made my profile really full of bullet points of interesting shit I've done in the past (traveled to south america, can dance salsa, risk taker, etc)
I will admit though that none of my matches are the really hot NYC women. None of my friends match with them either. I wonder who is matching and banging the 8's and above on these online dating sites
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12-27-2018, 11:31 PM
The results on both tinder and bumble have been horrible for me, despite only being on both around 2-3 weeks.
I only swipe right/ match with girls I'm attracted to, rather than matching with all girls. Thus, I have gotten something like 3 matches on tinder, and another 3 on Bumble.
Of those 6 matches, 2 on Bumble (1 on tinder), allowed me to continue the conversation via text. One no show on a tinder date. And two solid bumble leads that will go on a date after the holidays, although they could flake. But one of my bumble leads I think she's good for a date.
I have to say I am above average height (by good margin) so that's listed, college education, and i put on my profile that I'm well traveled, and I have quite a few stories that should spark interest. I also am a musician, can cook, and some other similar things in that vein. If I had to guess, my photos are not "girl-level" Instagram quality, but I don't really know how to remedy that.