I totally get what you're saying. I'm 90% of the time very quick on the trigger in getting them out (asking for a number after 3-4 messages), but occasionally if I think the girl has high SMV - this particular one was a hard 7, seemed educated, and 15 years younger - I stall and run some comfort for a while before seeming too eager.

But yeah, this is a time sink.

What the fuck are girls doing voluntarily on a dating app and voluntarily messaging guys first if they have zero interest in leaving the house to meet anybody? Is it always all about validation and seeing what their SMV can potentially hook?

Quote: (12-10-2018 10:48 AM)griffinmill Wrote:  

My experience with Bumble in Warsaw this week:

Cutie matches with me.

Girl: Hey
Me: What's up?

<24-48 hours of exhausting witty banter>

Me: What's your number? Do you have WhatsApp? I'd like to ask you out for a drink.
Girl: No I don't have WhatsApp.
Me: So, where do we go from here then?

<Radio silence>

Post the screenshots of the conversations and we can see analyze what you might be doing wrong, if anything.

Quote: (12-10-2018 12:26 PM)corsega Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 10:48 AM)griffinmill Wrote:  

My experience with Bumble in Warsaw this week:

Cutie matches with me.

Girl: Hey
Me: What's up?

<24-48 hours of exhausting witty banter>

Me: What's your number? Do you have WhatsApp? I'd like to ask you out for a drink.
Girl: No I don't have WhatsApp.
Me: So, where do we go from here then?

<Radio silence>

Post the screenshots of the conversations and we can see analyze what you might be doing wrong, if anything.

Thanks but I was just venting. I have ordinarily no problem getting girls out on dates (have had 8 dates in 6 days in Warsaw so far, all from Tinder). My text game is pretty decent. It's just the experience I seem to have with Bumble this week.

I don't think I'm doing anything wrong necessarily, but have just run into silly timewaters.

Quote: (12-10-2018 02:06 PM)griffinmill Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 12:26 PM)corsega Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 10:48 AM)griffinmill Wrote:  

My experience with Bumble in Warsaw this week:

Cutie matches with me.

Girl: Hey
Me: What's up?

<24-48 hours of exhausting witty banter>

Me: What's your number? Do you have WhatsApp? I'd like to ask you out for a drink.
Girl: No I don't have WhatsApp.
Me: So, where do we go from here then?

<Radio silence>

Post the screenshots of the conversations and we can see analyze what you might be doing wrong, if anything.

Thanks but I was just venting. I have ordinarily no problem getting girls out on dates (have had 8 dates in 6 days in Warsaw so far, all from Tinder). My text game is pretty decent. It's just the experience I seem to have with Bumble this week.

I don't think I'm doing anything wrong necessarily, but have just run into silly timewaters.

Dates Dates

8 dates seems like a lot, you should have like 5 dates and 3 zero date bangs from that sample size statistically speaking

Seriously you should be sniffing out DTF girls and inviting them over directly

Quote: (12-10-2018 03:11 PM)yang2287 Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 02:06 PM)griffinmill Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 12:26 PM)corsega Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 10:48 AM)griffinmill Wrote:  

My experience with Bumble in Warsaw this week:

Cutie matches with me.

Girl: Hey
Me: What's up?

<24-48 hours of exhausting witty banter>

Me: What's your number? Do you have WhatsApp? I'd like to ask you out for a drink.
Girl: No I don't have WhatsApp.
Me: So, where do we go from here then?

<Radio silence>

Post the screenshots of the conversations and we can see analyze what you might be doing wrong, if anything.

Thanks but I was just venting. I have ordinarily no problem getting girls out on dates (have had 8 dates in 6 days in Warsaw so far, all from Tinder). My text game is pretty decent. It's just the experience I seem to have with Bumble this week.

I don't think I'm doing anything wrong necessarily, but have just run into silly timewaters.

Dates Dates

8 dates seems like a lot, you should have like 5 dates and 3 zero date bangs from that sample size statistically speaking

Seriously you should be sniffing out DTF girls and inviting them over directly

Girls are unlikely to come to your place directly in Poland, compared to many Western countries.

Quote: (12-10-2018 04:09 PM)corsega Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 03:11 PM)yang2287 Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 02:06 PM)griffinmill Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 12:26 PM)corsega Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 10:48 AM)griffinmill Wrote:  

My experience with Bumble in Warsaw this week:

Cutie matches with me.

Girl: Hey
Me: What's up?

<24-48 hours of exhausting witty banter>

Me: What's your number? Do you have WhatsApp? I'd like to ask you out for a drink.
Girl: No I don't have WhatsApp.
Me: So, where do we go from here then?

<Radio silence>

Post the screenshots of the conversations and we can see analyze what you might be doing wrong, if anything.

Thanks but I was just venting. I have ordinarily no problem getting girls out on dates (have had 8 dates in 6 days in Warsaw so far, all from Tinder). My text game is pretty decent. It's just the experience I seem to have with Bumble this week.

I don't think I'm doing anything wrong necessarily, but have just run into silly timewaters.

Dates Dates

8 dates seems like a lot, you should have like 5 dates and 3 zero date bangs from that sample size statistically speaking

Seriously you should be sniffing out DTF girls and inviting them over directly

Girls are unlikely to come to your place directly in Poland, compared to many Western countries.

This is where I suck.

I'm terrible at sniffing out DTF girls. Those I try to go ZDB on balk at the idea. It never works. I have a ton of dates to nowhere. I'm averaging 2 lays per 10 dates.

My game needs to be improved in this dept.

Quote: (12-10-2018 05:29 PM)griffinmill Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 04:09 PM)corsega Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 03:11 PM)yang2287 Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 02:06 PM)griffinmill Wrote:  

Quote: (12-10-2018 12:26 PM)corsega Wrote:  

Post the screenshots of the conversations and we can see analyze what you might be doing wrong, if anything.

Thanks but I was just venting. I have ordinarily no problem getting girls out on dates (have had 8 dates in 6 days in Warsaw so far, all from Tinder). My text game is pretty decent. It's just the experience I seem to have with Bumble this week.

I don't think I'm doing anything wrong necessarily, but have just run into silly timewaters.

Dates Dates

8 dates seems like a lot, you should have like 5 dates and 3 zero date bangs from that sample size statistically speaking

Seriously you should be sniffing out DTF girls and inviting them over directly

Girls are unlikely to come to your place directly in Poland, compared to many Western countries.

This is where I suck.

I'm terrible at sniffing out DTF girls. Those I try to go ZDB on balk at the idea. It never works. I have a ton of dates to nowhere. I'm averaging 2 lays per 10 dates.

My game needs to be improved in this dept.

Could be the image and vibe you are giving off via your profile. You need to be the "cad", not the "dad". Alpha, fuckboy, socially dominant, call it whatever you want.

Happy to review your profile via PM and give you advice if you want.

Bumble is now offering lifetime Boost premium membership for a one off payment of £80.

I wonder if this is actually a closing down sale because Hinge seems to have overtaken it.

If Bumble did close down, the irony would be that it was due to female nature that it tried to empower into taking the active, less narcissistic role in the dating game.

Okay, I'm wading back in to bumble land after a mini-LTR from bumble ended about a month back.
I've got a great job so SMV has increased. I need to remember to focus on the quality I deserve.

Surprised to see they now ask you to enter your height (lol!) plus a number of other personal attributes such as education level, drinking, smoking and zodiac sign.

Might as well put waist circumference, weight and annual income on there in the next update hahaha.

Can someone explain to me how at any given time I have 20+ matches and yet somehow run out of people to swipe on? When I modify the search parameters the amount changes, so I can't for the life of my figure out how this could be. Are they lying about the number?

Quote: (12-15-2018 11:12 PM)Batman_ Wrote:  

Can someone explain to me how at any given time I have 20+ matches and yet somehow run out of people to swipe on?

There is definitely some prefiltering going on with the deck. You are never shown the entire deck before it says there aren't anymore. You're shown a sampling that is reshuffled each time it resets and shows you a new batch.

Slow as molasses in NYC. All of the old 'reboot' methods are dead for me.

Is the new best process to create a fresh fb and account?

Quote: (12-16-2018 12:13 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

Slow as molasses in NYC. All of the old 'reboot' methods are dead for me.

Is the new best process to create a fresh fb and account?

If Bumble is struggling in NYC, then the game might be up.

It is selling lifetime boost memberships. That might be a sign.

My bumble is a graveyard of conversations.

Chicks unable to maintain a halfway interesting conversation and it either fizzles out or they make you jump through hoops before giving the number.

Quote: (12-16-2018 01:29 PM)griffinmill Wrote:  

My bumble is a graveyard of conversations.

Chicks unable to maintain a halfway interesting conversation and it either fizzles out or they make you jump through hoops before giving the number.

Yeah it's pretty annoying. Especially considering most of them send "hi" and except you to carry the conversation. Though, that's not as common if you have interesting things in your profile for them to comment on.

Bumble now lets you filter swiping preferences based on height, exercise frequency, sign, political leaning, etc.

Bumble is slightly better than Tinder in terms of quality, it seems.

In the medium sized city I am in -- its all White American women with crazy eyes but better quality pics and profile compared to Tinder.

How is Bumble in NYC and Miami? I might properly try it out there. Going to uninstall both Tinder and Bumble until I am in a better location.

Got a few notches off Bumble but overall it's sooo whatever. Tinder wannabees.

Most girls all they do is send you one message and done. As if they only want to see if you're gonna respond or not.

I just finished a round of bangs off bumble and deleted my account again. I'll probably fire it up again in a few months. The restart strategy tends to work fairly well in my experience. To be honest though, I've really just gotten bored of online game.

NYC peep here.

I do decently well on Bumble (15-20 matches a day - - - half are 6's and below, the other half are 7's and 7.5's).

The changed that I made to my profile to get more matches was exaggerating my height (I'm 5'10'' but put 6 feet), putting pictures of me where I looked tall and jacked and where my skin looked lighter than it really is (I'm Indian-American and am light-brown skin tone), and made my profile really full of bullet points of interesting shit I've done in the past (traveled to south america, can dance salsa, risk taker, etc)

I will admit though that none of my matches are the really hot NYC women. None of my friends match with them either. I wonder who is matching and banging the 8's and above on these online dating sites

EDIT

Quote: (12-24-2018 10:42 PM)Crash_Bandicoot Wrote:  

NYC peep here.

I do decently well on Bumble (15-20 matches a day - - - half are 6's and below, the other half are 7's and 8's).

The changed that I made to my profile to get more matches was exaggerating my height (I'm 5'10'' but put 6 feet), putting pictures of me where I looked tall and jacked and where my skin looked lighter than it really is (I'm Indian-American and am light-brown skin tone), and made my profile really full of bullet points of interesting shit I've done in the past (traveled to south america, can dance salsa, risk taker, etc)

Would you say it's better than Tinder? I feel like Tinder, and sparing uses of SA, are as far down the online rabbithole as I want to go.

Quote: (12-24-2018 10:43 PM)MaceTyrell Wrote:  

Quote: (12-24-2018 10:42 PM)Crash_Bandicoot Wrote:  

NYC peep here.

I do decently well on Bumble (15-20 matches a day - - - half are 6's and below, the other half are 7's and 8's).

The changed that I made to my profile to get more matches was exaggerating my height (I'm 5'10'' but put 6 feet), putting pictures of me where I looked tall and jacked and where my skin looked lighter than it really is (I'm Indian-American and am light-brown skin tone), and made my profile really full of bullet points of interesting shit I've done in the past (traveled to south america, can dance salsa, risk taker, etc)

Would you say it's better than Tinder? I feel like Tinder, and sparing uses of SA, are as far down the online rabbithole as I want to go.

I do terrible on Tinder. I get matches but most of the women are incredibly ugly that it would take me at least a few beers to even consider

Quote: (12-24-2018 10:42 PM)Crash_Bandicoot Wrote:  

NYC peep here.

I do decently well on Bumble (15-20 matches a day - - - half are 6's and below, the other half are 7's and 7.5's).

The changed that I made to my profile to get more matches was exaggerating my height (I'm 5'10'' but put 6 feet), putting pictures of me where I looked tall and jacked and where my skin looked lighter than it really is (I'm Indian-American and am light-brown skin tone), and made my profile really full of bullet points of interesting shit I've done in the past (traveled to south america, can dance salsa, risk taker, etc)

I will admit though that none of my matches are the really hot NYC women. None of my friends match with them either. I wonder who is matching and banging the 8's and above on these online dating sites

EDIT

So you're saying you get ~7-10 matches a day with 7's and above?? Dude that is absurd. I need to pick your brain.

1. How good-looking are you? Have you ever tested out your pics on Photofeeler?
2. Do you count girls who match but never start a convo as matches?
3. Have you tried anywhere other than NYC? If so how did your results compare?

The results on both tinder and bumble have been horrible for me, despite only being on both around 2-3 weeks.

I only swipe right/ match with girls I'm attracted to, rather than matching with all girls. Thus, I have gotten something like 3 matches on tinder, and another 3 on Bumble.

Of those 6 matches, 2 on Bumble (1 on tinder), allowed me to continue the conversation via text. One no show on a tinder date. And two solid bumble leads that will go on a date after the holidays, although they could flake. But one of my bumble leads I think she's good for a date.

I have to say I am above average height (by good margin) so that's listed, college education, and i put on my profile that I'm well traveled, and I have quite a few stories that should spark interest. I also am a musician, can cook, and some other similar things in that vein. If I had to guess, my photos are not "girl-level" Instagram quality, but I don't really know how to remedy that.

Quote: (12-27-2018 11:31 PM)Heuristics Wrote:  

The results on both tinder and bumble have been horrible for me, despite only being on both around 2-3 weeks.

I only swipe right/ match with girls I'm attracted to, rather than matching with all girls. Thus, I have gotten something like 3 matches on tinder, and another 3 on Bumble.

Of those 6 matches, 2 on Bumble (1 on tinder), allowed me to continue the conversation via text. One no show on a tinder date. And two solid bumble leads that will go on a date after the holidays, although they could flake. But one of my bumble leads I think she's good for a date.

I have to say I am above average height (by good margin) so that's listed, college education, and i put on my profile that I'm well traveled, and I have quite a few stories that should spark interest. I also am a musician, can cook, and some other similar things in that vein. If I had to guess, my photos are not "girl-level" Instagram quality, but I don't really know how to remedy that.

Hate to break it to you, but college education doesn't matter. Well-traveled doesn't matter. Stories don't matter. Being a musician doesn't matter, being able to cook doesn't matter.

The only thing that matters to girls in 2018 (now 2019) is having an attractive image that conveys all of these things, VISUALLY.

I am happy to look over your profile over PM and give you tips on how to do this.