There are some gems here that weren't quoted by OP that show just how much of a catastrophe this will be:
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111-112 Men ages 15-29 for every 100 women in China and India
But when you look at the entire pool of men vying for women:
In China, 280 men ages 15-49 and India, 220 men for every 100 women ages 15-29.
That's a lot of sausage fests, and I'm assuming guys will have to compromise and be willing to date and marry older women. Standards will drop dramatically.
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The gender imbalance could prompt a “crisis of masculinity” as traditional roles are upended and males embrace socially regressive stances to prove their manhood, said Prem Chowdhry, a researcher and social scientist in New Delhi. “People devalue their masculinity. If they remain single, they will be declared not men at all. The basic function of a man in rural society is to have a family and look after that family.”
“In rural areas, men who didn’t get married are really marginalized; even socializing in the village is difficult,” said Therese Hesketh, a professor of global health at University College London. “These guys are depressed.”
This is actually a parallel of what is going on in the West - MGTOW and men feeling lost because feminism has taken away their role as the breadwinner and head of household. In China and India, it's not feminism, it's just that there is literally no one to marry, but the effect is similar.
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Today, 30 years old, he lives in a bare, stuffy dormitory room with five other men in the southern city of Dongguan, bunk beds lining the walls, cigarette butts carpeting the floor.
“I want to find a girlfriend, but I don’t have the money or the opportunity to meet them,” he said. “Girls have very high standards; they want houses and cars. They don’t want to talk to me.”
Li’s problem is not only that he is poor and struggling to save enough money to buy an apartment of his own; it is that in China there are simply too many men. This is a country where marriage confers social status, and where parental pressure to produce grandchildren is intense. Bachelors like Li are dismissively branded as “bare branches” for failing to expand the family tree.
But as any forester knows, bare branches pose a danger, and not just to themselves.
In Dongguan, where the gender ratio is 118 men to 100 women, Li says he has virtually given up hope of finding a girlfriend. He spends his spare time playing games on his phone, or accompanying his co-workers to karaoke or for a foot massage.
“It is just me,” he said. “Life is boring and lonely.”
This guy really needs to learn game. With his free time instead of playing on his phone he should be working out and cold approaching. Or, if anything, he should use his time to study and upgrade his skills to get a better job, or work on learning a foreign language with his phone to hit on foreign women instead of sitting at home and moping. That's the only solution for a guy with a mediocre job.
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Many Chinese men are working harder, taking more dangerous or unpleasant jobs, to get ahead. Parents are also trying to give their sons a leg up financially. “It’s kind of an arms race in the dating and marriage market,” said Shang-Jin Wei, a Columbia University economist.
The high household savings rate, particularly in China, helps explain its huge trade surplus. A man who makes cheap shoes for export does not spend the wages he earns on consumer goods imports. Instead he saves to build a house and attract a bride.
Another unintended result — urban housing prices are rising fast.
Male suitors in China pay a “bride price” to earn their future in-laws’ approval for the engagement. Because of the acute imbalance, it has gone from a few hundred dollars a decade or two ago to nearly $30,000 in some parts of China. Families sock that money away instead of spending it.
Supply and demand in the dating market is ALWAYS at play. This is actually the first time I heard about the connection between the trade surplus and the marriage market and housing market but it makes sense from a macroeconomic perspective.
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The shortage of women in rural China is amplified because women there often “marry up,” seeking husbands with slightly higher educational, financial or social status. That takes women away from villages to the cities in search of those types of men — making it even harder for the men who stay behind.
This sounds like it could be taken straight out of Heartiste or Jordan Peterson - women are always going to hypergamy.
The most interesting part of the article was this: the impact on the dating market in Southeast Asia:
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Tens of thousands of foreign women are flocking to China for marriage, pushed by poverty at home and sucked in by China’s shortage of women. Chinese men surf websites that offer foreign brides, and may wind up paying upwards of $8,000 for marriage tours to find a wife. For the brides, it’s a huge gamble: They are lured with promises of work, and some are effectively trapped and trafficked into marriage.
In their new families, daughters-in-law often occupy the lowest status.
Liu Hua couldn’t find a wife in China. So he decided to buy a foreign one. His sister and mother helped him choose from a selection of Cambodian women who had come to China looking for husbands, eventually picking out a slim girl with a nice smile.
His wife, Lili, is among tens of thousands of foreign women who are flocking here for marriage, pushed by poverty at home and sucked in by China’s dramatic shortage of women.
Leping has become a center for the trade in Cambodian women: in village after village, they are easy to spot, looking after young children and picking them up from school, or just hanging out watching their husbands play mah-jongg.
In Huangling, a village two hours’ drive to the north of Leping, Liu and Lili’s was the first of several transnational marriages.
“Our village has 50 or 60 bachelors and only one or two single women,” said Liu. “For men who are 40 or even older, Cambodian women are like a second chance.”
Liu said he paid deposits ranging from $5,000 to $40,000 to three local families, just for the right to date their daughters, and got only some of the money back when the matches didn’t work out.
Fed up with demanding Chinese families, he eventually decided to pay a broker nearly $15,000 for Lili, who took a Chinese name after moving there.
The two profess to be content, living in a house filled with photos of their wedding and their two young children, a 4-year-old boy, Siyiuan, and his 1-year-old sister Sisi.
With men outnumbering women in China by 34 million, the demand for foreign wives risks simply shifting the problem onto China’s smaller neighbors.
Russian women, some of whom used to look to the West for husbands, are increasingly seeking marriage in China, says Elena Barabantseva at Britain’s University of Manchester, who has been leading an international project on marriage migration into China.
In China, they are the most sought-after brides, prized for their fair skin and European features. They are seen as educated but accessible, less emancipated than Western women. These women are more likely to end up in bigger cities, with richer men.
Commercial marriage tours to Russia as well as Ukraine offer Chinese men the chance to meet 10 or 20 women over the space of a few days for around $5,000, rising to $8,000 if they find a bride.
But a much larger number of women come from Vietnam. Marriage migration across the porous border in southern China began two decades ago and is flourishing, said Caroline Grillot, who has been researching the phenomenon for a decade, most recently with Barabantseva in Manchester.
Vietnamese women are seen as less “demanding” than some Chinese women and more focused on traditional family values. They are also sought after for their fair skin, their big eyes and slim waists, Grillot says. They in turn often prefer Chinese husbands to their own compatriots, not just for their wallets, but because they are seen as hard-working and family-focused.
Today websites like ZhongYueLove.com (China-Viet-Love) offer a selection of Vietnamese women. Some services offer a money-back guarantee that the brides will be virgins, and a free replacement for any who run away within a year.
Others arrive from Burma and Laos, crossing into China’s relatively poor southwestern Yunnan province.
In effect they are replacing local women who have themselves migrated, to find husbands in more prosperous parts of “inner China,” said Shen Hanmei, a professor at Yunnan University in Kunming.
Significant numbers have poured in from North Korea, too, especially after famine struck there in the mid-1990s. Many have suffered horrendous treatment from abusive husbands or were trafficked into prostitution in China, and ended up in labor camps if they tried to return to their home country.
This Chinese sausage fest is going to affect the dating market from Ukraine to Vietnam. That's pretty mind blowing and disturbing as China continues to grow and become more powerful. I'm guessing reports of large groups of Chinese sex and/or marriage tours are going to start filtering in on this forum over the next 5-10 years as wages in China continue to rise.
Has anyone in China now seen an increase in xenophobia towards foreigners dating Chinese women, as poorer men get shut out of the dating market?
There is also a bunch of reporting on harassment in India as well, but I'm not sure if that's a direct result of the sausage fest, probably rather the general culture of harassing females in India.
As one poster mentioned, sex bots, MGTOW, and homosexuality seem like the only solution to this, but can such traditional cultures adjust that quickly to completely redefine a male's role in society in just a decade? I'm skeptical.
If the culture is unable to change then I don't see how we will avoid massive violence as these guys feel shut out from having a normal life.
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