Quote: (01-09-2018 11:26 AM)xxx Wrote:
Quote: (01-08-2018 08:58 PM)Distant Light Wrote:
IMO this whole perspective derives from fear/ego and the inadequacy of men wanting to gain control/power over there women...
Dudes need to grow up, if you're an awesome guy you'll attract awesome women plain and simple.
You talk like you haven't been in the field... This is not about gaining control, but about finding a decent girl who isn't addicted to casual sex and who's mentally intact; not necessarily an uptight religious woman. If you live in a big East Coast city like me, that's hard to find. Many of us also have internet businesses and work from home, so this 'awesome woman' isn't going to fall out of the sky, you need to approach her when you see her, and with the correct vibe and mindset.
A lot of men in this forum get defensive when their slut banging habits get challenged--you realize it's a bad thing to fuck mentally unstable women addicted to sex, and you get defensive about it. The thing is, these women leave a part of their sickness with you when you spend time with them--you become who you're with.
I'm done with it, completely over it.
Almost overlooked this thread...
I'm not gonna comment other than the fact that I recently got out of an almost 3 year relationship. Most on here would consider her a high quality woman...
- Super Loyal
- Loves...Madly
- Interesting Woman (I already know I will not find a woman who meshes so well in certain areas)
- Has the capacity to hold her own socially
- I know how much so many guys put weight on where a woman graduated...so she's from 1 of the top 100 universities, NOT majored in gender studies
Most would say I had the ideal relationship, I ultimately learnt it wasn't for me. I'm an explorer of life, I'd say my purpose is more of a "crash dummy" on the fringe of life rather than a bubble of comfort and security. Most want to survive, I just want to live til it all ends.
In a nutshell, the "finding a decent woman" is void as I've met many amazing women. I'm not gonna go into more details but lets just say for the traveler type, if that was your gf you'd say you had it made.
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You talk like you haven't been in the field...
Now, thankfully when I was single I used to record my life to archive memories for when I'm near death...
I've always stated the greatest benefit for me wasn't the women, sex or enjoyable life. It's the self-discovery, expanded awareness and growth that changed me into a better person. The memorable moments were just homage for me to remember just how much I grew.
I don't think I've ever shared this publicly, next time your on the toilet check out this archive video I made 5 years ago... (Youtube muted 3-4mins of audio near the middle)
This was roughly clips of 3-4 months of my life (may-aug) 5 years ago...
P.S...I didn't have personal experience in monogamy so I assumed my lack of affinity for it was just fear/ego...Tried for 3 years in monogamy...I'd never do it again. The amount of deep emotions and future projections CRUSHED because my consciousness incompatibility for roles/obligations of life. Really wish my ex and I had just been friends. I was the problem in our relationship, I had to end it to stop causing prolonged pain.
P.S.S...I've never hounded, worried nor had DISTRUST for my gf. In my mind she was free to do whatever she pleased. I've come across many women regardless of there past NOT mess with other guys and those women I wasn't even in a role/obligation with. That was the woman's choice, I've never forced no roles nor obligations. GF & I were just dumb for dogmatically becoming monogamous because we had immense love for each other. #IfItAintBrokenWhyFixIt