Ahhh Day Game I have some thoughts about this
Back when I was 19-21 I used to Daygame with a buddy I met through a pick up forum.
We would literary drive 30min to the mall and spend hours walking around going DIRECT on chicks.
Got lots of numbers went on dates but no lays to be honest.
Had to stop because Day game is too time consuming and had to focus on finishing school.
I haven’t Day gamed in a couple of years and my approach anxiety is back with a vengeance.
I do eventually want to get back into Day game so here are my thoughts:
If you’re new to day game and want to start get a WINGMAN who’s in the same situation as you.
Block off Saturday and Sunday and designated days that YOU BOTH GO to the mall to do approaches. Set a goal of number of approaches you want to do. This is what me and my buddy did.
In fact I’m sure there’s enough people on this forum living in similar cities that you could start a day game meet up thread where 2 guys get together on the weekends to hit on chicks at the mall.
Doing this for a couple of months will help you CONTROL your approach anxiety. Note that I said control and not eliminate. The reality is that approach anxiety doesn’t really go away you just learn to manage it better.
You train your brain to realize that walking up to a chick you dont know during the day when the SUN is out and hitting on her will not get you killed.
You’re still going to have negative thoughts and emotions in your head but do your best to reference all the good interactions you’ve had and just do it.
The point is that you want to be doing at least a few approaches a week. If you slack off for a couple of months or years like I did your approach anxiety comes back in a cripppling manner and you have to start from square zero.
Once you get comfortable approaching Integrate Day game into your daily lifestyle. For guys that work a 9-5 and have to be in office. During your lunch break walk around on the street or hop into a nearby Whole Foods and do some approaches. If you’re at the gym and see a chick you want to talk to approach.
Day game is great when you can integrate into your life, but for most ppl to get comfortable at day game they have to block off time to do it.
NOW FOR SOME REAL TALK
Number 1 factor to day game success will be your looks AKA how attractive you are.
Given the nature of cold approach the only thing the chick has to make a decision on whether she likes you or not is how attractive you are and whether she’s sexually available.
You can be the most confident guy in the world but if you dont meet her looks threshold shes not sleeping with you.
Just like you can be the most attractive guy but if she’s just not sexually available you’re not smashing either.
Please don’t tell me a story about how you know an ugly guy who’s killing it in day game and banging hotties. That’s anecdotal evidence and doesn’t disprove the general rule of being attractive.
The take away is that you should be brutally honest of how attractive you are if you’re going to do Day game because it will determine the QUALITY of girls you can get.
Why is this important? Because even chicks that are UGLIER than you can bang average to somewhat attractive guys. So imagine what look standards average to cute to hot girls must have. Hope this makes sense.
So be honest with your self on how attractive you are. Look at the quality of chicks you have banged to see where you stand. Also ask yourself When most girls meet you do they call u hot and how attractive are these girls that call you hot.
I probably wouldn’t even recommend Day game if you’re short due to how obsessed chicks are with height.
I’m no supermodel myself I’m a 5’10 average looking minority who’s in shape. Girls can tell I workout even with my shirt on.
Once you know where you stand on the looks scale go out and target girls at your level or lower. Preferably you would want to target girls less good looking than you are. After all this is how hot guys get laid a lot. They target average looking chicks.
The mistake I made when I first started day gaming which I assume most ppl did is they only went after hot chicks. I’m not saying don’t approach hot chicks but understand what your odds are. Every once in awhile you’ll get lucky and smash a hotty but statistically speaking you should go after chicks a little bit below you in looks.
All in all this is a numbers game where if you’re willing to lower your standards and talk to enough girls you will get laid. Though I’ve never gotten laid off of day game I feel as though if I had kept at it I would’ve gotten lucky just like how I’ve gotten lucky at night game by showing up most nights taking to chicks and eventually one just fell in my lap through luck.
Back when I was 19-21 I used to Daygame with a buddy I met through a pick up forum.
We would literary drive 30min to the mall and spend hours walking around going DIRECT on chicks.
Got lots of numbers went on dates but no lays to be honest.
Had to stop because Day game is too time consuming and had to focus on finishing school.
I haven’t Day gamed in a couple of years and my approach anxiety is back with a vengeance.
I do eventually want to get back into Day game so here are my thoughts:
If you’re new to day game and want to start get a WINGMAN who’s in the same situation as you.
Block off Saturday and Sunday and designated days that YOU BOTH GO to the mall to do approaches. Set a goal of number of approaches you want to do. This is what me and my buddy did.
In fact I’m sure there’s enough people on this forum living in similar cities that you could start a day game meet up thread where 2 guys get together on the weekends to hit on chicks at the mall.
Doing this for a couple of months will help you CONTROL your approach anxiety. Note that I said control and not eliminate. The reality is that approach anxiety doesn’t really go away you just learn to manage it better.
You train your brain to realize that walking up to a chick you dont know during the day when the SUN is out and hitting on her will not get you killed.
You’re still going to have negative thoughts and emotions in your head but do your best to reference all the good interactions you’ve had and just do it.
The point is that you want to be doing at least a few approaches a week. If you slack off for a couple of months or years like I did your approach anxiety comes back in a cripppling manner and you have to start from square zero.
Once you get comfortable approaching Integrate Day game into your daily lifestyle. For guys that work a 9-5 and have to be in office. During your lunch break walk around on the street or hop into a nearby Whole Foods and do some approaches. If you’re at the gym and see a chick you want to talk to approach.
Day game is great when you can integrate into your life, but for most ppl to get comfortable at day game they have to block off time to do it.
NOW FOR SOME REAL TALK
Number 1 factor to day game success will be your looks AKA how attractive you are.
Given the nature of cold approach the only thing the chick has to make a decision on whether she likes you or not is how attractive you are and whether she’s sexually available.
You can be the most confident guy in the world but if you dont meet her looks threshold shes not sleeping with you.
Just like you can be the most attractive guy but if she’s just not sexually available you’re not smashing either.
Please don’t tell me a story about how you know an ugly guy who’s killing it in day game and banging hotties. That’s anecdotal evidence and doesn’t disprove the general rule of being attractive.
The take away is that you should be brutally honest of how attractive you are if you’re going to do Day game because it will determine the QUALITY of girls you can get.
Why is this important? Because even chicks that are UGLIER than you can bang average to somewhat attractive guys. So imagine what look standards average to cute to hot girls must have. Hope this makes sense.
So be honest with your self on how attractive you are. Look at the quality of chicks you have banged to see where you stand. Also ask yourself When most girls meet you do they call u hot and how attractive are these girls that call you hot.
I probably wouldn’t even recommend Day game if you’re short due to how obsessed chicks are with height.
I’m no supermodel myself I’m a 5’10 average looking minority who’s in shape. Girls can tell I workout even with my shirt on.
Once you know where you stand on the looks scale go out and target girls at your level or lower. Preferably you would want to target girls less good looking than you are. After all this is how hot guys get laid a lot. They target average looking chicks.
The mistake I made when I first started day gaming which I assume most ppl did is they only went after hot chicks. I’m not saying don’t approach hot chicks but understand what your odds are. Every once in awhile you’ll get lucky and smash a hotty but statistically speaking you should go after chicks a little bit below you in looks.
All in all this is a numbers game where if you’re willing to lower your standards and talk to enough girls you will get laid. Though I’ve never gotten laid off of day game I feel as though if I had kept at it I would’ve gotten lucky just like how I’ve gotten lucky at night game by showing up most nights taking to chicks and eventually one just fell in my lap through luck.