I had a oneitis for a year. I fuck her about once a week or every other depending on how much she would decide we could hang out. Anyway, after realizing finally that I'm tired of her texting her other "guy friends" and leaving me to meet up with them I'm finished with this bitch. The problem is I work with her so I can't completely ghost her but I am willing to finally be done with her shit of putting me last. I have finally committed to nexting her but it want to do it in the way where I retain the most power. If I were to stop responding to her texts she sends every 3-4 days then it's obvious. If I tell her that it's not working for me she will know it's bothered me she does not want to take things further and give me more of her time. Should I just tell her that Im seeing someone else and I don't think it's fair to keep talking with her? I can't keep her around as a plate becauyive finally realized I can't handle the shit she puts me through and I will be better in the long run without her. What's my play here?

Do what the girls do.
Respond to her messages but slowly.
Tell her you can't make it today but perhaps another day and "let's talk and see".
Set a meeting for a certain day but flake on her.
Every one of us would probably have preferred to be told that the girl is just not intetested or whatever. It would save us a lot of time, especially when we're new to game and don't realize the signs.
But girls can't be straight with us, and they also keep us for backup.
I say beat her in her own game.

I like this idea. Anyone used this technique?

You cant "dread" chicks that are too busy sucking Alpha dick in Hawaii.

Are you going to contribute to helping me get over this chick or just dig up an old post I made about the same dumb slut? I'm looking for help here..

BTW: I think she is still banging the dude from that post but she told me she wasn't.

Fallow what Bruce laid out to exactly. Either she'll get more attracted, and fuck you Senseless, or slowly disengage entirely. Either way YOU win. Just be careful about doing any dumb Beta shit since she was your Oneitis!

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:20 AM)scheme00 Wrote:  

Are you going to contribute to helping me get over this chick or just dig up an old post I made about the same dumb slut? I'm looking for help here..

Easy there lil poodle. I am trying to help you by pointing out how pathetic youre being about this chick. It's "tough love" but would you rather me give your ego a mild wake up slap or keep getting punched in the balls by this "dumb slut"? ...your own words

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:20 AM)scheme00 Wrote:  

BTW: I think she is still banging the dude from that post but she told me she wasn't.

She's not lying...I only let her blow me

Will do, Thank god there are Bruce's out there who know the right play to make. Kudos

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:27 AM)scheme00 Wrote:  

Will do, Thank god there are Bruce's out there who know the right play to make. Kudos

Yeah maybe he can also teach you how you too can lose a lay over $2.50 tip

JK

Actually this is good tactically

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:11 AM)bruce_almighty Wrote:  

Do what the girls do.
Respond to her messages but slowly.
Tell her you can't make it today but perhaps another day and "let's talk and see".
Set a meeting for a certain day but flake on her.
Every one of us would probably have preferred to be told that the girl is just not intetested or whatever. It would save us a lot of time, especially when we're new to game and don't realize the signs.
But girls can't be straight with us, and they also keep us for backup.
I say beat her in her own game.

The problem is that the only way this will work is if you really dont care if it doesn't...and you obviously care too much

Honestly...The only thing that will work in this situation is for you to bang other chicks

Dread game is both a waste of fucking time and emotionally manipulative. Both are bad. The reality is that dread game doesn't work. Attractive women always have other options. If you stop responding to her texts, somebody else will.

Frankly, it sounds like you need to move on from her. It sounds like you're in some form of codependent relationship.

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:37 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

Yeah maybe he can also teach you how you too can lose a lay over $2.50 tip

JK

Definitely one of my expertise

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:37 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

The problem is that the only way this will work is if you really dont care if it doesn't...and you obviously care too much

Honestly...The only thing that will work in this situation is for you to bang other chicks

Can't agree more. You can try to technically do what I said but it will consume a lot of efforts from your side to simulate a player's behavior when banging other chicks will make you do this naturally.

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:53 AM)Truth Teller Wrote:  

Dread game is both a waste of fucking time and emotionally manipulative. Both are bad. The reality is that dread game doesn't work. Attractive women always have other options. If you stop responding to her texts, somebody else will.

The term "dread game" gets thrown around but most dont really get it.

It does work and work quite well if used properly. It requires the two most basic elements ( Fear and Desire) be in constant "titration" / equilibrium

A) She's convinced youre her best option (Desire)

B) She's convinced she's about to lose you (Fear)

Game never stops.

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:53 AM)Truth Teller Wrote:  

Frankly, it sounds like you need to move on from her. It sounds like you're in some form of codependent relationship.

this I agree with

So should I implement the "beat her at her own game" woman tactic? I am doing this to show that I'm not butt hurt, not as a strategy to make her want me more. I'm tired of her shit. I just don't want to seem weak anymore and have to see her around work.

What's wrong with stopping communication altogether? It's the easiest, most straight-forward way and you can't lose either way. If she finally gives up, you win. If she comes crawling with her tail between her legs, you win. Why waste time playing games?

Just become totally lackadaisical in your communications. Respond here and there, usually ambiguously...

"Hey Hank, what are you up to?"
"playin vids"
"Drinks on Thursday?"
[no response]

[three days later]
"Hank... ???"
"sup"
"What are you up to?"
[three hours later]
"work stuff"
"You going out tonight?"
[no response]

"Hank, are you mad at me?"
"no"
"You haven't been returning my text messages..."
[no response]

"Hank, let's grab drinks tonight"
"maybe what time"
"How about 8pm?"
"i can make 830 work"

This assumes you want to keep her around. Personally, I get spent when communication becomes too challenging. She's either interested or she's not. And if she's not, I have other stuff to do...

Man, you are lying to yourself. You are trying to "dread this bitch" to keep her around, but you are telling yourself that you are ditching her. Lies.

What you need to do for your soul's health is to really stop any form of relationship with her other than what your job demands you to have. If you don't do this, you will realize what you were doing 2 years from now and you will feel ashamed as hell over it. And you already know all this, and in consequence your self-respect is probably being hurt. Stop this already, as you clearly want to do. No need to overthink this with complicated plans, just stop it, who cares what she thinks about you doing this.

Its not going to work. She doesn't respect you at all. I'd still do what Bruce says, it won't get her back, but it will at least end things without drama (important since you work with her) or you looking more like a bitch then she already considers you. Women who respect you don't do shit like what you described.

Quote: (08-15-2017 11:10 PM)scheme00 Wrote:  

I had a oneitis for a year. I fuck her about once a week or every other depending on how much she would decide we could hang out.

This is backwards. As the man, YOU decide. Because you have options.

Quote: (08-16-2017 02:45 AM)scheme00 Wrote:  

I'm tired of her shit. I just don't want to seem weak anymore and have to see her around work.

Like I mentioned, get more options (i.e. other girls). Are you tired of her shit or not? You say you are. Prove it. Fuck other girls and you'll forget about this one in no time.

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:20 AM)scheme00 Wrote:  

Are you going to contribute to helping me get over this chick or just dig up an old post I made about the same dumb slut? I'm looking for help here..

BTW: I think she is still banging the dude from that post but she told me she wasn't.

Jesus H. Christ.

Every single thing in your relationship is exactly reversed. She's the man, and you are the woman. She has fully and completely mastered you. That will never change. SHE has the dread power here, not you. She has absolutely NOTHING to fear from you.

Your only option, assuming that you would like to have your testicles re-grow, is to cut ALL social ties with this woman.

At work, you be professional, polite, and do your job. When she decides that you will fill some task on her social agenda, you tell her that you'd love to, but that you have another commitment.

When she directs you to tell her what that commitment is, fight the urge to make up something, and simply say that you're working on some private, personal projects, then move on. This will be difficult for you because she is currently your social superior. But you must do it.

When she demands your time again later, tell her the same thing, and that perhaps "next month" may be a better time for you. "Next month" never comes, because you're busy "next month" too. Always, being polite.

When she sees that you are of no use to her, she'll move on to her next victim.

Meanwhile, your objective is to find other women to be with, keeping in mind the lessons you learned from the work-girl.

I hope it works out for you.

Quote: (08-16-2017 08:57 AM)Baphomet Wrote:  

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:20 AM)scheme00 Wrote:  

Are you going to contribute to helping me get over this chick or just dig up an old post I made about the same dumb slut? I'm looking for help here..

BTW: I think she is still banging the dude from that post but she told me she wasn't.

Jesus H. Christ.

Every single thing in your relationship is exactly reversed. She's the man, and you are the woman. She has fully and completely mastered you. That will never change. SHE has the dread power here, not you. She has absolutely NOTHING to fear from you.

Your only option, assuming that you would like to have your testicles re-grow, is to cut ALL social ties with this woman.

At work, you be professional, polite, and do your job. When she decides that you will fill some task on her social agenda, you tell her that you'd love to, but that you have another commitment.

When she directs you to tell her what that commitment is, fight the urge to make up something, and simply say that you're working on some private, personal projects, then move on. This will be difficult for you because she is currently your social superior. But you must do it.

When she demands your time again later, tell her the same thing, and that perhaps "next month" may be a better time for you. "Next month" never comes, because you're busy "next month" too. Always, being polite.

When she sees that you are of no use to her, she'll move on to her next victim.

Meanwhile, your objective is to find other women to be with, keeping in mind the lessons you learned from the work-girl.

I hope it works out for you.

Yes, yes and yes to everything here. Cut all social ties, respond only about work and be totally professional in dealing with her.

The only thing I can add is that you need to forget this chick and start approaching other women immediately. You might not have success right away but eventually you will. It is bound to be a hell of a lot healthier than your current predicament.

Perhaps the earliest lesson I learned as I was getting out of blue pill ways (which I still am) is that when there is confusion, it never works out that you're able to work through the confusion for a positive end goal for yourself.

Even if you don't like her, you're likely scared of throwing away the currently somewhat regular access to pussy you have. It's an important milestone to cross, when you realize your self-respect is more important than pussy.

So how many other guys is she fucking?

OP likes being her plate.

Quote: (08-16-2017 08:57 AM)Baphomet Wrote:  

Quote: (08-16-2017 12:20 AM)scheme00 Wrote:  

Are you going to contribute to helping me get over this chick or just dig up an old post I made about the same dumb slut? I'm looking for help here..

BTW: I think she is still banging the dude from that post but she told me she wasn't.

Jesus H. Christ.

Every single thing in your relationship is exactly reversed. She's the man, and you are the woman. She has fully and completely mastered you. That will never change. SHE has the dread power here, not you. She has absolutely NOTHING to fear from you.

Your only option, assuming that you would like to have your testicles re-grow, is to cut ALL social ties with this woman.

At work, you be professional, polite, and do your job. When she decides that you will fill some task on her social agenda, you tell her that you'd love to, but that you have another commitment.

When she directs you to tell her what that commitment is, fight the urge to make up something, and simply say that you're working on some private, personal projects, then move on. This will be difficult for you because she is currently your social superior. But you must do it.

When she demands your time again later, tell her the same thing, and that perhaps "next month" may be a better time for you. "Next month" never comes, because you're busy "next month" too. Always, being polite.

When she sees that you are of no use to her, she'll move on to her next victim.

Meanwhile, your objective is to find other women to be with, keeping in mind the lessons you learned from the work-girl.

I hope it works out for you.

You can't make her dread your loss cause she doesn't value you at all, you're just a little source of attention. If she's was a guy then you would be a chubby 5 who gives enthusiastic blowjobs but is never going to be anything more than a way to blow spare time when better pussy is unavailable.

Just quit it. You lost. Part of the game is knowing when you got whupped. Don't fuck at work, amateur.

She is running dread on you, yet you make a post about trying to dread her.

Oh, the irony.