[scheme00]

Thanks guys, I will keep you posted on updates here because I'm done with this chick. I really appreciate all of the advice, it is really good and nice to have guys like you around to help make me stronger.

[eradicator]

There should be nothing to update here. Delete this girl's number from your phone and unfollow her from all social media(facebook, instagram twitter etc), you don't have to unfriend because you might be expected to stay friends with your co workers but that's your call, might not be a bad idea.

The only updates that would apply now are your next hundred approaches. You don't have to document them here, but you want to make sure you are actually making a hundred approaches you might want to document them somwhere.

[Truth Teller]

(08-16-2017 01:17 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

The term "dread game" gets thrown around but most dont really get it.

It does work and work quite well if used properly. It requires the two most basic elements ( Fear and Desire) be in constant "titration" / equilibrium

A) She's convinced youre her best option (Desire)

B) She's convinced she's about to lose you (Fear)

Game never stops.

I'm talking about in in the Heartiste/Roissy sense. My experience with it is very negative. Again, attractive women have multiple options.

[PapayaTapper]

(08-16-2017 03:23 PM)Truth Teller Wrote:  

(08-16-2017 01:17 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

The term "dread game" gets thrown around but most dont really get it.

It does work and work quite well if used properly. It requires the two most basic elements ( Fear and Desire) be in constant "titration" / equilibrium

A) She's convinced youre her best option (Desire)

B) She's convinced she's about to lose you (Fear)

Game never stops.

I'm talking about in in the Heartiste/Roissy sense. My experience with it is very negative. Again, attractive women have multiple options.

Me too...albeit I oversimplified

Like I said most dont get it. Below is the original post. I think its undeniable. Ive bolded the essential premise

You think you're going to keep an attractive woman over the long haul without some form of dread interspersed with tenderness? Nope.

Dread Game isn't solely about the "negative"

It's a carefully crafted balance achieved through what I like to call "titration"* (borrowed from chemistry)

Quote:

A titration is a technique where a solution of known concentration is used to determine the concentration of an unknown solution. Typically, the titrant (the know solution) is added from a buret to a known quantity of the analyte (the unknown solution) until the reaction is complete. Knowing the volume of titrant added allows the determination of the concentration of the unknown. Often, an indicator is used to usually signal the end of the reaction, the endpoint

The more attractive the girl more skilled and nuanced your "dread game" has to be

aka:

positive / negative,

push /pull,

fear / desire

yin /yang

Heartiste Dread

Quote:

Dread
March 27, 2008 by CH
There are two ways to guarantee a healthy relationship. By healthy, I mean the girl is in love with you and there is no threat of her leaving; you have all the leverage you need to assure yourself peace of mind and a steady sexual outlet.

Meet your soulmate
If you are extremely lucky enough to cross paths with your soulmate this is the easiest way to live the kind of romantic bliss that Hollywood movies exalt. A soulmate connection is the Golden Ticket to happiness and a dreamlike existence. But it is rare. Don’t live as if it will happen to you. I estimate 1% of all men and 2% of all women meet their soulmates. The reason for the discrepancy is that male soulmates are in shorter supply than female soulmates. Male soulmates are shared amongst the women like a community hookah.

Instill dread
Women respond viscerally in their vagina area to unpredictability, mixed signals, danger, and drama in spite of their best efforts to convince themselves otherwise. Managing your relationship in such a way that she is left with a constant, gnawing feeling of impending doom will do more for your cause than all the Valentine’s Day cards and expertly performed tongue love in the world. Like it or not, the threat of a looming breakup, whether the facts justify it or not, will spin her into a paranoid estrogen-fueled tizzy, and she’ll spend every waking second thinking about you, thinking about the relationship, thinking about how to fix it. Her love for you will blossom under these conditions. Result: she works harder to please you.

The key for the man is to adopt a posture of blase emotional distance alternated with loving tenderness. Too much of either and she’ll run off.

Examples of effective doom inducement:

Turn off your cell phone twice a week. Alternate days. Don’t do this on a Friday or Saturday night unless the relationship is shaky and needs a high voltage jolt of dread.

Make a blatant but plausibly deniable move on one of her friends when she’s not around. The news will get back to her. Milk it.

Call her from a very busy place so that she can hear women’s voices laughing and shrieking in the background. Don’t tell her where you are when she asks. Just say you’ll see her soon.

Mention how skilled your Russian ex was at giving head. Bring it up again a few days later, pretending not to remember the first time you mentioned it. Bonus: Russians are very good at giving head, so this will have the ring of truth.

Be seen by your girlfriend flirting with other women in a social venue. Extra points if the women are attractive. Double extra points if you flirt without looking back at your girlfriend once to check her reaction.

Cook her a romantic candlelight dinner at home. Make it a memorable experience, complete with jazz, chocolate, and rose petals. Then, do not talk with her for four days afterwards.

Ignore her calls for a week. When you eventually answer and she reads you the riot act, act as if nothing was wrong and accuse her of sabotaging a perfectly good relationship, “just like all the other women in this stupid city. I thought you were different”. Hang up on her angrily.

When her best friend tells you how cute you and your girlfriend look together, shrug, put your hand to the back of your neck as if to scratch an itch there, look down slightly and with a mildly annoyed expression blandly sigh “Yeeeeah…”. Triple bonus points if your girlfriend is standing right there.

When she attempts the jealousy maneuver by flirting with another guy, act unfazed. Give her pickup tips.

Gaze longingly into her eyes, say how hot she looks, then immediately glance sidelong at the bosom of any strange woman in the vicinity.

Have a threesome. Spend an inordinate amount of time admiring the labia of the other woman. Be sure to moan louder with her. WARNING: If you cum on the other woman you will have to spend weeks consoling your girlfriend.

Say things like “I really value my independence and freedom” relevant to nothing in particular. It’s just a thought that popped in your head.

Thermonuclear Option:

Have an affair and make sure she finds out about it. Arrange the confrontation so that it does not happen at your place. When she confronts you, don’t get defensive. Don’t speak at all. Let her vent. Let her punch you in the chest and scream obscenities. When she takes a breather, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you will never stop loving her. Then without waiting for her response calmly walk out the door and break off all contact for two weeks. When she comes back to you… and she will… you will have a love slave for life.

[Chiosboy90]

So many posts for this? Do you think this girl is also on a forum and talk about you? Why do you want to "win" over a woman? Just move on and fuck other girls Jesus.
Good looking women will always have more options than you. Just accept it. It's okay. You would and should do the same anyway.
Even I know that. If you had options and are regular approaching, this topic would be on your concern list even under the: "did I forgot to turn off the oven? one.

[RatInTheWoods]

(08-16-2017 05:49 AM)HankMoody Wrote:  

Just become totally lackadaisical in your communications. Respond here and there, usually ambiguously...

"Hey Hank, what are you up to?"
"playin vids"
"Drinks on Thursday?"
[no response]

[three days later]
"Hank... ???"
"sup"
"What are you up to?"
[three hours later]
"work stuff"
"You going out tonight?"
[no response]

"Hank, are you mad at me?"
"no"
"You haven't been returning my text messages..."
[no response]

"Hank, let's grab drinks tonight"
"maybe what time"
"How about 8pm?"
"i can make 830 work"

This assumes you want to keep her around. Personally, I get spent when communication becomes too challenging. She's either interested or she's not. And if she's not, I have other stuff to do...

You don't want to "dread her" - you are not in that position.

You want to HARD NEXT her, but you are worried about drama at work.

So SOFT NEXT her, exactly as per Hanks message above. Read it carefully, implemented this plan and she will lose interest in you in a few weeks, and no drama at work

HTH

[Guitarman]

Am I the only one ( from the title ) dissapointed that this thread wasn't about giving your dog a rasta hairstyle?

[MrTickle]

Plan A as other have said is too hard next her. However, you work with her. So plan B is to wipe from personal life. Delete number, social media. Keep work professional.

Now find a new job and revert back to Plan A.

In your spare time work on yourself, all the answers on how to do this are right here on this forum. Don't forget to never mix up work and personal life again so you can always and easily implement plan A.