Gents,
I am writing this post from a beautiful view on the sea, a nicely brewed coffee and an somehow shredded hope of love.
I hope my story helps some forum members so they do not go through this shit like I did.
Background / Beginning of the story:
We are both from South America.
I met my ex girlfriend through Happn dating app. We met in August, 2015. We went for drinks, she is hot!, she is fun!, she is independent!, she makes money and she is cool! I went for the kiss and got it, no bang.
2nd date, we went biking on a park, lay down with a bottle of wine and kiss and hug all afternoon. No bang.
3rd date, went for drinks, came back to my place, escalated like a champ, bang and I let her stay over (First mistake). I had a flight next day for 2 weeks out of the country anyway, wanted some company that night.
I kept it cool and casual, using a lot of G manifesto, Fisto´s posts, text messaging guide,Chateau,etc... I wanted this girl, I wanted to be in a relationship with her, before knowing her better (2nd mistake)
First 2 months and first overseas trip:
We kept dating, things started getting serious. I still had 2 lizards that I was banging constantly on the side while dating her for the first 2 months.
2 Months after meeting i invited her on a weekend trip to Lima. (I am flying +100 flights a year for work so I get a bunch of frequent flier miles and discounts,etc...) We got business class upgrades, she paid for her ticket fees as well as half of the hotel. I took care of the rest. We are banging like there is no tomorrow, doing everything we wanted sexually. This is the best sex partner I had in a few years.
Short story: I am falling for this girl, before knowing her well! I feel connected to her, we talk a lot, about life, about goals,etc...
When we comeback home, she drops the bomb.
¨How many girls have you sleep with since we started dating?
Me: 27
She: haha, funny,
Me: change subject.
She: Come on, tell me.
After a few drinks and a lot of hassle, I told her. I was banging you together with 2 other gals + 1 night stand the first 2 months in.
She flips, do not pick up her phone in days,etc...I did nothing! she comes back after 2 weeks with a calendar, with all the days we have been together and all the days we did not hang out. She wants to know which days I banged another girl, she wants to know if I lie, when I said. Honey, I will hit the gym late tonight, when I was actually banging an actress on the back of my Accent.
MAJOR RED FLAG. Probably the biggest red flag I ignored.
Instead of nexting her ass on the spot. I explain that this is nothing serious yet and I could do whatever I wanted, blah blah...1 week no contact, she comes back apologizing. I say it is OK and we carry on.
I start hanging out with her friends, we go out, we get drunk,etc...
Red flag #1:
She is drinking, A LOT!, more than me. Getting crazy on top of tables, flirting with other dudes. I started drinking even more to not feel bad about her behavior. ¨I can tolerate this ¨If she flirts, I flirt more, if she dances on the table, I go and flirt with her best friend. This was not making me happy. It was making me crazy. I could not sleep at night, I look like shit at work (I am a sales man). This is affecting my life.
Red flag #2:
All her friends are friends from her ex boyfriend (5 year relationship) which talk about him constantly. She is still in contact with her ex! while banging me. They all talk about how cool he was. My stomach trembles, I start to heavily drink to pretend I don´t care.
Red flag #3:
One of her best friends warns me out of the blue. ¨Dude, I don't know you, you seem like a cool cat, watch out for her, she is bat shit crazy¨
At this point I started to fall for a girl who will only bring trouble to my life. I read a lot of forum, youtube, etc... on how to spot a crazy girl. Nothing worked. I was not thinking straight.
I was doomed by the sex, the cooking, the nice dates,etc... (She makes money on her advertising deal and she had no problem in inviting me to nice dinners, hotels, trips,etc...)
She is super manipulative, she had an answer for everything. She used a lot of bullshit to explain her bad behavior (Horoscope, moon cycle, her period,etc...) I bought it all!
After a few months in:
I stopped banging any girls, I wanted to be only with her. She cooks for me, she brings me food to my office, she is cool with my friends, she is hot! she is cool! I like this girl (Pedestal). I started to feel insecure.
After I met her family, friends and we where together for 4 months I asked her to be my girlfriend.
I ignored the fact that there was no father figure (Father cheated on her mom when she was 15) Her brother is an alcoholic, no work, no school, just partying, all her friends are gay dudes, she drinks more than me, she goes out 2-3 times a week to clubs, she is loud and obnoxious, she has 3.000 followers on instagram and all the pics are selfies.
She also told me she has been with 11 dudes in her life. Fucked her ex in a club bathroom and lost her virginity at 15. (This went through my mind through all our 11 month relationship)
She also told me she had depression and goes to a psychologist, after last boyfriend finally broke up with her, she menace to commit suicide.
Jesus, what I was thinking about. It is embarrassing to think that I want this girl in my life. Anyway, I am sharing...
She says no. ¨I want to be your girlfriend, but not yet¨
For me this is know a challenge. I started doing it all, nice places, cool dates, songs, cooking for her, massages, trips,etc...
3 weeks later, she is my girlfriend.
People congratulate me at work, ¨MAN YOUR GIRL IS HOT!¨. I feel secure, proud, she is mine (Ha!). I can get whatever I want!
We go on boat trips, I started spending around U$1.000 per month (A lot in a 3rd world country) with her. All in experiences, I never bought her anything.
This is when all the drama in the world started for me.
She started making drama for everything, girls on instagram, girls from my office, stalking me when I was traveling,etc..etc...
My gut was screaming to leave her. I was getting stomach pain every time she texted me anything like ¨you did not say good night last night, are you with another girl?¨.
I was feeling stressed. She complaints about not going for dinner that often, about not traveling this month,etc...About not banging her so hard like when we started dating.
After 5 more months of extreme sex pleasure and psychological torture I decided to broke things up. I could not handle it anymore. It hurt like crazy, she begged, but it was over.
She made big changes in the meanwhile, she drank less, she stop hanging out with dudes, putting so much pressure, anyway....I was done at this point.
I took all her stuff, putted into a box left it in my living room and when traveling through Argentina, Uruguay for a month.
I banged a Venezuelan chic 3 days after we broke up (Tinder) She gave me hope, I was feeling good for a moment but shredded on the inside.
I cried like a bitch for 10 nights straight. I was still hitting the gym hard, eating right and banging girls. I was also drinking a bottle of Malbec a day.
3 Months after the breakup I am golden. I have a small harem with a 31 year old yoga instructor, an 23 year old actress and a 26 year old SAP consultant.
I am making gains in the gym, bought a sports car, taking care of myself. I had extra U$1.000 a month to blow on protein, trips, whiskey, golf balls,etc...I started renting a room in my apartment through air b and b. Making friends, etc...
At the peak of my GAME and one night after I smoked my late night blunt (9pm) somebody knocks on my door. (December 23rd)
I live in a building complex where you have to check in before going in. She did not checked in and told the concierge (Door guy) that she is my girlfriend and she wants to give me a surprise gift for christmas.
The mother fucker let her in.
This is where the holocaust started.
PART #2 will come in a few minutes, bear with me.
I am writing this post from a beautiful view on the sea, a nicely brewed coffee and an somehow shredded hope of love.
I hope my story helps some forum members so they do not go through this shit like I did.
Background / Beginning of the story:
We are both from South America.
I met my ex girlfriend through Happn dating app. We met in August, 2015. We went for drinks, she is hot!, she is fun!, she is independent!, she makes money and she is cool! I went for the kiss and got it, no bang.
2nd date, we went biking on a park, lay down with a bottle of wine and kiss and hug all afternoon. No bang.
3rd date, went for drinks, came back to my place, escalated like a champ, bang and I let her stay over (First mistake). I had a flight next day for 2 weeks out of the country anyway, wanted some company that night.
I kept it cool and casual, using a lot of G manifesto, Fisto´s posts, text messaging guide,Chateau,etc... I wanted this girl, I wanted to be in a relationship with her, before knowing her better (2nd mistake)
First 2 months and first overseas trip:
We kept dating, things started getting serious. I still had 2 lizards that I was banging constantly on the side while dating her for the first 2 months.
2 Months after meeting i invited her on a weekend trip to Lima. (I am flying +100 flights a year for work so I get a bunch of frequent flier miles and discounts,etc...) We got business class upgrades, she paid for her ticket fees as well as half of the hotel. I took care of the rest. We are banging like there is no tomorrow, doing everything we wanted sexually. This is the best sex partner I had in a few years.
Short story: I am falling for this girl, before knowing her well! I feel connected to her, we talk a lot, about life, about goals,etc...
When we comeback home, she drops the bomb.
¨How many girls have you sleep with since we started dating?
Me: 27
She: haha, funny,
Me: change subject.
She: Come on, tell me.
After a few drinks and a lot of hassle, I told her. I was banging you together with 2 other gals + 1 night stand the first 2 months in.
She flips, do not pick up her phone in days,etc...I did nothing! she comes back after 2 weeks with a calendar, with all the days we have been together and all the days we did not hang out. She wants to know which days I banged another girl, she wants to know if I lie, when I said. Honey, I will hit the gym late tonight, when I was actually banging an actress on the back of my Accent.
MAJOR RED FLAG. Probably the biggest red flag I ignored.
Instead of nexting her ass on the spot. I explain that this is nothing serious yet and I could do whatever I wanted, blah blah...1 week no contact, she comes back apologizing. I say it is OK and we carry on.
I start hanging out with her friends, we go out, we get drunk,etc...
Red flag #1:
She is drinking, A LOT!, more than me. Getting crazy on top of tables, flirting with other dudes. I started drinking even more to not feel bad about her behavior. ¨I can tolerate this ¨If she flirts, I flirt more, if she dances on the table, I go and flirt with her best friend. This was not making me happy. It was making me crazy. I could not sleep at night, I look like shit at work (I am a sales man). This is affecting my life.
Red flag #2:
All her friends are friends from her ex boyfriend (5 year relationship) which talk about him constantly. She is still in contact with her ex! while banging me. They all talk about how cool he was. My stomach trembles, I start to heavily drink to pretend I don´t care.
Red flag #3:
One of her best friends warns me out of the blue. ¨Dude, I don't know you, you seem like a cool cat, watch out for her, she is bat shit crazy¨
At this point I started to fall for a girl who will only bring trouble to my life. I read a lot of forum, youtube, etc... on how to spot a crazy girl. Nothing worked. I was not thinking straight.
I was doomed by the sex, the cooking, the nice dates,etc... (She makes money on her advertising deal and she had no problem in inviting me to nice dinners, hotels, trips,etc...)
She is super manipulative, she had an answer for everything. She used a lot of bullshit to explain her bad behavior (Horoscope, moon cycle, her period,etc...) I bought it all!
After a few months in:
I stopped banging any girls, I wanted to be only with her. She cooks for me, she brings me food to my office, she is cool with my friends, she is hot! she is cool! I like this girl (Pedestal). I started to feel insecure.
After I met her family, friends and we where together for 4 months I asked her to be my girlfriend.
I ignored the fact that there was no father figure (Father cheated on her mom when she was 15) Her brother is an alcoholic, no work, no school, just partying, all her friends are gay dudes, she drinks more than me, she goes out 2-3 times a week to clubs, she is loud and obnoxious, she has 3.000 followers on instagram and all the pics are selfies.
She also told me she has been with 11 dudes in her life. Fucked her ex in a club bathroom and lost her virginity at 15. (This went through my mind through all our 11 month relationship)
She also told me she had depression and goes to a psychologist, after last boyfriend finally broke up with her, she menace to commit suicide.
Jesus, what I was thinking about. It is embarrassing to think that I want this girl in my life. Anyway, I am sharing...
She says no. ¨I want to be your girlfriend, but not yet¨
For me this is know a challenge. I started doing it all, nice places, cool dates, songs, cooking for her, massages, trips,etc...
3 weeks later, she is my girlfriend.
People congratulate me at work, ¨MAN YOUR GIRL IS HOT!¨. I feel secure, proud, she is mine (Ha!). I can get whatever I want!
We go on boat trips, I started spending around U$1.000 per month (A lot in a 3rd world country) with her. All in experiences, I never bought her anything.
This is when all the drama in the world started for me.
She started making drama for everything, girls on instagram, girls from my office, stalking me when I was traveling,etc..etc...
My gut was screaming to leave her. I was getting stomach pain every time she texted me anything like ¨you did not say good night last night, are you with another girl?¨.
I was feeling stressed. She complaints about not going for dinner that often, about not traveling this month,etc...About not banging her so hard like when we started dating.
After 5 more months of extreme sex pleasure and psychological torture I decided to broke things up. I could not handle it anymore. It hurt like crazy, she begged, but it was over.
She made big changes in the meanwhile, she drank less, she stop hanging out with dudes, putting so much pressure, anyway....I was done at this point.
I took all her stuff, putted into a box left it in my living room and when traveling through Argentina, Uruguay for a month.
I banged a Venezuelan chic 3 days after we broke up (Tinder) She gave me hope, I was feeling good for a moment but shredded on the inside.
I cried like a bitch for 10 nights straight. I was still hitting the gym hard, eating right and banging girls. I was also drinking a bottle of Malbec a day.
3 Months after the breakup I am golden. I have a small harem with a 31 year old yoga instructor, an 23 year old actress and a 26 year old SAP consultant.
I am making gains in the gym, bought a sports car, taking care of myself. I had extra U$1.000 a month to blow on protein, trips, whiskey, golf balls,etc...I started renting a room in my apartment through air b and b. Making friends, etc...
At the peak of my GAME and one night after I smoked my late night blunt (9pm) somebody knocks on my door. (December 23rd)
I live in a building complex where you have to check in before going in. She did not checked in and told the concierge (Door guy) that she is my girlfriend and she wants to give me a surprise gift for christmas.
The mother fucker let her in.
This is where the holocaust started.
PART #2 will come in a few minutes, bear with me.
The harder you practice, the luckier you get.