Quote: (06-05-2016 10:19 PM)seaguy87 Wrote:
Hello,
I've been reading ROK for a while now and I've been trying to wrap my mind around some concepts; I hope some of you will be able to help me make the mental links:
1) I was wondering if some men are just naturally alpha and/or have never had to swallow the red pill?
2) I am trying to understand the link between women's hypergamy and their association of sex with emotions. For men, our sexual needs are (primarily) physical. For women, it's (primarily) an emotional need. Is this dichotomy true? If so, how does hypergamy affect their emotional satisfaction?
By alpha, assuming you mean "
self-reliance" Let's talk.
Take two guys, both with similar make-ups and genetics.
One sits on the computer all day long reading manosphere blogs and books on how to be alpha, he's funny, he's charming, he has a way with words. Lets call him "FuckHerInThePussy89". He gets a very good reputation, starts a blog, starts a podcast, writes an ebook saying the same things others have said for the past 10 years etc, even charges for Skype sessions and sells a DVD program entitled "How to be Alpha.". People admire him. He a scholar. He likes this admiration. He likes the money.
Then there is another guy:
Let's say he is in a plane crash , loses his whole family, has to bury his 5 year old daughter to keep the vultures from eating her body. All he has with him is some dry clothes, a rifle, a knife, and a few miscellaneous items. He knows that camp is 20 miles west and it's going to take him a few weeks to get there. He has another daughter at home so he can't give up. In the distance he hears the howls of wolves and the snow is coming.
Assuming guy one ever gets off the computer and guy two survives the wilderness. Which one will spend their life being self-reliant and living a truly masculine role, walking his own path, and not giving a fuck what others think.
So no, I don't think being alpha is natural, it's an acquired trait starting at birth by refusing to fold with the deck of cards that society or God has dealt you. It takes struggle and pain to take on that role and can't be learned by reading. And keep in mind, there is huge difference between being alpha and being popular.
To be perfectly honest with you, If I would take all the guys from the forum that I've met that I would consider alpha. They all have one thing in common. They've been dealt a pretty shitty hand of cards and inside their head is a constant struggle on a constant basis. They all lived a life like guy number 2 but have slightly different stories.
That's my take.