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Gf Saying Some Guy On TV Is 'So Hot'. How Would You React?
03-29-2016, 12:03 PM
I held back from jumping into this thread to see where it was going.
I wasn't surprised.
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Bitches literally say random shit all the fucking time. It never ceases to amaze me what I hear come out of their mouths.
Some of that shit is just literally in the moment, especially with movies, tv, tabloids and all that other bullshit.
You'll never be able to control what a bitch says - you shouldn't.
It should already be ingrained of how a woman acts with you from the get go.
I've never had a woman say anything like that in front of my friends.
They might of said they thing such and such actor is hot which I drop an actress or model I'd love to bang. (In Private)
In the given case of the OP - me being the sarcastic asshole I am, I'd of dropped a funny diss.
"Better step up your game" -with a shit eating grin - would be perfect and right up my ally.
Checks her, makes her hamster spin, and starts qualifying herself.
Your friends will probably laugh, she gets embarrassed. It's a win/win.
She can't come back at you without looking stupid.
Anytime a woman says something annoying I just pull sarcastic asshole comebacks - you know what i get ? A playful slap/punch on my shoulder.
Life goes on, and bitches have ADD and talk about something else a minute later.
Also,
WIA is spot on how this shit is with females.
Think about it - you reacting to her comment like that.
Shows weakness, jealously, and insecurity - over a guy she'll never meet or fuck on TV.
Lashing out on her doesn't do any good. Also doesn't help in front of your friends.
If you have to pull her aside and be "hey babe earlier tonight I didn't like...." like WIA said.
She's rolling her eyes in her head and seeing you as a weaker man.
Sometimes the best reaction is a non reaction or a funny retort.
Getting super alpha red pill brah serious about every little thing she says is crazy.
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Gf Saying Some Guy On TV Is 'So Hot'. How Would You React?
03-29-2016, 12:46 PM
^ Agree.
IF you think the girl is worth keeping around as an LTR, I'd go even further, and lean to the funny retort over the non-reaction. The funny retort sets boundaries that the non-reaction doesn't, but most importantly, it's funny.
"Yeah, he's a good-looking guy. Wasn't he with Kate Upton? Man, I'd love to get my hands on those ... interviews of her." Most importantly, your grin should look exactly like this handsome motherfucker's:
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03-29-2016, 01:22 PM
@kaotic
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If you have to pull her aside and be "hey babe earlier tonight I didn't like...." like WIA said.
Who's saying that? Those were WIA's words.
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You'll never be able to control what a bitch says - you shouldn't.
It should already be ingrained of how a woman acts with you from the get go.
Agreed. The responses here for the most part have been reactive which is missing the larger point here. Tight game is not finding yourself in this situation in the first place. (The situation in the broader sense, meaning finding yourself negatively affected emotionally by something, anything that comes out of her mouth, not this specific situation)
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Bitches literally say random shit all the fucking time. It never ceases to amaze me what I hear come out of their mouths.
"I like turtles" = random comment
"Did you hear what sarah did omg that betch!" = random comment
"That guy is so hot!"
fan gesture = Not random.
There's nothing "random" about the comment she made; it's a deliberate attack on his standing.
@birthdaycat
They are attributing the dismissive, agree and amplify type comments to Roissy, though they are not coming from the same abundance mentality he preaches.
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03-29-2016, 03:07 PM
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How do you know it's a deliberate attack? We know nothing about her body language, tone of voice, if she has been drinking, if she is insecure or jealous, etc.
Have you ever heard a woman who
respects and
admires her man, whom she holds in high esteem speak this way? Me neither.
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She is a woman. Sometimes she gets emotional and sometimes she does dumb things. She might speak before she thinks. She might forget for a split second that she is surrounded by more people than just her 4 girlfriends. She might be jealous because another girl was flirting with her guy and she responds with a comment like that without even knowing why she did it.
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We talk about women being immature, overgrown children, and their actions being dominated by their flighty emotions but as soon as a woman says something negative some of you guys think her brain magically turns into a logical supercomputer that will test a man's "alpha" in every conceivable way.
For a guy who reads a lot of Heartiste you seem to be missing a few of the basics; IE that women are actually very pragmatic in their mate choices, due in part to their constant fitness testing of their men, a topic which your namesake has hammered on relentlessly.
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These automatic assumptions that women are always up to no good and testing you with everything they say and trying to take advantage of you with everything they do - that is the scarcity mindset -
Not scarcity, it's the acceptance of the fact that woman
are in fact hypergamous and that
are in fact running a much different script than we are as far as their sexual strategy is concerned. That's called realism, not "scarcity mentality".
Tolerating disrespect / playing into their frame would fall under scarcity for obvious reasons.
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that is "too much red pill not enough game" - that is why you need to take a break from all the culture wars and theory in the manosphere.
This i certainly agree with.
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03-29-2016, 04:06 PM
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If it was just me and her i wouldn't give it a second thought.
Last night however i had a couple of people over. Some random show was playing on the muted TV & she said "Oooooh wow, he is soo hot" and did that hand fan to the face theatrical gesture. I pretended not to have heard or seen anything but everybody's eyes in the room darted towards me to gauge my reaction. Kept it cool and finished my cigarette.
It was one of those situations where if i said something I'd be dubbed as insecure and the fact that i didn't say anything was slightly value lowering as well.
What would you have done?
Yeah. He is hot. Kinda like Ricky Martin. I bet they both suck a mean dick.
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03-29-2016, 09:24 PM
Not to sound Internet Tough Guy, but...
I would have half-smirked, raised an eyebrow, and cooly examined her.
I'm not the sort of guy you have to worry about when I'm emotional; I'm the sort of guy you need to worry about when I'm calm. If you piss me off enough to get me angry, it means I still care about you and I'm not going to hurt you; if you piss me off enough to make me calm, it means that I now consider you a threat, or an enemy, or a liability. I go into survival mode, and I don't care two figs about how it affects you.
After the friends left, best case scenario, I would have told her that if she every broadcasts that she's a slut in public again that I'm done with her. If she doesn't like being called a slut for squirting pussy juice in public like a cat in heat then that's her problem. Worst case I immediately next her, and come up with an excuse to kick her out the door.
That sort of behaviour is way out of line.
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03-29-2016, 09:43 PM
One thing I think we're disregarding here is the frame of the relationship... *before* all of this happened.
I don't think girls come out of the blue with highly disrespectful behaviour. It's usually a progression. If you've allowed minor disrespect in the past, it's possible that it's escalated to this point.
A girl that's strongly into you and fully accepting of your frame wouldn't disrespect you by mistake. If were a slip of the tongue, she'd correct herself instantly.
I'm no master on this topic by that's my 2c.
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03-29-2016, 09:49 PM
I'd just point out how hot some actress on TV is; if she gets angry over you doing the same thing as her then that's a bad sign, and I would be leery about seriously dating her.
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03-29-2016, 09:51 PM
Women like the security of a man who can put them in their place and check them when they misbehave.
If she can walk all over him, how can he protect her and her family? How can he stand up to other guys? They will intentionally try to push your buttons to see what you're made of.
Hell, this isn't exclusive to women. It's common throughout all walks of life, it's part of human nature. As young as two, kids will test their parents to see what they can get away with. Even adults do it at the office and at the bar. People are always pushing limits.
If a chick openly disrespects me, we both know exactly what she's doing.
I can tolerate a lot, but disrespect is one of those I can't. If it's someone I could care less about, I laugh it off, ghost, and never think about it again. If it's a close friend or someone I've already established rapport with, it's a different story.
I don't think coming up with a witty line would work for my personality, it would just feel like I'm deflecting and forgiving her shitty behavior, and I'd feel weaker as a result. I know some of you guys can pull it off with detached confidence but I don't think I could.
If I'm being openly disrespected by someone that I've spent time with and established some level of trust with, its going to affect me and I'm gonna say something about it. At that point her options are to fall in line, or walk.
There's a right way and wrong way to go about it. If I were to go to her with some weak ass Dr Phil "Honey, we need to talk about our feelings, I was really hurt when you blah blah" of course she's gonna see me as a bitch, rightly so. On the flipside, I can look her dead in the eyes and tell her I know exactly what she's doing, and I won't tolerate disrespect from anyone. She can either cut that shit out, or get the fuck out.
To give absolutely zero fucks about anything a woman does will show them you have options and she's replaceable. It will play into her insecurities and make her wanna chase what she can't get for a while. And she will also know you don't give a fuck about her. I don't know if I'd want to keep a woman around who realizes that and still kept the chase alive.
I think women crave a sense of being owned by a powerful man. Checking her bad behavior shows her that yes, you care enough about her that she can push your buttons, but no, you won't let her walk over you. It shows that you've got standards, and you're ready to drop her over them if she gets out of line. If she respects you at all, she will be afraid of losing you. Fear and power are related, and power is an aphrodisiac to women. Shit testing is part of a woman's nature, and will happen at some point to men that aren't ultra alpha players. If she learns her lesson and shapes up, she's worth keeping around a while longer; if not, she's worth dropping.
Disappointing to say, but the norm for women's behavior is so shitty right now, it's almost never even worth the effort.
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03-29-2016, 10:49 PM
I'm not exactly sure how my words got so twisted around by others.
WIA, you're conflating insecurity with self respect.
I have self-respect and I won't be around people or allow them to be part of my life if they disrespect me.
I will tell them about it and expect them to either shape up or I'll ship them right out of my life.
It's not about control at all, it's about self-respect and not wanting to waste my time.
I've had these conversations with parents, siblings, coworkers, plates, LTRs, neighbors, etc...
It's essentially making it clear what I will tolerate and cutting ties if it continues. It's a win/win outcome either way.
It's not, "my feewings are hurt when you talk about that guy" it's about making sure my expectations are clear.
I've learned the hard way that you can't control anyone; the only person in life you can control is yourself. A crucial lesson in life.
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03-29-2016, 11:20 PM
Somebody said something about a threesome earlier..
"Really? We should get ahold of him and have a threesome. An old fashioned spit roast. Maybe we can even get him to invite one or two of his buddies"
I would not be able to say this without laughing, which is basically claiming the stronger frame. Also you're underhandedly calling her a slut in front of her friends.
I probably wouldn't be able to think of this on the fly.
Edit: "he looks like a faggot to me" cue collective gasps at the F word
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03-30-2016, 07:09 AM
Two tenets to keep in mind:
1. Never ever be affected by what a girl says. Or at least let it be seen.
2. Encourage positive behavior, discourage negative behavior.
What this girl said isn't the most horrible thing in the world and she doesn't need to be checked on the spot. But, I wouldn't go so far as to say it is a neutral statement. It is in my eyes, without a shadow of a doubt, a negative statement. Ask yourself, does your ideal girl do this? And yes, I will say I have met and dated girls who would never, ever do this. Let's not pretend this is normal behavior.
You don't have to go scorched earth. But she'd lose some mental points with me. It would definitely change the way I treat her. Something like that would get her closer into simply being a girl in my rotation as opposed to my full-fledged girlfriend. Because I don't date girls who make it a habit to poke and prod your ego and masculinity in front of their friends.
Imagine her as a wife. Yeesh.