Quote: (10-31-2015 10:34 PM)zombiejimmorrison Wrote:
That's exactly what it should be, negotiation. Talking about the problem and why the kid isn't listening would be a good start. Asking them questions and explaining things to them as clear as possible would be a great way to teach kids civility and naturally they'd feel shame.
Have you been paying attention?
I guarantee you none of those actors were ever reprimanded for their behaviour as children.
There's a widespread naive assumption - built out of Lesbian Subversion of Education in the 70's - that assumes all children are Good and Rational actors. This simply isn't true. Michael Jackson would spout this kind of thing: "There's nothing more pure and innocent than the mind of a child". Of course he thought that, he was pedastalising them whilst trying to fuck them. Dude was
thirsty.
I've known many children that I would simply consider Evil in both thought and action, and it's not always as simple as 'they were beaten / abused so are just re-enacting what they've learnt'. That's 80's Leftist Subversion of Criminal Justice speaking. Some kids, unfortunately, are just wired differently. A larger majority have the potential to be bad, but are easily controlled into comforming to authority.
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That sounds ridiculous. Words are enough to provide structure especially to young kids who are bound by their biology.
I've found that with no negative consequences, many kids simply learn how to use their words of apology to lie and to emotionally-manipulate. Girls are wonderful at this: big eyes, trembling lips, fake tears. Accuser backs down, punishment avoided, authority figure goes away, performance instantly stops: "Stupid cunt thinks she can tell me what to do."
You have to understand, under the age of nine, conceptions of 'Right' or 'Wrong' are determined by what you get punished for. This then develops to a realisation that rewards mean you are doing what others want. This is where children learn to fake concern for others because it is in their self-interest to do so. It comes from a place of selfishness.
In adolescence, the conception of good becomes
what pleases others, and the
majority opinion defines what is good. Now place a child amongst a group of peers who positively-reward disobedience, violence and theft. They won't realise they're being 'bad'.
I believe SJW's are trapped in this adolescent stage of morality, hence 'the ends justify the means'. They're mentally-incapable of recognising their dogpiling, lying, fascist behaviour is evil.
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They do understand wrong from right
Except there are children who don't except your binary moral system. They understand that there's
theoretical right or wrong, but they don't care about transgressing to chase their desires, they simply care about avoiding punishment, and quickly learn how to do so. This is why the Feminist notion that you can teach Rapists not to Rape is ridiculous. They know it's theoretically bad, but don't care.
This ties back to my four rules of predicting female behaviour, which I believe are suggestive of an adolescent moral system, and probably explains why most women never mentally leave high school.:
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Rule #1: Everything I want, I believe I deserve.
Rule #2: What's the least amount of effort I can expend to get what I believe I deserve as quickly as possible?
Rule #3: If the quickest and laziest route to achieving what I believe I deserve would require serious moral or social transgressions, then those rules don't apply to me, because of how righteously-deserving I am.
Rule #4: If I am stigmatised for any moral or social transgressions in the righteous pursuit of what I believe I deserve, then what is the least amount of effort I can expend to defuse criticism, deflect blame or escape punishment?
You can see that some actors
willingly choose to transgress to achieve their desires.
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most adults aren't hitting each other to resolve disputes.
Yet most societies have police and armies who use physical force to enact the will of the government, supposedly in the interests of the people. All coerced behaviour is due to a form of threat.
Jack Donovan has a great piece on this:
Violence Is Golden
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More to the point hitting a kid is not self defense, it's assault. The morals don't magically change because you get older.
There's a vast difference between genuine child abuse, where one of my father's punches would throw me halfway across the room into a wall, and what the majority used to experience: bad transgression,
light spanking. Lesbians in Education in the 70's put forward the idea that
all forms of physical spanking were extremely-abusive, and therefore Evil, (which doesn't explain why Lesbian couples experience such high rates of physical abuse from partners). It simply didn't reflect the reality.
I actually think hitting works really well in controlling behaviour because children are so unresilient to pain. As such, little force is needed: what they're experiencing as Catastrophic Abuse is simply a light smack. I dreaded needles as a kid, now, it's just a needle. Same concept. One of my defining moments in my childhood was taking a hard punch to the jaw that floored me, then realising it's just pain - why had I been so scared of feeling it that I let bullies push me around? Most progressive and rich kids never experience this realisation because they're never hit, and, as such, it all becomes about intellectual evasion of punishment, thus, right or wrong behaviour becomes what you can justify to those around you. Always an excuse.
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Oh really, so the black kid in the video was never hit? I wonder where he learned that instead of negotiating like an adult you just lose control and start hitting someone to get them to change their behavior.
Most likely, he realised, like the majority of the human and animal world, you can get compliance through threat of violence. One doesn't have to experience personal violence to know this. One simply has to observe the reality of the world.
Be a Pacifist if you want, but eventually, you will come up against an Irrational Actor who doesn't believe in binary morality. They will use violence to enact their will on you and those around you, and if you're not willing to meet them with the same level of violence, you're the victim.
The simplest way to avoid being a target is to look like you're a threat, simply because their behaviour is motivated by avoiding punishment. It's simple psychology.